A quick poll- if you are married....

[BertrandRussell]

Did your husband ask your father’s permission before he asked you?

If possible, just a yes or no.

No

No.

No. Would genuinely have rethought the entire relationship if he had, that he didn't know me at all.

Yes - 40+ years ago.

Both my sons got married in the past two years and they both asked their fiances' mums before the proposed.

No

375 answers. But we still don't know what this poll is for.

Presumably to get some data to counter the minority on the other thread who expressed their complete disbelief at the idea that some women would regard their fiancés asking their father's permission to propose as repellent because 'everyone in RL does it'.

No

I wouldn’t have been offended but I’d love to be the fly on the wall - my dad would have laughed for a month at being asked.

No - asked for his blessing though.

No, I'd have looked at my husband to be in a new and unflattering light if he had.

No, wouldn't have married him if he had

No, it’s my choice to marry DH, not my dads!. If DH has asked DF definitely would have said no, so I’m glad he didn’t

No

No.

No

No.

Yes he did - and I'm very grateful that he did. Not because we needed permission - he's told me he would have still asked had my dad said no - but because it's a nice traditional gesture that I know would have meant alot to my dad. I don't think there is ever any particularly dark reason behind it - my dad didn't 'own me' before and my DP won't 'own me' once we're married. Its just a nice traditional gesture that is completely harmless. Anyone saying otherwise need to chill out

No
My dad would have thought that was really weird

No

Yes

No, and my Dad didn't ask my Grandad either.

Weird tradition.

No thankfully.

No

I asked FIL2B for his blessing. He told me it was up to her, he didn't take returns, and did I want some chipboard?

Yes, but he also asked my mum, in fact he asked mum first. My parents divorced when I was a child and although my dad's always been around, I lived with mum so she mostly raised me. DH knew if he was going to go traditional and ask, it would be important to me that he asked mum as well.

Obviously we didn't need anyone's permission as both adults and can do what we want etc but I did like that he did it that way