My advanced but exhausting daughter

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I have known my daughter is different from an early age. She has insisted on holding her own bottle from 10 weeks, cut her first 2 teeth at 9 weeks....the list goes on. She is my 2nd born (my son is 3yrs 6mnths) Anyways she is now 20 months can count beyond 10, dresses and undresess herself, is toilet training and has an extremely wide vocab and understanding. I believe she is gifted. I have never felt this way about my son as always felt he has developed within the normal milestones but my daughter is just something different! Before u think im blowing her trumpet im not. I am a nursery teacher with 10+ years experience and know she is advanced. Tbh its a bloody pain in the arse! She doesn't sleep well,dosnt sit still and is very demanding.help!what shall I do?

This won't end well, you'll get lots of anecdata about 'gifted children'.

FWIW, none of the examples you have given strike me as especially advanced and I deal with child development in a professional context.

I'm baffled as to what you think you need to do differently? Just give her lots of opportunities to learn and develop as you would with any toddler.

Kids very often even out by 5 or 6, as I'm sure you know.

So have all of your children held their bottles under 3months old?

Patapouf? And what do u mean by it wont end well?x

Watching with interest and just a little popcorn.

Popcorn? At this time of the night?

Me too

Cutting teeth early is nothing to do with intelligence. The rest doesn't sound exceptional but either way enjoy playing with your child and making her childhood fun. Would you want to spend more time at work if you were considered gifted ?

My brother was born with two teeth...

tbh most kids can undress themselves. Its like tho most fun game when you are trying to get going out the door. The counting is fairly standard too. It really depends on how engaged the child is and what they are exposed to.

She doesn't sleep well,dosnt sit still and is very demanding.help!what shall I do?

Again normal. Take her to socialise with other kids and do more to entertain her.

*What shall I do?
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Parent her, be her mum. Give her boundaries. Avoid asking for help on Internet forums wherever possible and seek the help of professionals.

She doesn't sound absurdly advanced - both of my children did all the things you note and they're just above average bright now. Like a PP said - they even out as they get older.

Have fun, enjoy her.

You're lucky you have the older one so just keep doing things with both of them. If she can keep up with him eg. Listening to stories, colouring, play dough, watching things he likes on TV etc then she'll already be getting plenty of simulation. As a fellow nursery worker, I'd do the pre school stuff with your son and let her join in.

At 20 months, my son couldn't say more than dadadadadadadada. He resisted all attempts to get clothing on him, and loved nothing more than runing round naked. Didn't potty train for another year.

Yet, he has just been identified as gifted.

All kids are different. Embrace it. Follow her interests. Give her opportunities to be her own person, and see where you end up.

I was apparently potty trained at 9 months, my mum was obsessive so I was probably left to sit on a potty all day. Im not gifted .
Just enjoy your children as they don't stay small for long.

You could teach her to read: the works of Shakespeare might channel some of that energy into the right direction?

Alternatively... just chill. She sounds like a normal active toddler. Mine never sat still either, it’s exhausting.

Books. Give her books, lots of books. Books with great pictures and good stories. Read her the same ones every night and show her new ones all the time. She's not quite to early reading, but she might be in about 18 months.

Also puzzles. Baby puzzles, simple puzzles, but something to keep her mind busy. Thinking is exhausting.

Ok this is harsh. But it's my opinion. You are a nursery teacher but you have issues with spelling and punctuation. That leads me to question your ability to make a judgment in relation to the issues you have raised in your post. Don't get me wrong: I certainly don't think I have the ability or training to judge whether a child is gifted or not either. I think somebody with a higher level of education and training than I have would be the person to do it. And I'm also not implying that you aren't an excellent nursery teacher, as you may have a high degree of emotional intelligence, be extremely creative and fun, be extremely responsive to wee kids etc. But imho, it requires a specialist to decide whether a child is gifted.

Nothing in your OP screams 'gifted' tbh so I'm not exactly sure what you're asking? What do you mean "what do I do"? Are you referring to her behaviour? I guess you do what works for you?

I had one child who had 2 teeth before 9 weeks and was toilet trained (there is no 'training' involved when they are ready btw) BY 20 months. She also had a great vocabulary and understanding. I just parented her. She's not 'gifted' in the way you mean.

I have an actual 'gifted' child though and I would never have guessed at 20 mths. In fact, I never really guessed it at all, it was explained TO me. I wouldn't have done anything different anyway had I known.

My daughter just cried until about 18 months and clung to me. She’s 13 now and top of her 450 child year group across most subjects. The ‘talents’ you describe don’t mean much to be honest. So many factors at play here and the biggest factor that may hold her back or help her find her place amongst the gifted few is her parents educational attainment and economic status unfortunately.

Wasn't some royal personage born with a full set of teeth?

So have all of your children held their bottles under 3months old?

No, they didn't. They were breastfed for the first 12 months.

Holding her own bottle and cutting teeth early had absolutely nothing to do with being gifted.

What has teeth got to do with anything? DD is 10 months and has none but she could hold bottles at around 8 weeks and is a proficient walker.

My first born was walking at 9 months, started potty training at 7 months ( he never pooped in his nappy after 7 months old). He climbed out of his cot at 5 months old and scooted to the door. When on his belly he could lift his head up and look around at birth. Could swim/dive at 4-5 yrs old. Make us all laugh by doing very comical routines by 12 months.

He also was in special ed (U.S) classes. Didn't learn to read until he was 11 or 12. He's in his mid-40's now and lacks basic common sense but there was a time I thought he was going to be a genius. Oh well.

Huh? My daughter was exactly like that at 20 months. I have photos and videos to prove it. My two boys sound more like your son. I don't think it's that unusual.

Why is it a pain in the arse and exhausting?