Say here things you can't say in real life

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Interested to hear things people really wish they could say in real life, but can't, for whatever reason.

This is a safe space..... let's offload!!

You have the audacity to tell people that I was the one that broke up our family home when you physically and mentally beat me up, told the same people I was a shit mum to our son, yet I was the one to pick up the pieces when you didn't show up for contact and paid for everything when you tried to avoid child support for eighteen years.

Your son is bisexual, and was sending pictures via email of himself in compromising positions with sex toys wearing my underwear seven months after we got married, and was also on various dating sites for swingers/gay men and you wonder why our marriage lasted only seven years.

Exh #2 you're a lying cunt, and I'm sick to death of your bullshit. Plus being emotionally abusive, and coercive to a nine year old so that you can get what you want is sick in the head. Plus tell people you are bi instead of keeping it bottled up.

I’m horny as anything but I don’t fancy my husband and I don’t want to have sex with him.

tink1990

I completely understand. I too have never been so lost or broken.

I'm increasingly upset that I have woken up when I've wished not to.

Today especially.

to you

I hate myself for how much I hate feeding you. I’m worried that if you don’t learn to accept a bottle soon I’m going to burn out and break down.

There are 4 parts to your family in-laws.
You don't get to make unilateral decisions without consulting everyone. I realise I'm the tolerated in- law- I figure that out when you gave me the shiftiest birthday gift ever, and organised SIL and my joint birthday without asking me what I'd like.
I think you are a pack of over- educated elitist wankers with no manners and no idea about real life.
Who the fuck decides what kind of gift giving ( Kris Kringle ) we are doing at the end of November and neglects to tell us until I've done Christmas shopping. Then give me no other info, so I return gifts I'd already bought and wait for weeks to find out which bloody child we've got- only to find out that we aren't one the list because I'd said that I'd already got stuff for more than one kid.
So fuck you, I had to rebuy all the fucking gifts again.
You hate my father so he isn't allowed to join in on Christmas Day, so we are just invited for dessert knowing we are having lunch with my rejected family - only to not tell us all of you are leaving one hour after we get there to head of for a variety of overseas trips. Fuck you. We drove for 16 hours for an hour of your time.

And asking for donations in lieu of adult gifts for a goat in Kenya, which will equal the fucking eye ball of a goat by the time the administration of the charity have sucked out their is a huge wank. Do something useful and donate to DV or a refugee in our own damn country.

And next time I'm useful or one of my friends are- and you make rare phone call to me - have the courtesy to say thank you when the task is done or provide a phone call if the favour is no longer needed.

I'm not going to be polite any more, be warned.

Many typos - big rant - sorry

Ok here goes
I miss my mum
My partner's daughter is entitled emotionally immature , manipulative, self centered , and has No boundaries .
Boy that feels better.

I miss you already and I cannot believe how gentle you were when you hugged me yesterday. Within you rests this beautiful, warm person and I wish you would show more of your loving self, but I know that you are scared.

To my mother: For the second time in a row, going on holiday was more important to you than actually making sure your grandchildren are seen to this Christmas. Your beautiful grandchild is 2 1/2 years old and you still have not even bothered to meet them. Fuck off with your pity-party to others and accept that I am never allowing your poison to hurt me again.

Your boyfriend is a 45 year old man who still wears a grubby baseball cap - he looks like a surly teenager. And a rude one at that, he wears it indoors.

I hope he leaves you. Its took 7 years for dh to see what you are really like. No one believed me, but I knew what you were really like and now so does your brother and mother.

I feel depressed too but I have to support you.
I worry everyday that something terrible will happen but don't won't to see the look on peoples faces when I say it, so I keep it to myself.

I may have massively fucked up and I wish I had left things as they were. What I did was intended as a 'thank you' and to send our best wishes at Christmas but I fear it was completely the wrong thing to have done and that you may think it's inappropriate. I'm such an idiot. I shouldn't have listened to my heart this time and I wish I could turn back the clock

B, I wish you could just die. It's what you want, it's what we want for you. This is like bloody water torture - I'm beginning to think we've slipped through a wormhole into some alternative universe where this is how it's going to be for all eternity. We can't plan, we can't orgnise nything without factoring in some kind of alternative arrangements just in case. I even second guess myself every time I want to have a glass of wine with my dinner in case I have to drive.

P, why do you only ever contact me when you want something? So many times we've invited you here - we've lived here over 2 years, but you've never seen it. Or my DC's houses. Christ, you can't even be arsed to send them a birthday card or a Christmas card. And yet I know I'm going to get grief from you for not inviting you for Christmas. Even though you wouldn't have come.

I'm glad your marriage failed. She is a horrible excuse for a human being, and you radiate kindness and generosity - she has no idea yet what she's losing.

I want to tell my friend that I think she's an absolute idiot for not getting her children vaccinated. We live in a highly populated area of London. I think she's selfish and stupid. None of her reasons make any sense!! She's putting her kids at serious risk and should be ashamed rather than proud.

You are a fucking self-centered mean witch who plays favorites with your children and grandchildren. It’s hurtful and mean-spirited and I am so delighted I live nowhere near you and your acid tongue. Know I grin and bare our yearly visit and would very happyily go no contact if I had to. Your son is one of the kindest, hardest working men I have ever met. But I see the scars you left with your inability to love unconditionally. Don’t think for one second we will be rushing up to help in your old age. Lean on the other children you have handed vast sums of money to and leave us alone.

Wow that felt really good

Another one.

You are my lovely friend but I feel like I'm watching a slow motion car crash. Why did you have a baby with a cocklodger? I'm waiting for the day you become a single mother. I hope I'm wrong but I doubt it.

DH: I love you with all my heart, but I do wish that you had a more active libido. I miss good sex. I miss time just as us. I also wish you were more chatty. I do love our silent times but I want more passion and I'm too self conscious with my weight gain to take charge.

L: I fancy the arse off you and even though I know it would destroy our relationships (and I do love DH), I love any form of attention from you. I'd love to shag you, just once. And stop only messaging me drunk. The hot and cold is annoying

S: I love you as a sister, but you are spoilt and entitled. And stop calling your DH babe. It's awful.

M: the whole world doesn't revolve around you and stop being obsessed with your figure. I felt better when you were fat.

DM: our family are arseholes. They might throw money about, but they aren't nice people. They are ridiculous. And your husband has a dark side that I will never, ever tell you about. I wouldn't even tell my therapist.

SD: I want another baby and you can fuck off with saying that I can't handle it. I have MH problems.

World: I just want someone to find me attractive.

@LancashireTea I get your message to L... I am in a similar situation

@cadoth it's worse because I see L every day at work. I guess half of the attraction is that he is very similar to DH, but a much more confident and chatty DH.
Just wish he wouldn't blow hot and cold. If it was one or the other I'd feel more in control.

L - I tell you in real life that I think you should rest. But here I can say the truth. Are you trying to fuck up your life? Do you know what happens to people who have this illness and try to ignore it? I've told you one story about someone who neglected this illness and it affected the rest of their lives, I have others. Yes you can take some time off. Yes you have to go to bed and rest. Yes it's fucking boring and miserable and you have to watch your mental health as well. But you are going to give yourself PERMANENT health problems. You're not even 50 yet and you have no idea what that means - well, I do. For fuck's sake be an adult and go off work.

D - she's your wife and she is risking damaging her health for good. You are the only person she might actually listen to. I actually like you very much but I despise your behaviour right now. Do you actually love her? If this is your religion, then it's a shit religion. Look after her first, and then talk to one of your numerous gurus about where the religion fits into it, not the other way round.

cadoth and LancashireTea I understand too.

Wow this thread looks very cathartic! Sorry to all you posters with awful people in your lives.

You have my and sympathies.

I could go on a lot but I’ll try be short, here’s mine:

MIL you are ungrateful cow for ignoring me in the street. I wish I hadn’t spent 7 years visiting you every week and listening to you.

SIL - I hate you and truly wish me or my son have no contact with you for the rest of our lives. You have tried turning my own son against me, have stirred up dislike for me because your brother was an asshole and walked out on us because his sons sen needs made him ‘stressed’. What a bitch.

DP you are weak, disloyal, spineless and will send me down the river just to make yourself look good in others eyes. For what? For peoples opinions of you that will not matter.

I’m the mother of your child / nephew / grandson. And I tell you all DP and in laws, you are welcome to your boring insular bitchy nasty family! You are all spending Christmas together while I have our son at my families - who never had a bad word with any of you horrible people. To hell with you all! Me and DS are going to have a fantastic Christmas!

I wish my ILs would move overseas. They are beyond help and I am sick of them draining us emotionally.

MIL I am sorry you're having to slim it here because your other 2 sons are busy working or away on holiday. This does not mean you get to be rude or make cheeky comments though!!

I am wishing my life away, waiting for when we can see each other again. Messages from you are the highlight of my day. Please don't bail out on me again in January.