I quit. I've had enough

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Nearly 7 month old baby - sleep is getting progressively worse, not better. Pretty velcro during the day. I don't really get anything done. Has stopped feeding from my right. Cant pump to try and boost the supply because I just dont have the time. I look ridiculous. Spend most of my life bouncing on a fucking yoga ball in the dark.
Bored of people suggesting I have PND. I haven't had a full nights sleep in 7 months. I spend most of my time with a baby attached to me.
I'm not eating gluten or egg as he has suspected intolerances but I have got differing opinions from different paediatricians.

I'm done. I've had enough. No fucking way will we ever give him a sibling. What the fuck is the point of my life right now?

Sorry. As you were.

Yes I gave up soy too.

This is such a headfuck.

OP just filter through all the posts and take what bits of advice your going to find most helpful. You always get such contradictions on these threads. And re cat we had a cat until few days after my DGS came home Dd lives with me, just didn't work out as cat kept jumping in laying in baby's crib. So we had to re home him. We got a lot of stick for that. You have a lot on your plate. Really hope things start to settle down for you soon. X

OP if your baby is 7 months I think he might be hungry. Are you still weaning?

OP just filter through all the posts and take what bits of advice your going to find most helpful.
Such good advice and apt username to boot.
I had to do the same when I posted an SOS like this.

@chocotoo, surely you don't think that could possibly the cause. It's like the go-to fix when breastfeeding. If it cries, stick a boob in it.

As if hunger would be the issue.

Have you even read the thread?

He had a pre arranged appointment. I dont really know how I feel about him at the moment. Right now I'd be surprised if we are still together this time next year.

Yes. The problem is he doesn't want to disturb me. DS screamed for food last night, DH kept trying to soothe him. So I ended up getting up and feeding him

Also, 7 month old baby - is there any food that baby takes during the day that your husband could feed without you having to prepare it? Even if it’s finger food, it may well occupy him while you rest and your husband stays in the room with him.

Ah, yes - my DH used to do that too. Some ground rules of if baby cries, then try feeding first and then once you know he’s full then your DH tries to soothe him every way possible? Even if he feeds to sleep, hand him off and if he wakes then DH can handle him? How long does he feed for before just comfort feeding?

Freezer is stacked with food so that would be a problem

Just remembered something we used to do. I'd feed at about 8pm or so. Then go to bed and sleep. DH would stay up and bring baby to me when she needed another feed 3/4 hours later and then I'd take over and feed/co-sleep and he'd rest ahead of work. It was killer for our 'us time' but meant I got some rest even if just a bit. I'd sleep at weekends in the day while he watched her too. Would that be feasible?

I haven’t read the full thread (sorry) but my advice would be to give as much solids during the day, stop BF, stop co sleeping , do controlled crying (not cry it out) and accept that baby will cry a lot for a couple of nights but then things will get better.

And that, @Shazafied, is why you should RTFT....

I just wanted to day I have been where you are. My DD who is now 2.7 and my DC2 was and still is mostly a velcro baby. Breastfed exclusively and refused flat out to take a bottle regardless of which type I tried, who gave it to her, of it was formula or breastmilk! I had to stay home with her every night because if she woke up while sleeping and I wasn't here she was in utter hysterics. It was awful. But, we are through it now. And you will get there too. You haven't done anything wrong, i think we forget sometimes babies are small people with personalities of there own and aren't all going to react the same to the same things!

I agree with previous posters - get the bottle sorted to share the load with your DH. At least then you can get more sleep and feel a bit more human. And you never know once formula is introduced sleep may follow for the DC too. Keep going.

And that, @Shazafied, is why you should RTFT....

Pffft, no!! Op can take or leave my advice!

@shazafied, off you fuck.

@BoobiesToTheRescue why are you so rude ? What makes you think you can swear at people ?! Not everybody always reads the full thread before offering a quick bit of advice - they don’t need to be told to fuck off !

Are you an aggressive MN BF nazi by any chance ?

LOL

Ahhh @Boobiestotherescue - I see now. Your baby had reflux so you’ve diagnosed this in the Ops dC too and are encouraging her to keep BF and do an elimination diet.l despite the rapid decline in her MH. And I posted something at odds with this. I get it now. As you were !

At what point did I encourage breast feeding at the decline if her MH?
I just dared to suggest that FF isn't always the answer. I hope it is for the OP though because everyone would be happier for it.

On the other hand, you were suggesting that she let a baby who is clearly suffering from whatever, cry each night. As if that would fix it. Nice 👍.

Lol . Yup CC, bottles and cots are cruel. BF and co sleeping only , sorry mums on the you’ll just have to cope (even though you clearly cant).

Please.

And again, I’m allowed to post advice without being told to fuck off!! Just so , so pathetic and rude.

Ok "Shaza."

Thank you to everyone who has posted.
I'm currently patting DS to sleep a d having a little cry. Everything feels pretty hopeless tonight.

Hope everybody has a lovely Ssturday evening. And again thank you to each and every one of you who has posted advice or support. It has meant the world to me today.

Ah I'm sorry OP, it's shit when you have a non-sleeper. For what it's worth, there is zero evidence of gluten coming through in breast milk so you're fine with eating it, the most likely culprit is dairy if it's an intolerance.

Since he's 7 months you can start sleep training. I had an awful sleeper, it utterly destroyed me, but I finally cracked at 18 months and sleep trained. Best thing I ever did, I feel like my whole life has begun again. I just wish I'd done it earlier (I.e. 7 months!). My DSis, who is a consultant paediatrician, was urging me to do it from then, but I felt like I couldn't. I was totally wrong, it took 4 nights and DS now sleeps through.