A quick poll- if you are married....

[BertrandRussell]

Did your husband ask your father’s permission before he asked you?

If possible, just a yes or no.

No

No.

No. I am not from the 18th Century and DH's name is not Mr Darcy.

No, not in the late 80s ( exH) or DH (early 2000s) .
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I am astonished at the number of yes answers on this thread. Then again, I kept my maiden name both times, didnt want an engagement ring either time, and stopped wearing a wedding ring within a year or so of each ceremony. I am obviously not as conventional as I thought

No. He asked my kids instead because it was our marriage (as in the kids and me marrying him) and I am not my fathers property to give away.

Yes

No

Yes

No

No. It's interesting that nobody asked their DH's parents' permission. It's almost as if there was some sort of sexual double standard

Well, quite.

A friend of mine who got married in the 80s said she'd obey him in the vows, and I thought that was bonkers then.

No and I think it's a really strange thing to do tbh.
I would think a lot less of my daughters partners if they ask my husband for permission to marry them, we don't own them.

No, and neither my Dad nor I would have been happy/comfortable about it if he had

No

No.
I suspect if DP had, my dad would have said no, as he would be appalled that any man would do this.

No

Yes

No.

No, he died about 8 years before.

No, not a chance

Of course nor. Nor did the fiancés of anyone I know.

No. Unbelievable that this concept still exists in the 21st century! 😂

I love all the no comments on this thread.

No.
But my DH went to speak to my DF and DM and said I'm going to ask her to marry me, I'm not going to ask your permission but I'm just letting you know.
My DM said What would you do if we said No?!
DH said I'd ask her anyway.
They said Good for you.
(They all get on really well with each other!)

Yes.

No