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Original poster

A quick poll- if you are married....

406 replies

BertrandRussell · 29/04/2019 16:41

Did your husband ask your father’s permission before he asked you?

If possible, just a yes or no.

OP posts:
TheCaddy · 30/04/2019 07:27

No.

I wasn’t given away either.

Weatherwax · 30/04/2019 07:28

No

itsbetterthanabox · 30/04/2019 07:29

No

mydogisthebest · 30/04/2019 07:48

I am actually surprised there are so many no answers.

For all the shock horror that it would even be considered and a few sarcastic comments I think quite a few men still ask their future father in law.

I know my niece's boyfriend asked last year and another niece's boyfriend asked about 4 years ago. Quite a few friends say their daughters' boyfriends also asked

MrBrown · 30/04/2019 07:50

Didn't 'ask permission' as such, but he went to tell my parents that he would be asking me to marry him.

Rufusthebewilderedreindeer · 30/04/2019 07:54

mydogistyebest

part of that wll be down to the phrasing of berts question

My dad will tell you that dh asked...as indeed he did, but not before dh had asked me and I'd said yes (years before in my case)

gollygumdrops · 30/04/2019 08:13

Yes, but more out of a sense of tradition rather than to ask his permission. My dad was moved by the gesture but it wasn’t an expectation by anyone.

Tunnockswafer · 30/04/2019 08:23

I didn’t ask my future fil so why would dp ask mine?

LiveFatsDieYoGnu · 30/04/2019 08:36

No.

I love and respect my Dad, but no. My Dad wouldn’t have made any kind of a fuss, but I think he would have been quietly quite appalled in the unlikely event that DH approached him!

dubmumof2 · 30/04/2019 08:39

No!

ChrisPrattsFace · 30/04/2019 08:42

No.
He spoke to my dad the day before he asked me about something else - my dad was furious when he found out and that he hadn’t asked him. Difficult relationship with dad anyways.

FleurNancy · 30/04/2019 08:43

No!

RubberTreePlant · 30/04/2019 08:44

No.

If he had, I'd have said no.

BossAssBitch · 30/04/2019 08:45

Yes, and very happy that he did, it made my father happy, which is v important to me.

TickTockBaby · 30/04/2019 08:46

Yes

limesoda · 30/04/2019 08:46

Yes, as a formality. Dad loved that.

amusedbush · 30/04/2019 08:51

No. My dad would have been Hmm if he had, as would I.

starfishy · 30/04/2019 09:54

No

Tunnockswafer · 30/04/2019 10:26

I suspect how old the dad was might influence this? Mine was born in the 1920s and would probably have liked it.

AintNobodyHereButUsReindeer · 30/04/2019 10:35

No. And then after we announced our engagement my dad was clearly pissed off at not being asked Hmm

DefinatelyAWeeGobshite · 30/04/2019 10:36

No (but he told him about a year before he proposed)

gg96cgp · 30/04/2019 10:38

Yes

BlueJag · 30/04/2019 10:38

No

TragicallyUnbeyachted · 30/04/2019 10:42

No

Sparklingbrook · 30/04/2019 11:12

375 answers. But we still don't know what this poll is for.
Will there be a graph or a pie chart or something? Confused

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