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I’ve grown all my pubic hair back and I love it!

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BuffaloCauliflower · 14/06/2019 21:03

Sorry I know this is a weird post, but I’m 31 and have a full bush for the first time since I was 14, and I need to talk about it.
I started shaving pretty much as soon as I had hair, I was sexually active at 14, and despite a lot of professed feminism I had clearly internalised something about a need to remove my public hair. I’ve been bare or maybe the odd strip ever since 14.

A couple of weeks ago I somehow flicked the telly over onto Naked Attraction (what the hell is that show?!) and noticed a whole line up of totally pubicly bald women, and had such a strong reaction. We’re adult women! We’re meant to have hair! What was I doing? So I’ve left it all to grow back and honestly it feels so good. It’s all soft and nice and I feel weirdly sexy, how did I never realise before?

All women should absolutely do what they want with their own bodies and their own hair, I’ve argued long and hard for why I shaved, so please don’t take this as a judgement, but as an adult woman with my natural hair for the first time ever, I’m feeling so liberated and just wanted to share!

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SlipperOrchid · 15/06/2019 09:28

5. No peeping out pubes from knickers or swimmies. And no, I don’t want to wear a skirt for swimming.
I'm not really bothered if a pube makes it's way out of my knickers, and I've never had an issue with swim wear.

This for me is the big one. I absolutely do not want to see my hair or for anyone else to see my hair when I’m wearing a swimsuit.

PS I can’t seem to bold anything anymore, has it changed from asterisks?

imarocketman50 · 15/06/2019 09:30

The only thing I shave is under my arms. Almost no hair on my legs so I need.

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Echobelly · 15/06/2019 09:38

Never shaved mine... occasionally tidied up the sides a wee bit when going to some kinky parties Wink but always been a tad icked out by shaved ladyparts tbh. DH is fine with it, indeed quite likes it. I haven't had many sexual partners in my life, but no one's had a problem with me not shaving, but then I am 41, I'm kinda guessing it's really rare under my age (I know it's somewhat unusual at my age)

AltogetherAndrews · 15/06/2019 09:53

I used to go full bush, but as I have got older it has become patchy and thin. I now shave nearly all of it off, because quite frankly I enjoy sex much more that way, I found it almost too sensitive to touch when there was hair and now it’s much better. I really don’t look childlike at all.

I understand all the pressures and I think things would be so much better if women actually had free choice without fear of judgement, and I know that we don’t have that. But I also know that I personally prefer things the way I do it, and if I preferred the feeling with hair, I would go full bush again.

notso · 15/06/2019 09:57

This for me is the big one. I absolutely do not want to see my hair or for anyone else to see my hair when I’m wearing a swimsuit.
I understand, I recently had a moment of horror when I realised my pool has underwater cameras and I had adjusted my swimming costume directly infront of it. However I choose swimwear that stands the least chance of doing so, shorts or low cuts and have not had issues.

over50andfab · 15/06/2019 10:01

Thanks for the replies on suggested strimmers- might invest in a beard one - men’s shaving products are always much better than women’s anyway - resistant greys have a lot to answer for!

Have decided I’m never getting a full wax - Reading other threads on here it might decide to never grow back!

PineappleTits · 15/06/2019 10:12

There is nothing better than a red hot bath, all over body shave and whipping the pubes off with a brand new razor. I leave mine to grow for a week on my period and by the end of it I'm clawing at my vag because it's itchy and gross. Each to their own, I don't understand the big thing with women on MN and body hair. If you want to be hairy then be hairy. If you want to shave then shave. I don't think anyone gives a shit, and I certainly don't know anyone in real life that shaves or doesn't shave to make a man happy.

Manclife1 · 15/06/2019 10:12

@IAmAlwaysLikeThis

Are boys seriously feeling like they have to wax everything, asshole included?

Yep

www.menshealth.com/uk/style/grooming/a747096/q-whats-the-best-way-to-shave-my-balls-463562/

BuffaloCauliflower · 15/06/2019 10:17

@MrsHardbroom I really cannot care if a random man I can’t see and is nowhere near me is having a wank off my lighthearted comments about pubic hair! This really doesn’t harm me in any way.

@crazyasafox - yes maybe, why not?! I think it does is good to talk about these things. Particularly as highlighted in this thread the fact so many women feel a pressure to do things or be a certain way, if we don’t talk about it how will things change?

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BuffaloCauliflower · 15/06/2019 10:19

@PineappleTits I felt this way about the itch. I argued many times that I kept it shaved because I have sensory issues (I do) and couldn’t stand the itch. Now I’ve left it for a few weeks, except a trim, and it’s got to a comfortable length, there’s no itch at all. It’s that part regrowth that itches not the hair overall

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80sMum · 15/06/2019 10:21

It never occurred to me to shave down there! The hair is there to protect your private little bits from infection, and isn't it a bit weird and creepy to want to look like a little girl?

^ I agree! It does seem rather a peculiar thing to want to look like a small child. The thought makes me feel rather uncomfortable. I would wonder what my partner was fantasising about (children?) during sex if he wanted me to be hairless.

justbeniceplease · 15/06/2019 10:22

Are you fucking stupid?

JacquesHammer · 15/06/2019 10:26

I agree! It does seem rather a peculiar thing to want to look like a small child. The thought makes me feel rather uncomfortable. I would wonder what my partner was fantasising about (children?) during sex if he wanted me to be hairless

Is the only thing that differentiates you from a child your pubic hair?!

PineappleTits · 15/06/2019 10:29

@BuffaloCauliflower yes I imagine it is, I don't have sensitive skin but I do notice that I have lots of flaky dry skin when it's growing back and I'm scratching. I imagine the constant shaving over the skin doesn't help the dryness either. I used to just shave the underneath and bikini line when I was younger and trim the pubes short, but I've found I much prefer it all just gone Smile

redspider1 · 15/06/2019 10:32

Well done OP , hair all the way!

BuffaloCauliflower · 15/06/2019 10:33

@PineappleTits good Smile whatever works for you. I also love the smooth, it’s just feeling so different having something I’ve literally never had

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DragonMamma · 15/06/2019 10:34

I’m quite surprised at how many people sport a full bush.

I’m mid-30s and most people I’ve discussed it with, don’t have a bush.

I don’t shave, that would be horrendous and itchy. I get a hot wax every 4 weeks and have it all whipped off. They give you an exfoliating glove to be used after a few days and some cream to keep your skin hydrated and I’ve not had an itch or ingrown hair since.

I certainly don’t look childlike (my childbearing hips put paid to that) and there’s no better feeling than a freshly waxed arsehole Wink

My DH doesn’t wax but he trims with a body trimmer.

80sMum · 15/06/2019 10:38

Is the only thing that differentiates you from a child your pubic hair?!
Grin Haha! I guess not! I see your point, but it still seems very strange to me.

TheAngryLlama · 15/06/2019 10:46

“There’s no better feeling than a freshly waxed arsehole.”
I’m sorry, I refuse to believe that anyone’s life could be so lacking in pleasure as to make that a true statement. It’s just too depressing.

DragonMamma · 15/06/2019 10:53

It’s obviously tongue in cheek. Hence the wink Wink

It’s pretty good though.

Iggi999 · 15/06/2019 10:53

Deciding to keep body hair is not a feminist issue but neither is removing it a feminist issue either. It’s a lifestyle choice
Lifestyle choices are now something different to moral issues? Every day’s a school day.

agirlhasnonameX · 15/06/2019 10:53

I wish I could do the same OP. I've been shaving and waxing since I was the same age.

I don't do it because it's itchy, it makes me feel cleaner to have none, but I've realised recently this is probably due to something I've internalised too and I know it's not logical, but just can't seem to shake it out my head.

It's soooo boring shaving/waxing, legs and pits included, I hate it. I wish I could just let it all grow out and not care, would save me so much time.

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