I am very much no longer young

[StealthPolarBear]

I am turning forty this year and am having a mild and amusing mid life crisis.
Lots if little things, but the latest is that I've just tried to brush away a stubborn eye brow hair that was lodged just under my eye... It was a wrinkle.
I have also developed joint pain, in my thumb of all places.
Please tell me this is as bad as it gets :o

@StealthPolarBear

Thank you for the bday wishes.

I'm not sure what the medical term is, it's just good old arthritis from various bones being broken due to horse riding but me never actually bothering to get them fixed. They just seem to calcify and fuse together

For those of u worrried about ur chin hair. It grows out coiled. And then uncoils. You think u have missed it but u haven’t. Just thought that’d would make u feel better. Now if I could only see in the mirror anymore I could check

I turn 50 this year.

For Christmas dh bought me a band tshirt from Amazon, but it was the wrong size so I exchanged it for an orthopaedic knee cushion. It made me ridiculously happy and fucking mortified all at the same time.

Dd1 (who is going to be 13 this week) has asked for one for her birthday....which made me feel slightly better.

I'm nearly 43. Can no longer do my annual fringe grow out/rechop as I can't afford the bloody Botox needed underneath it. It's a ballache the constant fringeing every day.

Ah this thread has made me feel bad! I'm 21 and the massive maternity knickers have become a staple, and the vest top cardigan combo I used for breastfeeding is about as fancy as I get these days. Crap

I have an orthopaedic knee cushion. Best twenty quid I ever spent.

Tescovalue, take it from someone with a knackered bod, a young healthy body is a wonderful thing to have indeed, maternity knickers or not. Early motherhood isn't glam but you'll be out of that soon and zipping around enjoying yourself with your kids and that's a really lovely time of your life. The rest comes when it comes, and it will, but you've got a good few decades, hopefully, before you have to think about this shit. That's brilliant. Have a good time.

I’m nearly 48. I eye large granny pants and think about how comfortable they look. Clearly I am the Ancient of Days.

I'm nearly 49 and bought a multipack of granny pants by mistake. Had recent abdominal surgery and actually wore them blessing in disguise.

Bah , you’re all amateurs . I’m 47 and yesterday I actually looked through a betterware catalogue that was delivered , with interest !

I’m in a profession that requires me to be fairly fit , but it’s taking me longer to get to the same standard than it used to , and my knees and feet are shot . I’m hanging on for grim death for the next two years and then I’m out . I can’t wait .

I love these threads, it's like competition to see how old before your time you can be

Getting old is a privilege, what's the alternative?

I'm about to turn 40 too. Recently it's been brought home to me that I actually am middle aged. As in, I'm the responsible adult that both the older generation and the younger generation look to for help. In one week I had dd1 (19, away at uni) messaging me saying she needed to come home for a bit as she wasn't coping, mil (early 70s, widowed) asking for help because her only remaining brother had died and she couldn't deal with all the paperwork for that so soon after losing her DH (he died just over 2 years ago), and my mum (almost 70, still pretty active) telling me about her and my dad's health issues that they are going to need help with. Add in working full time and having a much younger, primary aged dd2 who had a birthday plus party that same week and I was a wreck.

This must be what my mum and dad were doing while I was a teenager. I thought they were just crap at coping, but now I'm in the middle I'm just as crap at coping with it all, if not crapper because at least they had one of them working very part time in order to deal with the family issues.

I can cope with looking older, wearing comfy pants, and I can't wait till I stop having periods (I'm not looking forward to the menopause part, but not having periods was the one benefit of pregnancy and breastfeeding), but the responsibility for aging parents as well as my children is overwhelming. It's hopefully only going to get worse as well, as I hope my parents and mil have many years left.

Anyone else out there who is over 40 and would like to conceive again?

I don't want to be old before my time. I am grateful for my health and fitness. However I am seeing the mortality of the people around me and realising that significant stages of my life are over.

Betterware? Pah! I see your Betterware and raise you the Kleeneze brochure and the Damart catalogue.

Big knickers
Reading Glasses
I feel that my neck is the most telling part of my body. It is crepey and lined.

I'm going to be 45 this year and am definitely in denial about being 'middle aged!

I've just discovered that dd's friends mum was four years older than me when she had her, and suddenly I feel young again. And a desire to check my coil is still in place.

Ah Stealth, glad you're feeling young again. My great-grandma had her last baby at 43.

I was going to say, don't worry about youth, it returns. I'm 61 and I feel like a seventeen year old. I have no responsibilities - nothing to think about except what I'm going to wear and which 'boys' like me. It's not too bad.

Just wait until you're 65! Definitely see my mother when I look in the mirror and try to avoid doing that at all costs when I have my glasses on 😳😱

I should mention DD is nine! In some ways I'm sad the baby days are behind me but in other ways I'd hate to go back. I want to rewind time.
So life easy at 65? But why? Don't you have bills, responsibilities, grandchildren? I do look back on my teens and early 20s as the golden years, independence and fun with no responsibilities. Of course they're valuable because they are so short. Everyone grows up, friends without children aren't partying and having fun every night.

Ssd, yy. My overwhelming thought as I went for surgery was "I'm not done yet". So glad it turned out to be true.

Mid thirties here and I think I might be starting to get old because Monty Don is starting to look sexually appealing

My washing machine is broken, had to go to laundrette this week. Put the washing on and nipped next door for a cheeky glass of white whilst waiting. I felt so rebellious and realised that this what the most exciting thing had I've done in 5 years.

Hrm well drinking wine in a kebab shop, guess we all have to get our kicks somewhere. 🤣🤣

So life easy at 65? But why? Don't you have bills, responsibilities, grandchildren?
Grandchildren are a joy. The rest is... inconsequential. Be happy. You're young, you look good, people are hot for you, enjoy it.

Oh, by the way, being... ahem... older does not mean you have to find Monty Don attractive. Or maybe I just haven't reached that age yet.