I am very much no longer young

[StealthPolarBear]

I am turning forty this year and am having a mild and amusing mid life crisis.
Lots if little things, but the latest is that I've just tried to brush away a stubborn eye brow hair that was lodged just under my eye... It was a wrinkle.
I have also developed joint pain, in my thumb of all places.
Please tell me this is as bad as it gets :o

I said to Himself the other day ”shall we run upstairs and have a shag?” He said, ”make your mind up, I can only do one of those!”

I love you all!

I am after more cardigans!
I have always been interested in birds though so that's not a new development.

I have a rogue chin hair that's been a bit quiet of late (suspect it's planning something spectacular).

I made the mistake in my mid thirties of pulling out grey hairs. Now when they grow back they are all sticky up and smug "HA TRIED TO GET RID OF ME DID YOU" for which reason I favour winter as I can wear a hat and hide the consequences of the misguided vanity of my youth.

Oh oh oh, and I have reached the stage of having to peer over my glasses to read teeny writing (fruit shoot ingredients, pokemon cards).

I'm 37 this year and currently 41 weeks pregnant, I can honestly say I have never felt so OLD in all my life! I'm just hoping some of the aches disappear after this baby gets the hell out!

Big knickers are essential and have been for a number of years, I still have heels in my wardrobe but I avoid them like the plague. My worst nightmare is getting 'dressed up' to go out and anything past 10 is a late night!!

Oh the joys

I'm 49. I've had health issues over the past year, some age related but now I'm fine. I look better now than I did at 40. I'm slimmer, more active, divorced happily and have completely changed how I dress and make up. I'm not quite granny pants, but close! Yes, the joints creak a bit, but my confidence and self esteem has soared, asking with a big side of not giving a fuck.

I recently had a nostalgic rewatch of My So Called Life and then had a minor crisis when I realised that not only am I not fifteen any more, but I am also now older than Angela's parents were supposed to be. I would lean moodily against a wall but someone would probably just ask me if I need a nice sit down and a cup of tea.

And I've finally realised the haircut I like best is the same one I had when I was 10 which feels like yesterday but was in fact over 50 years ago.

I turn 40 later this year too OP and I can't fucking wait!!

All those things I had to stop doing in my 30s because I was too busy getting married and having babies.

This May I'll be dancing down the road in a feathered bikini for carnival, learning French again, running half marathons, progressing my career even further, singing in my band, working out more, riding more rollercoasters, learning guitar again and generally getting back to all the things I stopped doing in my late 20s when I "settled down".

I get the occasional juvederm in my lips and keratin in my hair to keep myself less than a total frizzy haired wreck, but quite frankly I'm getting better and better with age!

Confidence, faith in myself, faith in my ability, faith in my body - all those things mean I'm far more brilliant now than when I turned 30 and was still scared of what people thought of me!

Sure, I bloody love my granny pants and I would never entertain the thought of a thong now, I regularly have to pluck out one persistent chin hair, and I"m even looking forward to wearing my glasses on a string around my neck but still feel "young" but without the fear of suffering any indignity!

I hate nights out too, like genuinely dread them and spend them faking enjoyment with one eye on the clock, counting down to the earliest time I can make my excuses without looking rude. I just can’t stand the faff of getting ready, getting a taxi, traipsing out in the cold and wet, shouting to be heard, getting bumped into in overcrowded pubs, being tired the next day. Bleurgh,I hate every part of it.

I am 49 this year and have grey hair EVERYWHERE I take my glasses off to put my mascara on but can't see where my eyelashes are. 🥺
I have a good knee and a bad knee.
All my knickers are big and comfy from M&S. I have a bigger selection of pjs than I do of party dresses. I can no longer walk in heels. Everything gives me heartburn. Retirement is starting to look like an attractive option.

"Even the fact I’m still referring to the Yellow Pages bloody dates me." Glad you said it! 😂😂😂

are the Tudors documentaries on catch up? I'm obsessed with wotr & Tudors but then always have been.

"I was gutted when Jan-Michael Vincent died last week. (and even more devastated to learn he was 74)." Same, did you see the recent pics of him? 😪😪he was so hot in airwolf.

I'm 47 this year, I remember dreading turning 40 I wanted to hide away, that year ended up being one of the best in my life!

I creak and groan whenever I move but I have a physical disability that's really deteriorated in last few years. I don't bother dying my hair any more (I'm a redhead so was always tricky, now I'm rocking the grey streaks and not giving a fuck!), even with my glasses on I do the telescopic arm nonsense with my phone especially when I'm tired, it was bad enough looking in the mirror and seeing mum looking back at me, these days? It's my granny! (Yes this was a huge shock at first then I worked out my image in my head of my granny is how she looked when I was little and she'd have been about my age now then if that makes sense?) She was a very elegant granny though, hair coloured, always fully made up and nails done and heels until she passed in her late 80's. I don't know how she did it! But...she did still look like a "wee auld wummin" and certain style choices marked out her generation (a line skirts, always wearing nylons even in height of summer, triangular folded headscarf worn Audrey Hepburn style - which would have been the height of fashion when she was younger.

Chin hairs I think I could cope with, it's the Fucking 2 hairs growing out the middle of my forehead I hate!

UselessTrees your post about my so called life reminded me of that pat morita/Ralph Macchio trivia - still can't get my head round Ralph now being older than mr miyagi! Wtf!!

I have a 42 year old daughter op
I’m meeting up tomorrow with an old school friend that I never saw for 50 years until last year

I’m clinging on. 67 last month.
Adopted comfy pants years ago but still have underwired bras.
I think the pain I get in the ribs from them reminds me I’m still above ground

No chin hairs here.. I shave my face every week...
Still have long hair with a surprising amount of it still brown and highlighted blonde to mask the bits of grey coming through
More wrinkles than I’d like
My 72 year old Russian therapist doesn’t have one despite two decades of living in Tenerife 😡
Wear make up every day and always dress smart
I don’t think I’m any more achey than the average 67 year old
I’m not on any medication. Quite healthy really
40 was a breeze and so was 50 and 60
I think I started to feel the difference round about 62
But then I didn’t get married till 63 so that probably pulled me through

Enjoy being 40
My periods stopped and so did my mood swings. My children were 15, 13 and 11 so i could see the wood for the trees
Parents were still alive... was a good decade

We are in Tenerife right now and same time as uk
I’m looking forward to going back to the apartment
Drinking loads of peppermint tea ( despite a full bottle of gin on the table... can’t be sedated)
Will probably bring it home and stick it in the cupboard to live with it’s siblings from previous trips
Got a good book to read too😂

@ideasofmarch- I’ll be turning 53 this year and discovered Madeira last December. I loved it so much I went back in January!

I'm 45 and cycle to work. That's the only exercise i do.
Healthwise been ok (physically, not mentally). Never take that for granted.
I am dying to return to Madeira for a levada walking holiday (went in 1993).
I don't wear high heels, they burn.
I cannot do without a bra.
I get black chin hairs. How do they go from nothing to an inch long overnight?
I get sooooo tired and my dd shoves me when i nod off at 8.30pm.
I have dreadful myopia but now the reading vision is knackered but i refuse to get bifocals. My glasses are 300 as it is ffs! So i take my glasses off and bring labels to the end of my nose to read.
Interestingly, I'm the opposite with gardening. I've always loved it, from my teens, but am looking outside thinking decking and some pots would be so much easier than weeding and dodging the cat crap. I'm losing enthusiasm.
My attention often takes a trip to another land at work, during meetings, and all I'm hearing is noise....ssshh!
My roots show within 2 weeks and I'm thinking I'll dump a dark blonde all over it. So sick of trying to maintain light blonde!
My face looks like a collapsed soufle and I could fit 4 weeks shopping in my bags.
I avoid the mirror, i used to be considered stunning.
Positives- no unwanted attention. No attention!
Taken seriously at work. Not afraid to be unpopular sometimes. Don't feel the need to people please. My face scares people and I don't need to say or do much.
I've got into watching good stuff on iplayer, prime etc. I've never bothered much with telly before.

Dowser I really do appreciate my parents still sing around but I keep wondering how long is left. Morbid I know but my parents are wonderful and they've always just been there.
The fact I still have a living grandparent suggests maybe I'm being a bit silly.bit we've had a few family deaths recently :(

I'm 23 and love "granny pants"

40 is nothing! I had very young DC at that age, had lost the baby weight, and looking at pictures from the time look a good 10 years younger.

Something went very wrong when I turned 50 though ☹️ My latest ‘old’ thing is that after a few years of gum disease my teeth are starting to wobble and fall out ☹️

55 here. yes to
bifocals
chin hairs
creaky joints
crepey neck
vaginal atrophy (vagifem is your friend)
hot flushes and a never ending menopause
grey pubes!!!!! oh, the horror!

Fashionable 17yo has granny pants. Luffs them.

I had a puzzle magazine subscription for about 5 yrs when I was a teen. used to spend hours doing jigsaws in those hrs, too.
I got into gardening while in my 20s but no interest now in my 50s. It's just a chore.
I Never wanted raves, clubs, binge drink, casual sex.

I Did just start a new technical job in new industry, though.

Maybe people are just people.

I bought a jigsaw

I'm 49 this month.

Went to a HIIT class at the gym this morning and nearly walked out during the warm-up in a peri-menopausal strop. I was the oldest in the class by a good 20 years so the only one who has to worry about fucking up my decrepit knees if we bunny jump up and down the track. FFS! Takes a good 20 mins for my old joints to warm up. If the knees aren't hurting, my lower back is or my wrist. There's always something bloody hurting.

My hair has always been fine but now it's also thinning in patches (stress at work caused a lot of hair loss and it's never really recovered). I hate my hair. It makes me feel so old.

I don't have many wrinkles (one of the few advantages after a lifetime of putting up with really oily skin) but the jowls have started. I was out wearing a beanie today (because of the wind) and it just emphasised the jowls even more. No chin hairs though but maybe that's because I'm so lacking in hair generally.

I do quite a lot of exercise so my body is in pretty decent shape but nothing can stop the boobs sagging. And don't get me started on jowls again.

I put hand cream on every night before bed in an effort to stop my hands giving my age away. I also moisturise my body daily but I still have some thread veins that have appeared on the back of my thighs. Grr!

I stopped wearing heels 10 years ago. I used to wear them all the time but the balls of my feet started burning so much (and so quickly) as the skin got thinner.

I take Tamoxifen (for breast canver prevention as I'm high risk) and when I started I was told that one of the side effects was mood swings. I didn't think it was possible for anything to make me more grumpy. I was wrong. I just blame everything on being old.

I have varifocal glasses and multifocal contacts but I get so fed up of squinting at small prints on bottles etc . Took me a while to realise that the world hadn't gone mad and decreased font size globally. It seems I'm the problem rather than the font size.

But what I do like about being older is the confidence. Definitely the silver lining in the cloud of ageing.

I am definitely a lot more confident and more forthright. Not sure if it's a good thing. My body is starting to betray me now though, lots of little health problems that just won't be fixed by having a positive attitude. I've also had major surgery, which it's taking me a long time to recover from. Not inordinately long, although to me it feels like it. I mentioned to my GP that I still felt really tired even some time after it and he was like "well, yes, you will". That has definitely got me thinking of mortality and more aware of physical location limitations. Not something that crossed my mind before, so I guess I'm lucky in that sense that I've got to 45 without it being a concern.

Don't know why the stray 'location' is in there.

Sorry to hear that stealth
I think I was 44 when dad passed away and 64 when mum passed

Mum was youngest child in family so was only 38 when my gran died
She was born during the reign of Queen Victoria
I was telling someone I was one of only a handful of children still standing when the Asian flu wentvriund
That was 1957 😱