Do you ever look at someone and think I really want to give them a make over ? There’s a Mum I see on the school run, probably about 40

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Lovely slim body, and I thjnk she could really improve her look as she wears these baggy jeans
Awful trainers and fleeces and her hair is like a bush
I think even if she wanted to dress casually, she would look so so much better with some jeans that fitted well, some nice smart trainers, she’s. It not making the most of herself, somedays she clearly works as she will wear a skirt with heals and a fleece

I wouldn’t want to be so rude or ever say anything but I just think could sill dress just as causally, bit look so much better

I am the unfashionable wearer of trackies, very old trainers, baggy jeans, baggy tshirts, holey hoodie and fleece jackets. I just really dgaf about fashion, so giving a make over to someone never crosses my mind! I prefer pure comfort over fashion.

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But you have said it in real life, typing it on an Internet forum is doing just that. We're not an imaginary group you know!

I befriended a woman once who decided to tell me one day to wear make up and dye my hair and that I should make more of an effort. I stupidly got too involved with her and she completely bashed my wardrobe and the clothes I like to wear, implying I had a shit taste in clothes.

I cut her out. I only say hi and bye to her now.

If anyone ever tells me to change myself they can fuck off. You leave this woman alone. What she wears or likes to wear doesn’t affect you.

Yes, fleece is basically plastic and it sheds microplastic that ends up polluting the environment, getting in our food etc.

FJOs

I like you already 😁

Fleece and microfibre and all these faux-fur fuzzy coats are environmental suicide

I know what you mean. I sometimes think the same about ppl I see. Usually men in the most unflattering skinny jeans - I just wish I could take them shopping for jeans that suit their shape.

And I can be very scruffy myself, so I'm sure others think the same about me. I always get exclamations of great surprise when I'm dressed up for a night out, so I know I don't do myself any favours day to day. Don't care though. I'm happy the way I am

I get up in the morning and put on an old Tshirt, old jeans and old trainers.
Then I add a fleece jacket that used to be my dads.

I rarely do the school run now as dd walks, but if I did, that is what I would look like.

Why? well, because the first thing I do after kids are out of the door is walk the dog, and gte muddy and sweaty.

But even when I come home and get changed into normal clothes, I am not interested in any of the 'looks' that are popular and I hate most popular trainers, and I love a nice fleece.

I look across the playground at women with fake tans and full make up, on their way to work, and I am puzzled, not judging, just puzzled as to why that is a good look.

Other human beings belong to themselves. They're not your dollies OP.

I thank god I don't have to do the school run with my DCs anymore.

I work in a school and the new uniform seems to be a leopard print or teddy bear coat, blue skinny jeans and over the knee black boots. A lot of makeup and an artfully messy updo. Must take bloomin ages. They're all trying to out-fashion each other and eyeing each other up making thinly veiled remarks, 'Oh lush jacket' while rolling their eyes to their friends. Last week one of the alphas sashayed into school and started chatting to her equally preened crew, before someone mentioned that she had left her child in the car.

Strangely, I'm much more drawn to the parents who stand chatting to their kids.

It's like a sort of disrespect for the wider community looking scruffy

I'm sorry I didn't know it was my moral duty to look attractive for everyone where I live. Here's me thinking it was more important to be a decent person.

Wider community?

EXACTLY.

Think of the wider community.

Do you ever looks at someone and think

They might, just might be happy in their own skin whatever stylee that might be?

Maybe she looks at you and thinks you look done up like a dogs dinner for just the school run?

Other human beings belong to themselves. They're not your dollies OP. I love this @Bunburyism

OP, whoa...just whoa.

You are coming across as more than a little judgemental op.

Why do you care?

Maybe she values things other than looks?

I often think this about people, am sure people think it about me too, because whether you want to admit it or not, everybody judges 😉

Sometimes, yes. Usually men though. I see men my age (early forties) with rough and red complexions and I'd love to sit down with them and have a soothing chat about glycolic acid, hyaluronic acid, retinols and just plain old moisturisers. I've refrained so far though.

I wonder how many parents at school think that if only you tried harder, OP, you could be a nice person instead of a shallow judgemental cow?

It's like a sort of disrespect for the wider community looking scruffy

Have you read What Katy Did? Katy has an accident involving a spinal injury and lies around in her room in an old nightdress, in pain and cross, and without brushing her hair. A visit from her saintly invalid Cousin Helen teaches her that it is an invalid girl's duty to make her person and her room pleasing to others, and that even when you're a lively child lying flat on your back with no knowledge of whether you'll ever walk again, your first duty is to be pleasant-looking, fresh and pretty.

There's a particularly good bit where Cousin Helen realises her forehead has become wrinkled from prolonged pain, and lies there in agony in her sickbed holding her forehead smooth with her fingers so that other people won't have to have their eyesight defiled by her appearance.

Note: this novel was published in 1872.

Yes this is me. I often don’t make the most of myself and need Gok Wan! I suffer chronic self esteem issues because of past and current relationship. When I make a big effort I look fantastic.

However I’d feel crap if someone told me how bad I looked.

I’d feel good if someone befriended me, and were my friend, and said my arse would look great one day in those jeans. In a very casual non judgmental way.

No, I've never thought that. I have much better things to do with my time.

Oh Keener I adored that book as a kid, and I have never thought about it, but you are so right!

Perhaps like me she just wants to be comfortable on the school run and dgaf what you think?

OP I know this is awful but I am totally IMAGINING how you look.

Carefully naice jeans
Holly Willobobblyobbly kind of face
Colour coordination of the kind that makes you feel such deep despair you feel that your body has finally reached the bottom of the ocean and is slowly settling there to decompose in the blackness.

SEE IT'S NOT GOOD.

you would want to make me over too but my terrible skirts and cardigans give me DEEP MIND ENERGY