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Could I Be Being Groomed At 48 ?

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WhoIsJonSnow · 17/04/2019 19:46

I’ve been with my DP for 3 years.
He has always had an alternative sex lifestyle.
In the beginning I was besotted with him & went along with anything he suggested. Stupid I know now on hindsight.
We partook in threesomes & looking back I was always so off my tree I joined in.
He would always berate me after - I didn’t give him enough attention during the evening...
He was the sole instigator of any meets & will spend hours cultivating conversations so we meet the ‘right’ couple.
It’s always been for me - he always maintains he gets nothing out of it but we always argue for days after a meet as I’ve failed in some way.
I came home from work today to a list of instructions on the stairs regarding how I should be dressed to come upstairs etc.
I’m knackered- I just want to sit down.
I failed & now he keeps saying I can’t follow instructions.
He has also set up a met with one of his friends this weekend without any conversation.
I’m not stupid but I’m sat here now thinking- he is actually grooming me & i’ve let myself be led for his kicks
Is this possible?

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Paddy1234 · 30/04/2019 17:04

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MotherOfDragonite · 30/04/2019 18:26

Obviously you don't have to update us if you don't want to, OP, but it would be such a relief to know you're ok.

nottomgates · 30/04/2019 18:38

This post sounds like me a a few years ago. You know it’s not right, but leaving seems impossible. You need to find an exit from this toxic manipulator. He will wear you down. Be strong and leave, you won’t regret your decision to leave. But you will regret staying put.
I got in contact with rebuild charities and helplines for domestic abuse. These could be good for you.
Please look after yourself because your partner isn’t.

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