I’ve grown all my pubic hair back and I love it!

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Sorry I know this is a weird post, but I’m 31 and have a full bush for the first time since I was 14, and I need to talk about it.
I started shaving pretty much as soon as I had hair, I was sexually active at 14, and despite a lot of professed feminism I had clearly internalised something about a need to remove my public hair. I’ve been bare or maybe the odd strip ever since 14.

A couple of weeks ago I somehow flicked the telly over onto Naked Attraction (what the hell is that show?!) and noticed a whole line up of totally pubicly bald women, and had such a strong reaction. We’re adult women! We’re meant to have hair! What was I doing? So I’ve left it all to grow back and honestly it feels so good. It’s all soft and nice and I feel weirdly sexy, how did I never realise before?

All women should absolutely do what they want with their own bodies and their own hair, I’ve argued long and hard for why I shaved, so please don’t take this as a judgement, but as an adult woman with my natural hair for the first time ever, I’m feeling so liberated and just wanted to share!

StarlightLady... thanks!

I agree with that Lying I guess the volleying comes from being shut down. 'Pubes are yucky, blood sticks to them, DH gets them in his teeth, yada yada yada' naturally provokes a pro pubes response.
I do constantly tell my DDs they don't have to remove anything for anyone but peers have greater influence at their age. They are quite discerning with their choices and opinions so I can only hope that carries through to their choice in partner.
Lying will you stand against Boris? Please?

I’m loving the idea of porn stars being inspired by ancient Greek customs of hair removal!

redspider1 I have a nearly 17-year-old dd who sees hair removal as totally the norm although she admits to me that she finds it itchy and uncomfortable and so sometimes “can’t be arsed.” I think I’ll ask her today why she feels she needs to do it. Teenage girls are under dreadful pressure at the moment and there is a lot of body hating going on - mostly from female to female. I’m never completely sure how much of a role boys play in this.

I was a teenager in the 80s and nobody did it apart from the “bikini line” wax.

When we were in Brighton for the day the other week I noticed that a lot of the young studenty type girls were not shaving their armpits.

I wonder if life will start to divide into body natural and body modified camps in the future.

The problem with removing hair, is that you need to keep doing it. The stage where it is just beginning to grow back is horrible, it is so itchy. I am lazy, so natural all the way.

Also thinks about period blood, if you are having a shower every day, its no big deal. It is blood.
I find it hard to understand why mothers would find things like this so icky? Surely most of us have had kids vomit in our hair and poo on our hands?

Also thinks about period blood, if you are having a shower every day, its no big deal. It is blood.
I find it hard to understand why mothers would find things like this so icky?

Because when my periods were at their worst, a shower a day wasn’t enough. I needed a full wash after each San pro change.

I discovered hairless made this much easier! And quite frankly when my periods were so bad, anything that made that easier was welcome!

redspider... I'd really like to cold-wax Boris, it would be satisfying. The last strip would not be wax, it would be Superglue and it would be applied to his enormous, ever-spouting, gob.

If I tell you that I endured the most vicious bullying from girls in secondary school that I ended up having a breast reduction when I'd just turned 15, perhaps that will give you some assurance that I am squarely on your daughters' sides, my daughter's side, anybody's daughters' sides.

When you posted the 'pubes are yucky' comment I know exactly where you're coming from. This isn't really women speaking, it's their man's voice. When you hear a woman talk about period blood sticking to pubic hair and going hard, that's a woman's voice but it's used to bolster what the man's voice said about 'yucky pubes'. We need to change that mindset and stop giving these awful men access to our fabulous bodies, full stop.

To pick up on what LittleDogLaughed's post, I personally think that many girls/women bully because of misogynistic pressure (mostly). They view their 'worth' based on what men think of them and this is through the distorted prism of how they believe other women are perceived (by men). The cycle continues and it's so pointlessly destructive.

We need to be standing together, resolute and immovable. We're legion; we make up roughly half the population. I can't understand why we're not there already? We ought to be doing better than this.

Such a big thing in some cultures to be clean down there that means taking it all off.
And in some you just make it neat by trimming .I only ever had it shaved off when I was going to have a baby the nurse shaved it I was horrified
All my male cousins and that lot say they couldnt and wouldnt touch a woman who didnt have hair as its like doing it with a child
I just trim it to keep it ruly as Ive aged it doesnt grow as fast as it used to
Think you like what you like and become used to what you like

jacques I have heavy periods too. I dont see a big deal in some dried in blood until I have my daily shower.

cross-posted with JacquesHammer about period blood. I remember it from when I was a teen. I had very heavy periods, my mother did not. She couldn't understand my sensitivity and therefore made no concessions whatsoever. I will not do that to my own daughter.

I think that posters are posting their own experiences rather than putting themselves in other posters' shoes. No meeting of minds is ever achieved from that, just disbelief and distrust.

I have heavy periods too. I dont see a big deal in some dried in blood until I have my daily shower

If only it was “some dried blood”.

But obviously you want to feel you’re doing it better so crack on!

I mean that we all post our own experiences, but if we view those through a filter and overlay those on other posters' experiences, it's rarely accurate.

jennymanara, your post illustrates that point really well. You can't know what Jacques or any other woman has personally experienced.

If you were a man, you'd rightly be accused of 'mansplaining'.

I think women should just do what ever they want, without fighting about who's right. Chill out. If you want to shave it, trim it, shape it into a heart or grow a massive bush...do it. Who cares! We are all in charge of our own bodies so must do what feels right, and not be dictated to by others.

"I think the bald look is very weird. It reminds me of my niece aged 5. I won't sleep with anyone who likes it bald and refuse to shave/wax because it seems a bit perverted to me?"

I think it's bloody weird that it makes you think of your 5 year old niece. Actually the whole comment makes me feel abit sick

Beautiful3 your first post on this thread made me feel sick. There for all to see:

I've always had a hairy bush. I trim it with a bikini groomer once a month. I only shaved it all off once, I wondered what on earth I'd done. It itched like mad growing back. Never again. My boyfriend said it felt wrong...like he was having sex with a child!

His/your viewpoint made me shudder. I will not chill about comments like that.

When women say 'shaving', do they really mean shaving?

Because that's about the worst badger depilation method I can imagine. Tried it as a teenager and was sorry.

There are much better methods, which I know because I've tried most.
It's not vanity. I find the naked look more comfortable for sports.

I've never shaved down there, women have hair there for a reason but if women want to shave that's up to them, it's not for me

I grew mine back 14 years ago and never looked back. It’s healthier and lovely.

Beautiful3 grim. How did your boyfriend know what having sex with a child feels like? I hope you immediately dumped him after he said that. A woman is still very obviously a woman whether she has pubic hair or not.

Finally @LyingWitchInTheWardrobe , l love you more and more every time you post. The voice of pragmatic reason

This ^^ in spades!

You've saved me a lot of typing and not for the first time Lying. I have to be careful not to keep typing "Yeah, what she said"

Gosh, Worra , I think the same of your posts too, you steal my wavelength - and you're a much faster typist than I am too.

I'm still musing (amusedly) about running against Boris... imagine that, a politician called 'Lying', I'd be the very first honest one, wouldn't I?

Yes you would

Also, find out how fast Boris can run before deciding anything

... he wouldn't be running very fast with his feet nailed to the floor.

Completely agree that there is nothing wrong with wanting a trimmed or bald pubic area, and there are so many advantages to it. No pubes poking out, feel cleaner (I do and many others do as well according to this thread;,) and the sensation you get when having sex (especially oral) is much better than when you have a full bush.

I also agree that the comments from a few posters are sick and nasty; saying a woman with a shaved fanny looks like a child.

For fuck's sake! If you OR your BOYFRIEND think a fully grown adult woman looks like a 5-10 year old, PURELY because they have a bald fanny, then you need help - seriously, because there is something wrong with you.