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Flowers for Christmas from new boyfriend.

214 replies

seriouslypanicking · 20/12/2018 14:47

What would you think if you got a bunch of flowers from someone you’ve been dating for a year.

My oh just gave me flowers from the internetthey arrived today but the way he’s been messaging me the past week leaving me clues and made it appear I was getting Crown Jewels or something a bit more than flowers.

I’m well aware I appear like a spoilt brat but he’s going away to his family today so I know that’s all he’s bothered to get me. Whereas I spent quite a bit of time and thought on his present. Feeling a bit deflated to be honest.

I can almost feel the grow up comments coming in already as I type this and I’d say the same, but this guy is now sulking because I apparently didn’t congratulate him on his really thoughtful gift enough so now I’m somehow in the doghouse.

For further info I received them alone and opened them up straight away put them in a vase and sent a photo thanking him to say there were lovely.

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AnoukSpirit · 22/12/2018 15:13

The trouble he went through was that his bank account is based in America and apparently he couldn't figure out how to switch the delivery address from the cardholders address so almost had my friend buy them for me and transfer...

I'm not the most technologically skilled person on the planet, but don't you just tick the little box that says "different delivery address"?

This update just confirms my impression that the only reason he got your friend involved was to create a performance. "Look what a caring boyfriend I am, look how much trouble I'm going to..."

Partly to use against you in this unfolding scenario, and partly so that if you were to raise doubts with your friends in the future they might respond with "but he's so lovely, look at all the effort he went to over those flowers..."

It's very calculating, very manipulative, and completely abnormal.

Youmadorwhat · 22/12/2018 15:57

I get the impression he WANTS to be dumped 🤔

Pieceofpurplesky · 22/12/2018 16:51

I may be reading this wrong but did you text thank you and then ring him and say you were disappointed?

generalexpert · 22/12/2018 17:10

Forget my comment about judging him on the other 364days. He sounds like a utter bellend!

Gifts aren't important to me at all, but i know they are to my wife so I try hard! I've had to apologise (and make it up) over the years about some of my crap gifts, but would never go on the defensive.

Zucker · 22/12/2018 17:19

Do you have any clue what I went through trying to get you that lame ass flower arrangement? What that piece of shit cost?

Actually laughing out loud. Bloody muppet deserves nothing more than your silence from here.

GreyGardens88 · 22/12/2018 17:24

I'd be fine with them for valentines or birthday (spring birthday) but it's a bit weird at Christmas. I've never heard of anyone giving flowers for a christmas present before

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seriouslypanicking · 22/12/2018 17:57

Nope, no text then phone call. As far as he knows I’m happy with them. He’s only upset because it didn’t go as the imaginary act in his head.

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Gramgram · 22/12/2018 18:24

Is it possible he has been looking up the meaning of flowers? A red tulip can represent true love. Somehow I doubt it though.

Maybe he was expecting a different picture. Honestly I think you should give him a wide berth.

Take care of yourself, and have a lovely Christmas with your DS.

ChristmasFlary · 22/12/2018 18:39

The email he sent alone would be enough to break it off. There was pure venom directed at you in that.

Chocolatecoffeeaddict · 22/12/2018 18:40

His response to you show he knows he's bought you a crap present and he's embarrassed by it.

Insomnibrat · 22/12/2018 23:28

I've just read your updates.....

Oh god, he's AWFUL.

Please please run fast and far from this horrible man. It might be the best thing you've ever done. Shock

lottiegarbanzo · 22/12/2018 23:49

But tulips are spring flowers!

And the rest.

Applepudding2018 · 23/12/2018 00:04

With regards the presents, I wouldn't be thrilled at the flowers but I'd be even less thrilled at slippers - Barbour or not.

Some people are better at choosing presents than others. Some people put a higher importance on presents than others.

But from your updates this isn't about the actual gift. He sounds a dick. Better to find out now than in 5 years time.

Honeyroar · 23/12/2018 00:06

Well he's right about one thing. It was a lame ass, pile of shit present! You could give him that bit.

It was a pretty rubbish present, you could have swallowed the disappointment and moved on if he'd not started with the aggressive messages about how poorly you thanked him. I think your reply to him was perfect. He does need to grow up! Hopefully he will leave you alone - you don't need that in your life!

Flowers at Xmas are a no for me - the house is full of trees and decorations, there's nowhere for them. They're a fantastic present for the week after Xmas when the decorations come down and the house looks dull.

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seriouslypanicking · 23/12/2018 19:19

You all ready for the update:

Ok,here are the facts;
I was so excited, so excited getting you those.
Notifications would come in at 2 or 3:00 in the morning and I’d wake to read them.
I saw the we’re in ^^and mentioned it, again so excited.
I saw that they were delivered to
Even more excited.

I email to ask how you like them, she says call her now.
I call, no answer. No big deal as you might not have been able to talk.
You call back,
Not one mention of it.
This is 4Am

6Am I am now in the bathroom throwing up.
My phone starts going off with work an hour later as I’m laying in the bathroom sick and crushed at the same time.
I turn my ringer off so I can go back to sleeping n puking in the bathroom.
FYI I was sick for two days bed ridden. I had to leave my staff meeting half way thru because I thought I was going to get sick.

You call twice while I was asleep, not three times and texted why am i ignoring you.
I finally get myself dressed and head out to work after telling you I wasn’t.

From here everything is mute but one thing that entire day;
All I was really dying for us you to call now that you knew I was up.
You never did.
No, I didn’t ask, why would I?
Then you feel the need to tell me this is not your fault, it’s mine, all in my head, you’ve done nothing (you were right there), how that I’m acting like a child, . etc etc etc.
In two of your emails you started off just like your last one, so sweet and loving that I was smiling.... then come the insults and lectures of how wrong I am.
You made me feel something TERRIBLE with all of that.
Then you are not getting why I’m upset.
Your right, what possible reason would I have for being upset?

This was after 2 days of no contact by the way!

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PinkAvocado · 23/12/2018 19:23

Shock wow that’s all about him then!

Thespace · 23/12/2018 19:30

Sorry I don’t really get all that and where you thanking him and sending the photo fits in.

woollyheart · 23/12/2018 19:56

Really confused here! Why would he be so excited about a bunch of tulips being delivered?

VimFuego101 · 23/12/2018 20:06

Oh dear god, what a lot of drama. If you like flowers, they're nice enough, but it doesn't show a lot of thought or that you really know someone they well.

FlyingMonkeys · 23/12/2018 20:10

He was laid in the bathroom throwing up and crushed at 6am as you didn't like his tulips enough? Enjoy 2019 without his drama OP

LynetteScavo · 23/12/2018 20:27

Flowers aren't a Christmas present. Are you sure there was my some jewellery hidden in them?

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 23/12/2018 20:31

Grin tit

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seriouslypanicking · 23/12/2018 20:31

woollyheart your not the only one that’s confused.

I don’t get the drama either to be honest.

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earlybyrd · 23/12/2018 20:34

Have you ended it yet? What a twat

Insomnibrat · 23/12/2018 20:35

Honestly I'd stop responding now. It's a shame and terribly disappointing but his mask has slipped OP.

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