Excluded from school. Year 1 aged 6.

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Hi everyone
Been a while since I posted on MN. But I've never posted in this group before.
My 6 yr old child is struggling at school socially. He has a referral to cahms in, referral to Educational Pyschologist, Community Peadiateician, CFIT and a few others
He hits other children, kicks, nips, shouts.
This started at the back end of reception class. I noticed stuff at home and mentioned to school but because he didn't show the behaviour they didn't say or do anything.

Now he is terrorising the class. He has an IEP in place and does anger management with WESAIL through the local council.

Academically he is doing well and is on year 2 reading books, is brilliant at his maths and spelling. But socially is where he lets himself down as school say.

He prefers 1-1 support so will do something in class that gets him removed because he likes to sit in the headteacher or the deputy heads office because it's quiet and he has that 1-1 support.

He prefers adult company and has said many times he's hates other kids especially his age or younger.
He has been brought up with older brothers and adults.

On Friday at 2.25 I got a phone call to say could I go to school asap...He has been excluded for 1.5 days and is not allowed back till Tuesday as the 1.5 has been included with Friday

I have a reintergrating meeting at 3.15 on Tuesday when I collect him. But is there anything I need to ask or question?

TIA

From what you've posted, I think the school sounds as though they are being very fair with you. They could have permanently excluded for the original incident and were prepared to accommodate DS back in school before the reintegration meeting and moved it to later in the day as you (and presumably also his DF) initially couldn’t make the earlier time.

School are going to be limited by what outside agency support there is and appear to be putting what support they can in and have made the right referrals. The exclusions will help trigger these higher levels of intervention. In a world of short resources, what there is has to be targeted towards those with a measurably (counting the number of occasions and days) higher level of need. Not excluding only hides the difficulties and prevents access to the help. Also, it does give everyone a little breathing space.

There is no point in School applying for an EHCP assessment until they have sufficient evidence of the strategies they have already tried, as the application will be rejected and they can't reapply for 6 months.

Depend in your Local Authority, the EHCP assessment teams may still work, and the consideration panels continue to sit, through the summer holidays. If the school won't be ready to apply until next term, and you are in a position to do so, you could ask the SENCo whether it is worth you applying for the EHCP assessment now yourself, if you have written reports from the consultant etc. to support the application, in order to start the process potentially two months sooner than school would be able to.

Your Local Authority should have a parent support/ partnership team or officer, although what help is on offer varies. Google the Local Authority name + Local Offer to find this and the link to your local parent support group. You might find there are also parent sessions that you can book or drop-ins, e.g. with the educational psychologist or behaviour team, possibly not so many at this time of year.
Otherwise, Ipsea and Scope have helplines to ring in your situation, and there are probably others.

Apple23 I have no written paperwork. The only things I have are exclusion letters. I have nothing to show his behaviour to anyone...only my word. School have a full file of his ABC forms and everything else.