Do you ever look at someone and think I really want to give them a make over ? There’s a Mum I see on the school run, probably about 40

[Lardlizard]

Lovely slim body, and I thjnk she could really improve her look as she wears these baggy jeans
Awful trainers and fleeces and her hair is like a bush
I think even if she wanted to dress casually, she would look so so much better with some jeans that fitted well, some nice smart trainers, she’s. It not making the most of herself, somedays she clearly works as she will wear a skirt with heals and a fleece

I wouldn’t want to be so rude or ever say anything but I just think could sill dress just as causally, bit look so much better

I think you sound nice, OP. I'd love someone to offer me a makeover. I am someone who has zero confidence in my appearance. My Mum is the same and never encouraged me to dress up, or make the most of myself. I don't know how to wear makeup! I'd love someone to offer me a good makeover! But they'd need to be my friend, so make friends with her and if she ever says, "I'm going shopping, I need help!" then help! Or if you're going on a night out, you could say, "Would you like me to help out with some makeup?" If she's a good friend, she could say no. If she'd like help, she'd jump at the chance.

Gosh, OP. For whom would she be reinventing her look? For a random stranger who winces at her fleeces on the school run? Is 'making the most of yourself' and wearing 'flattering age-appropriate clothes' some kind of social duty now? Should there be fines for people who insist on non-'smart' trainers and jeans that do not 'flatter'?

Feel free to get your kicks and feel you're fulfilling some kind of social function by straightening your hair and wearing 'heals', OP, but keep it to yourself, why don't you?

Also, I think some people generally have low self esteem/ depression and actually think they're not worth it or are overwhelmed by the thought of where to start. I don't think anyone is 'comfortable' letting themselves go. Someone seeing potential and helping them is actually confidence boosting.

This is deffo me.

Not bad jeans and fleeces for me, but extremely large tshirts and leggings.

I have a condition which makes clothes and dressing a bit of a problem, and I dress how i feel most comfortable. I rarely wear make up or do anything special with my hair, and i'm happy as chips.

I genuinely think this woman probably doesn't care one iota whether she'd look better after a makeover.

Of course I was going to get roasted on here for posting this, but do I care ? No

You can say things on here you wouldn’t dream of saying in rl

she will wear a skirt with heals

Given the judgemental nature of your post, I feel it's safe to point out that it is heels. Unless she is Jesus incognito and healing the sick.

Baggy jeans and fleeces are all the rage with the youth at the moment. She's possibly an incredibly stylish fashion editor and you just don't realise...or possibly entirely happy not meeting a stranger's standards of dress.
To be fair OP, i often do have opinions about people's clothes but I keep them firmly to myself.

Maybe she couldn’t give a fuck what judgmental arseholes think?

Ffs.

FLEECE FLEECE FLEECE FLECE FLEECE FLEECE FLEECE FLEECE FLEECE FLEECE FLEECE FLEECE FLEECE FLEECE FLEECE

Unless she is wearing a heil hitler t-shirt or I Trump hoodie, then leave her be.

And take a good look at yourself.

No, never.
Some people have better things to worry about. You could have just described me.

we all naturally feel our own taste is impeccable

No, we don’t. I have no taste at all. Definitely none when it comes to clothes or even interior design.

People definitely look at me and think this.

Don't worry @Lardlizard . It was probably just an idle thought you had, passing the time in the playground. It does raise interesting questions about women and appearance which are now being aired here ( in amongst the horrified, but less interesting, exclamations about you being judgmental-) but it doesn't make you a terrible person to wonder 'aloud'.

She’s probably very happy.
I’m very content, bloody marvellous for a middle aged woman actually, slim, fit, long shiny hair, hardly any wrinkles. expect I could probably make a fortune as a mature model in fact (😬😬😬).
You’d probably look at me and see a bag lady who desperately needs a (give me strength) “make over”.
Thing is, I’m very comfortable in my skin and wouldn’t give a hoot what you think.
Move on with your life.

Incidentally, I’ve only ever known one, genuine aristocrat: she dressed like the gardener.

I am someone who has zero confidence in my appearance. My Mum is the same and never encouraged me to dress up, or make the most of myself.

I don't think anyone is 'comfortable' letting themselves go. Someone seeing potential and helping them is actually confidence boosting.

Merry, I think your own issues are colouring your take on this. Many women are entirely confident about their own appearance, whether or not it meets current notions of conventionally 'groomed'/'smart'/'attractive'. They are not 'letting themselves' go, they merely have different ideas to you about what they want to look like, or they don't see their appearance in terms of 'potential' that needs work.

And are you honestly saying that your confidence would be boosted by another parent offering you a makeover on the school run because your appearance bothers her so much?

*Of course I was going to get roasted on here for posting this, but do I care ? No

You can say things on here you wouldn’t dream of saying in rl*

But that’s just it. You really don’t get it. It’s not about saying these things out loud. You shouldn’t even be thinking them. But somehow I don’t think you gonna sit back and reflect on these replies and realise how wrong you are and change your ways. You sound too immature and arrogant for that.

People definitely look at me and think this.

Me too. I spent many years working in London and going into work every day fully groomed. I now live in the countryside, walk the dog and work from home most days. Right now my hair is scraped back and fuzzy because I didn't blow dry it after washing. My jeans are covered in muddy paw prints. As is my (un ironed) blouse. I have no make up on. If I went out and it was cool, I would put my fleece on. It smells of dog treats.

My happiness levels towards the end of my groomed life in London: 2/10

My happiness levels now: 9/10

It's funny how you entertained that idle thought about how you'd rearrange the aesthetic of some random woman to fit some idea you have about what women should look like instead of stopping to think about why you feel that this woman needs to fit your approved aesthetic. Are you always so simple minded?

Everyone could look better though couldn't they?
Unless shes an out and out tramp, then I probably wouldn't notice her.
I had a friend who used to wear clothes and trainers with holes in etc. She wasn't poor she was loaded.I stopped going out with her thank god.

Sometimes I read posts and think I would really like to give the poster spelling and grammar lessons, and in particular, introduce them to the full stop.

I wouldn't want to be rude or say anything, but I just think the poster should concentrate more on learning these basics and spend less time judging another women's appearance.

But that would actually be rude.

I know I shouldn’t think things like this, but yes, I do sometimes look at other people (men as well as women) and think this sort of thing.

But I’d never ever say anything about it to any of these people in RL unless it’s something that looks like a wardrobe malfunction, like having a skirt tucked into knickers or a tear / hole exposing underwear.

Boysey45

“I stopped going out with her thank god.”

You’ll miss out on the company of some fascinating people throughout your life if your bar for bestowing your company is hole-free trainers 😁

@missbattenburg that's so weird because I have also just moved to the country!! ❤️

This must be a wind up.

If not then you don't sound like a very nice person OP and you need more than a change of clothing to sort that.