I’ve grown all my pubic hair back and I love it!

[BuffaloCauliflower]

Sorry I know this is a weird post, but I’m 31 and have a full bush for the first time since I was 14, and I need to talk about it.
I started shaving pretty much as soon as I had hair, I was sexually active at 14, and despite a lot of professed feminism I had clearly internalised something about a need to remove my public hair. I’ve been bare or maybe the odd strip ever since 14.

A couple of weeks ago I somehow flicked the telly over onto Naked Attraction (what the hell is that show?!) and noticed a whole line up of totally pubicly bald women, and had such a strong reaction. We’re adult women! We’re meant to have hair! What was I doing? So I’ve left it all to grow back and honestly it feels so good. It’s all soft and nice and I feel weirdly sexy, how did I never realise before?

All women should absolutely do what they want with their own bodies and their own hair, I’ve argued long and hard for why I shaved, so please don’t take this as a judgement, but as an adult woman with my natural hair for the first time ever, I’m feeling so liberated and just wanted to share!

Are these other women jealous and insecure because they haven't got the nerve to shave all their pubes off or something???

I doubt it really.

I can only guess they judge other women harshly in general for making different choices to their own?

Weird though and also not fair on their daughters/sons if they have teens or young adults.

@crazyasafox I don’t actually want to shave - more of an all-over trim. I did buy a ladies gadget a bit like a beard trimmer I think with a guard on it but it seemed to take forever . I feel a razor, even if just used gently, wouldn’t quite work as well.

For those of you that don't shave/have never shaved, are hairs visible when you are wearing a swimsuit? My hair grows on the inside of my upper thighs as well and I would look like a bear if I just trimmed but didn't shave. Shaving gives me loads of little red spots that take a day or two to go down and I would prefer not to shave at all.

I've shaved once in my life, I actually liked the smooth feel and increased sensitivity but not enough to do it again.

Hate blood getting stuck in pubic hair but again doesn't bother me enough to remove the hair.

No hair poking out, but I don't have huge amounts of hair anyway but everyone is different.

The only time my pubic hair was shaved was before C section with DD who is now late 20s. This was not a fashion when we were young and usually only done for medical reasons.

Imagine my surprise when planning for a recent Hip Replacement, to be told that shaving beforehand was an absolute NO. They were not willing to accept that there might be any cuts to the skin, as this might cause infection to enter the area. So I now have my new hip and pubic hair is still intact.

Manclife internet porn became a thing in the 1990s, FYI.

@SlipperOrchid I have a swimsuit with a little skirt attached! Maybe if someone looked hard enough they'd see hair. Oh well [shrug]

Mine fell out after the menopause. I hate it and it makes me feel sick to see myself looking like an elderly little girl.

@over50andfab I use an actual beard strimmer. Quick and easy with a guard on.

My DH trims and he’s in his 50’s. loads of men do nowadays. I personally hate having a bush. Feels dirty to me

It's never too long before someone on Mumsnet makes the silly 'pre-pubescent' dig and this thread (just like the 100 others) certainly didn't disappoint.

I was coming on this thread to say just this.

Leave people do what they want. Bush, no bush, trimmed; there is no right or wrong way.

I think and hope we will look back on this era of pube waxing one day with the same bemusement as we know look back at corsets and foot binding.
Some things are just .... going too far. No ones doing that “for themselves.” Total BS.

I'm the opposite with the itching. I have sensitive skin and if I shave then my skin gets red and inflamed and itchy.
I just leave it

I dont think its actually always meant as a dig. I dont think people all realise what a culture shift has happened.

Im in my 40s and genuinely until the mumsnet threads thought only the odd person removed pubic hair. I assumed noone I did as it would be an odd thing to do. Im in the older group of people for whom it was never really a consideration.

Ive been married a long time so not on the dating scene, became aware it was a fashion but I dont watch porn.

In my life the only people I was aware of without hair would be small girls. In a world preshaving that's the only people really who wouldnt have hair (and those just about to have a baby - the indignity if having to shave!)

Obviously now (especially since reading all the mn threads) Im aware in my brain that removing hair is now the norm to the extent people feel embarrassed if they dont. But that's an alien idea to me. I would still feel its little girls that dont have hair as when I grew up and in my early 20s that would have been the case!! A difference between adult and child like growing breasts etc.

Of course I realise now its a look lots of young people want and fine for them to want it. But genuinely in my head its linked with porn and young girls, even though logically I now know thats not the case.

It really was different for a lot of older people who just kept their hair and didnt realise the fashion had changed.

Get your fuzz on and be proud. It'll fall out again when you get older.

Whaaaaat? Really?

@Bluebluered

You're not keeping it real - you're trying to censor it.

If a few weirdos want to get their kicks off this thread, fine.

It's great that women can chat about this stuff nowadays - not sure anyone would dare previously.

If any pervert manages to get excited by this thread good luck to him. The pickings seem rather thin to me but what do I know?

@TheAngryLlama I totally disagree! I 100% get it waxed for me. My husband couldn’t care less. It feels way more comfortable. More hygienic (to me) and I just prefer it. I don’t spend ages gazing at my naked body so not really bothered how it looks! But I get a full wax every few weeks purely for me.

So, on some of the logic here, people have hairy armpits and hairy legs too?

Deciding to keep body hair is not a feminist issue but neither is removing it a feminist issue either. It’s a lifestyle choice.

From a personal point of view l’m in my 40s, been smooth since my teens and shave with hair conditioner as part of my daily showe routine. Sex partners have been varied over the years, it’s not done for anyone else, it’s done for me, and here’s why.

1. Importantly, it increases sensitivity.

1. Less sweaty.

1. I prefer my appearance that way.

1. Cleaner during periods.

1. No peeping out pubes from knickers or swimmies. And no, I don’t want to wear a skirt for swimming.

1. Oral - I don’t expect a partner to have a mouthfull of hair.

Finally, it does not make me look like a child any more than removing underarm hair makes me look like a child. My hips, breasts, vulva are not childlike in appearance.

I don't really agree with the idea that a hairless adult vagina is childlike. An adult vagina looks very different to a child's, even without the hair. But that's just my opinion, I know a lot of people disagree.

I am currently sporting a full bush because I'm so pregnant that I can't see what's going on down there! I have to admit that I'm not loving it. It's ok for now but I am looking forward to being able to wax a lot of it off after the baby comes (with a grace period for my poor vajayjay to recover from birth, of course...)

Fascinating how two people's experiences are so different.

1. Importantly, it increases sensitivity.
I've never noticed any difference in fact when I was shaved and with a shaved guy the friction was unpleasant.

2. Less sweaty.
More sweaty, uncomfortably so in hot weather. I find I had to change underwear several times.

3. I prefer my appearance that way.
Certainly not the case for me after 4 kids! Probably best hidden.

4. Cleaner during periods.
Not noticed any difference but I use mooncup which I find never leaks. I can see with pads things might be different but I hate the idea of them so never have aside from after childbirth.

5. No peeping out pubes from knickers or swimmies. And no, I don’t want to wear a skirt for swimming.
I'm not really bothered if a pube makes it's way out of my knickers, and I've never had an issue with swim wear.

6. Oral - I don’t expect a partner to have a mouthfull of hair.
Seeing as my sexual partners haven't cared if my mouth comes into contact with pubic hair I'm not really bothered if they do. Granted I've been with DH for 20 years and he doesn't remove any hair but prior to then I've only encountered one guy who shaved.

@LyingWitchInTheWardrobe - I love you! . Such sound words.

The “pre-pubescent” comments seriously make me question the intelligence of people who think that.

Is pubic hair seriously the only difference between an adult woman and a child?

What utter bunkum.

If a bloke told me he thought no pubic hair felt like sleeping with a child he simply wouldn’t be attractive any more. Stupidity isn’t a turn on.

Those with a bush are less likely to get sexually transmitted diseases and other localised bacterial and viral infections.

(More research needed though)

www.theguardian.com/society/2016/dec/13/pubic-hair-grooming-sexually-transmitted-infections-study

sti.bmj.com/content/93/3/162

clinicaltrials.gov/ct2/show/NCT03272204

@over50andfab I use a Braun ladyshave with a guard on over the front bit, then whip the guard off and do my 'undercarriage'. If I'm going swimming or away on holiday I'll either use Immac or have a wax just on the edges to prevent spiders legs escaping out of my cossie.