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Could I Be Being Groomed At 48 ?

228 replies

WhoIsJonSnow · 17/04/2019 19:46

I’ve been with my DP for 3 years.
He has always had an alternative sex lifestyle.
In the beginning I was besotted with him & went along with anything he suggested. Stupid I know now on hindsight.
We partook in threesomes & looking back I was always so off my tree I joined in.
He would always berate me after - I didn’t give him enough attention during the evening...
He was the sole instigator of any meets & will spend hours cultivating conversations so we meet the ‘right’ couple.
It’s always been for me - he always maintains he gets nothing out of it but we always argue for days after a meet as I’ve failed in some way.
I came home from work today to a list of instructions on the stairs regarding how I should be dressed to come upstairs etc.
I’m knackered- I just want to sit down.
I failed & now he keeps saying I can’t follow instructions.
He has also set up a met with one of his friends this weekend without any conversation.
I’m not stupid but I’m sat here now thinking- he is actually grooming me & i’ve let myself be led for his kicks
Is this possible?

OP posts:
whipstitchandwhiskey · 18/04/2019 21:57

Hope you are safe OP. You’ve done so well escaping... here’s to a new, happy, weird controlling bastard free life Wine

Singlenotsingle · 18/04/2019 22:36

Please, Milkn0sugar at least read some of the posts before adding yours. Even the one before you says that JonSnow left last night! We're all relieved that she went and hoping she's ok now.

Rystall · 19/04/2019 07:15

Thinking of you JonSnow. I hope it all went to plan and you went to your son’s after work as you intended to. I hope you’re catching up on some much needed rest after your traumatic experience and you’re busy planning your fantastic future.
If you can give an update, we’d love to hear it but no pressure

Also, just to say...... if for any reason you faltered, or changed your mind, or decided you didn’t have the strength to do it ... please don’t just disappear. Come back on here and let us know. There are lots of women here who will help and support you x

settmenu · 21/04/2019 17:58

Hope you're managing to get your head around everything and have confided to someone in real life.

You should be genuinely really proud of yourself for making the move to leave, many many many women know all too well how hard that is.

I am hopeful that you'll be reading this while hatching a plan for the future and you do now feel free.

MotherOfDragonite · 21/04/2019 22:58

I hope you're ok, OP.

Whatever course of action you've chosen, please know that we're all rooting for you.

DaisyDreaming · 22/04/2019 01:07

I keep checking back hoping that your ok and that your out

Daisychainsandglitter · 22/04/2019 06:05

Thinking of you OP. I hope you are safe from him x

Pinkybutterfly · 22/04/2019 06:18

Hope you are fine xxx

Ruru8thestars · 22/04/2019 06:21

Fingers crossed for you

StripeyChina · 22/04/2019 06:58

Your posts have moved me very much (been where you are)
I hope you can hold onto your moment of clarity.
I hope you can get to a better place for you.
I sending love and hope.

Paddy1234 · 22/04/2019 07:43

I hope you are safe OP
💐

Ivalueloyaltyaboveallelse · 22/04/2019 08:02

Please be safe jonsnow. You’re incredibly brave and you deserve happiness.

marvellousnightforamooncup · 22/04/2019 08:46

OP hope you're somewhere safe. If I were you I'd give Women's Aid a ring. They might be able to help you, at least get counselling and get on The Freedom Programme.

Wishing you safety, luck and happiness.

AndOutComeTheBoobs · 22/04/2019 09:24

Hope you're ok.

DelphiniumBlue · 22/04/2019 09:38

Can't see that OK has posted since 18th. Had anyone heard from he r?

settmenu · 24/04/2019 20:08

Anyone know if OP posted anything? I only use on my phone so struggle to search or DM people.

Hope you're ok OP. keep checking back in the hope you've updated.

SmokeAndBone · 28/04/2019 00:47

It really worries me that the OP never came back...

Tink1990 · 28/04/2019 07:26

Hope you are safe and well OP

pelirocco123 · 28/04/2019 07:35

Has he taken any photos or videos ? Be prepared he may try blackmail.....how ever don't let that stop you leaving

pilates · 28/04/2019 07:42

Op, well done for getting away. I felt worried for you reading your posts. Are you ok?

rainbowstardrops · 28/04/2019 08:28

Hope you're safe Thanks

EluphNaugeMeop · 28/04/2019 10:02

So glad you decided to leave but please let us know you are ok and out of there.

Branleuse · 28/04/2019 10:28

I hope youre ok OP. Im glad youre eyes have been opened. Hes been using you and pimping you out to his friends. Its not consensual when you are bullied into it

settmenu · 30/04/2019 07:51

Hi OP. hope you've found safety. Been thinking of you

madmother1 · 30/04/2019 07:55

Get out now!!! LTB.....My first ever one. This is not a normal relationship.

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