"you seem to be mixing up anxiety and a learning disability" 
"Having anxiety doesn't mean you need to be treated like a child and coddled" it doesn't mean she needs to be bullied either!
"You keep basically saying "don't tell the truth to the OP because she has anxiety and it will make it worse"." Er no! What I'm saying is you present the truth to her in a way that's not gonna make her throw walls up!
"The reason the OP lacks confidence is not because of anxiety but because of being out of the workplace." That's a huge assumption. It's more likely the op was out of the workplace initially as a result of the anxiety/breakdown then op has (perhaps wrongly can't know for sure) associated working with anxiety and so that coupled with the initial cause for the anxiety is making her feel like it's too big a mountain to climb.
"Honestly your issues don't sound like chronic anxiety AT ALL. They sound like other mental illnesses that you are boxing under anxiety for the sake of lecturing other people on this thread" my main DIAGNOSIS (by a psychiatrist & agreed by all the other psychiatrists I've seen) is contamination OCD which is an ANXIETY DISORDER, the agoraphobia is a response to the OCD but is also an ANXIETY DISORDER (again diagnosed by psychiatrist) if you have the qualifications & experience that mean you know better and think I have a different pathology I'd LOVE to know because that would mean different treatment and possibly closer to a cure! As for the chronic element - is lifelong allowed?
"The advice the OP is getting is completely appropriate for CHRONIC ANXIETY. Exposure therapy baby steps is the term I used but essentially the same thing. Do things that induce a little but not too much anxiety working through the fears rationally i think I said about thinking about why it makes op anxious using medication yep I addressed that too. There are many different medications and it takes time to find the right regime per patient behavioral techniques breathing exercises, mindfulness, meditation, yoga I mentioned & said there's other techniques which can help building back up to feared activities I said this too that while working for her mum is a good START she needs to build on her successes and increased confidence and work in other roles, for people she doesn't know as well etc - these things WORK." So you see on this we don't actually disagree.
"You are the only one on the thread arguing that these things do not work and OP shouldn't try" as noted above that is actually the OPPOSITE of what I have said.
"You clearly don't have or understand chronic anxiety." I'd love to see you try and tell that to the psychiatrists, clinical psychologists & cpns I've been treated by over the last almost 13 years. I'm sure they'd love to know they're all completely wrong and don't know how to do their jobs.
I've had periods of wellness in that time, one particular psychologist was great but sadly for me has left the county. The main barrier to staying well has been the meds side. Either they've stopped working or I've taken an extremely bad reaction (mainly physical ones) to meds that were previously working really well. It's very frustrating.
When I've got the situation where the meds I'm on are working and I have input with psychology I can function relatively well.
In the last few months I had to stop taking the meds I was on and we're working quite well for a few years, I was even applying for jobs etc. Then I became allergic and even with antihistamines and other meds to treat the reactions to TRY and stay on them cos they worked so well it just wasn't possible. So I'm now on a "new" (to me) medication which worked initially but now isn't.
"You are entitled to your opinion. I find graphista quite knowledgeable" thank you. I don't profess or claim to be an expert on other peoples anxiety, it varies so greatly in severity and triggers, there really can be the most odd triggers for people, a cousins child is afraid of a certain very common household item which is very difficult to avoid.
"Let’s be honest, this thread would have gone differently if OP had said words to the effect of “I am unable to work due to severe anxiety but DH is encouraging me to work. Despite trying various treatments for my mental health problems, I am still too ill to work.”" Totally agree, seems people don't want to make the effort to understand the issues, I could understand it to a degree in the earlier parts of the thread before op made it clear just how bad her mh is/has been but after? And posts by posters who even quoted the op's posts where she'd made that clear? Disgusting! Complete lack of compassion!
"trying to turn this woman against her DH when she's indicated absolutely no evidence of wrongdoing" I don't think I've seen anyone doing that. I said I thought that the husband has (out of a mistaken belief it was helping) allowed op to stay in her "safe zone" for too long - but not out of any malice! Purely from a good place but just not understanding that this has compounded her difficulties. And as I'm guessing he's neither a mh professional himself nor by the sounds of things been advised by any on op's behalf (which as I noted has been done for me and I found really helpful)
Within a close personal relationship and in relating to the patient loved ones can sometimes wrongly think doing X FOR the patient is helpful and I've found myself even MY telling them that it isn't advisable there was difficulties in that
A - they didn't believe me that was the advice
B - they thought that it was just because I don't trust them which they found hurtful (they were wrong but I can understand why they thought that)
C - to them it seems a quick and easy solution to the immediate problem but they're not necessarily looking to the long term effects.
When a mh professional explained it to them it meant they knew the advice was true, they knew it wasn't a criticism of their offer of help and they were helped to understand the reasoning behind why I had to do it myself.
"It’s a shame, as we should have each other’s backs." It IS a shame.
Op posted in chat. If they'd posted in Aibu which is known for being "robust" I could understand to a degree especially the earlier posts.
Mn can be a lot of things but it's intended mainly to be a forum for support (which is not the same as always agreeing with posters or "mollycoddling" them, you can disagree or contradict people without vilifying them). Support can mean pointing out where someone (in your opinion) is taking the wrong approach to something but particularly I feel where the poster and the subject is mental illness and so they're possibly quite fragile, then I think aggressive, stern posts aren't acceptable.