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I’ve grown all my pubic hair back and I love it!

315 replies

BuffaloCauliflower · 14/06/2019 21:03

Sorry I know this is a weird post, but I’m 31 and have a full bush for the first time since I was 14, and I need to talk about it.
I started shaving pretty much as soon as I had hair, I was sexually active at 14, and despite a lot of professed feminism I had clearly internalised something about a need to remove my public hair. I’ve been bare or maybe the odd strip ever since 14.

A couple of weeks ago I somehow flicked the telly over onto Naked Attraction (what the hell is that show?!) and noticed a whole line up of totally pubicly bald women, and had such a strong reaction. We’re adult women! We’re meant to have hair! What was I doing? So I’ve left it all to grow back and honestly it feels so good. It’s all soft and nice and I feel weirdly sexy, how did I never realise before?

All women should absolutely do what they want with their own bodies and their own hair, I’ve argued long and hard for why I shaved, so please don’t take this as a judgement, but as an adult woman with my natural hair for the first time ever, I’m feeling so liberated and just wanted to share!

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Beautiful3 · 14/06/2019 22:43

I've always had a hairy bush. I trim it with a bikini groomer once a month. I only shaved it all off once, I wondered what on earth I'd done. It itched like mad growing back. Never again. My boyfriend said it felt wrong...like he was having sex with a child!

prettyinpink23x · 14/06/2019 22:44

If a partner or husband feels like hes having sex with a child if his partner is shaved that says more about him. My boyfriend is shaved and I don't feel like I'm sleeping with a young boy...

Rainatnight · 14/06/2019 22:47

I have full 70s bush and love it. Make myself be bothered to Veet my bikini line if I’m going swimming/on hols.

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Manclife1 · 14/06/2019 22:48

@Wonderbread

Women didn’t really get rid of pubic hair until the advent of internet porn. Hence a lot of women 40 and over still have hair.

Really? Been happening for centuries and became popular in Europe during the 1990's well be for the prevalence of internet porn.

GettickledGETTICKLEDbyspiders · 14/06/2019 22:49

My full bush is due to laziness rather than a statement. It’s been a looooonnnngggg time since I shaved it. There could be people and animals living in it for all I know.

MsMustDoBetter · 14/06/2019 22:52

I'm also sporting as nature intended as a bush lash against porn influencing femininity.

Really I'm just lazy, but we'll pass it off as feminism.

over50andfab · 14/06/2019 22:58

Never waxed (feel I should wax some part of me at some point though just for the experience!) and only ever done my bikini line when swimming/going on holiday. However I’ve recently taken to trimming down the length a little seeing as there’s so much grey in there now Sad

I’m also dating and would like to trim down the undercarriage/round the back a bit. As I feel scissors and contortioning in front of the mirror might result in serious harm, can anyone suggest a tried and tested strimmer for the job?

HennyPennyHorror · 14/06/2019 22:59

As Samantha from Sex and the City calls it "A full bush" is best.

I've also heard it called a "Power Bush"

I haven't ever felt the need to get rid....love it and so have all the men I've been with. DH loves it too.

Bahhhhhumbug · 14/06/2019 23:06

I once wrote a letter to a well known publication and took a copy. I read it back proudly after posting it and to my horror the suggestion that 'we need to raise pubic awareness' leapt off the page. Thank god for proof readers, it got published but thankfully had been corrected.

Spanielmadness · 14/06/2019 23:16

I’m not a doctor or expert in any way, but my understanding is that when a female reaches sexual maturity her genitalia changes - the pubis becomes raised and the labia and clitoris develop more fully. I don’t think any adult female genitalia resemble a prepubescent child (and I am a naturist and therefore have seen a lot!)
The insistence that shaving or waxing instantly renders you child-like would indicate we all have barbiedoll genitals and pubic hair is the only way to differentiate between adult and child females.

TwoShades1 · 14/06/2019 23:18

I’m the opposite! I was very sick at the start of my pregnancy and couldn’t keep up with my waxing. I found a full bush to be very itchy and caused some chafing as well as occasional hairs poking through my gym leggings! Shock I couldn’t wait to be well enough to get it all waxed off again, felt so much more comfortable afterwards.

YippeeKayakOtherBuckets · 14/06/2019 23:21

I stopped shaving everywhere in January this year for a laugh (januhairy) and I’ve never looked back. I’ve done my legs in the last few weeks for skirts but my armpits apparently aren’t that hairy even though I used to shave them every day, and my bush and general area feel SO much nicer.

MrsHardbroom · 14/06/2019 23:22

That's great but in discussing it you are inadvertently providing wank fodder for the many pervs that appear to stalk these boards

IAmAlwaysLikeThis · 14/06/2019 23:25

"Really? Been happening for centuries and became popular in Europe during the 1990's well be for the prevalence of internet porn."

Oh please, until around the mid to late 2000s, it was considered kinky and odd to shave everything and you know it. Of course some people did it, but some people also put the milk in before the tea and we don't say that's the usual state of things.

I trim a little, only because we live in a hot country and it does get sweaty if I don't. Otherwise, it's full bush ahead and I will never change.

When I was single, it was useful as a barometer for unworthy men. If he commented on how gross it was (rare), then it was time to show him the door.

My husband couldn't care less about any body hair, pubes, legs, pits, moustache, whatever. If I'm happy, he's happy which is how it should be.

I'm sad that it's become completely normalised to spend so much time and money on this practice. And then everyone comes out and goes "it's my chooooice."

Yes and what a massive coincidence that your choice is the same as 90% of women and plays into exactly what heterosexual men find appealing.

IAmAlwaysLikeThis · 14/06/2019 23:27

"in discussing it you are inadvertently providing wank fodder for the many pervs that appear to stalk these boards"

Yes, the women must not discuss anything relating to sex, lest the men should hear.

Smellbellina · 14/06/2019 23:30

I have all my hair, body and head, however I like. The idea that shaved genitalia is prepubescent like is not as ridiculous as pp suggested, few male adults are naturists and/or have spent much time looking at prepubescent/pubescent/adult genitals to know the subtle or not so subtle differences between the two (you would hope) bar pubic hair. Either way, I have no interest in wearing my hair on my body in any fashion other than that which strikes my fancy on any given day.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 14/06/2019 23:31

Beautiful3, you're being incredibly offensive and I wonder why you'd even post that about your boyfriend. Having sex with a child? Yuck. You and he both. What a vile proposition.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 14/06/2019 23:32

MrsHardbroom, Yep, I think there are a few on the thread too.

Squigglesworth · 14/06/2019 23:33

Before reading threads on this topic on MN, I assumed that serious shaving/waxing was more of a fetish or niche interest/behaviour and definitely not the norm. I am 40, so maybe that has something to do with it, since it does seem to have gone more mainstream among younger women.

Of course I support women's right to handle their hair as they please, but that story about the trainee doctor suggesting that the presence of natural hair in and of itself was a potential sign of something amiss is simply shocking!

And while I wouldn't tell other women what to do with their hair (pubic or otherwise), I do hope the trend swings back toward natural. It's sad that some feel they have to remove it due to some form of peer pressure.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 14/06/2019 23:42

Squigglesworth, that trainee was put straight by the attending doctor. Why is that not enough? People say stupid things all the time without there being a necessity for jumping up to put some kind of arbitrary 'ban' on an activity that every person has the right to decide to do - or not do - for themselves.

We speak up for rights of women, well that door swings both ways - except here, on Mumsnet where women who remove their hair are referred to in the most odious and insulting terms.

Challenge the people who are rude about you (general), who impinge on your freedoms, don't impose and encroach on other people's freedom. Don't watch porn and don't entertain the company or the views of people who do if that's what you want, but heckling a woman's right to have her body as she wants whilst paying lip-service to her freedom is a bit shit, really it is.

My post is general to the thread, not aimed at you apart from the first paragraph.

MrsHardbroom · 14/06/2019 23:49

'Yes, the women must not discuss anything relating to sex, lest the men should hear.'

It's a sad fact that there are some topics on MN that attract the wrong types. Lots of people don't realise this - surely better to be informed before you choose to post personal details. Once you know, it is of course up to you whether you wish to share details of the appearance of your genitals at the age of 14 etc.

Peregrina · 14/06/2019 23:52

Back in the seventies and eighties we campaigned not to be shaved when going into hospital to give birth. So it most definitely wasn't the practice then to be bald.

Hazybobs · 14/06/2019 23:53

I never get all the fuss with this. I’m a midwife and bit of a naturist so can say categorically that there’s no common type, although I’d say generally the younger women we see probably tend to be less hairy, as do most of the women I’ve seen in naturist places. Personally, I feel cleaner when I’m cleanly waxed, either completely all off or just a small strip left but just do whatever you feel comfortable with.

cheesemongery · 14/06/2019 23:55

There was an episode of Gogglebox where they showed an episode of naked attraction and I was quite shocked at the two new young girls exclaiming ewww she's got hair!

It never occurred to me that the porn look is the norm.

Mine have all thinned and falling out anyway - I used to have a massive bush!

WorraLiberty · 14/06/2019 23:56

I think the bald look is very weird. It reminds me of my niece aged 5. I won't sleep with anyone who likes it bald and refuse to shave/wax because it seems a bit perverted to me?

I think your niece needs to see a doctor if her pubic region resembles that of an adult woman. Especially if the adult woman has had children.

Otherwise it should just remind you of an adult woman who has simply removed her hair from her pubic region.