Say here things you can't say in real life

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Interested to hear things people really wish they could say in real life, but can't, for whatever reason.

This is a safe space..... let's offload!!

SIL I despise you. Once your daughter was away from you at uni your husband couldn’t move abroad for his job quick enough. You are the reason he and your children have anxiety issues. You have no health issues. You crashed your car because you wanted a new mini not because you had a sudden and now totally unexplained blackout.
Now you’re not the wife of a local person of influence you have lost your status. Ha!
You are a witch for leaving my darling ILs to look after your pet and adult son who can drive and has a car.
I have taught my DD to shout ‘ don’t say that about my mummy’ as loud as she can if you ever try to bad mouth me when you try to get her on her own again. Bitch.
And to lie about cancer to get the attention from your brother ,my now DH,when his first wife fucked off with another man is beyond sickening. One day soon you’ll get what you truly deserve.

I don’t miss being in your choir any more. I was sick and tired of being a second alto and getting all the shit parts, and never feeling like I got to sing anything remotely interesting.

I was sick and tired of being on the committee - and sick of all of you who couldn’t be arsed to take a turn on the committee, so it was always left to a few of us, to put up with the over long committee meetings, and all the whingeing from you about our decisions.

I was sick and tired of me and others getting our heads bitten off for having the temerity to suggest a change of rehearsal venue.

I am a musician and a singer, but all I feel is relief, that I am not involved in any concerts this year, and that I am not having to trek out to rehearsals that will be a nasty mixture of stress (learning difficult music and worrying about making mistakes) and boredom because the second alto parts are so uninteresting - I honestly believe we get the notes that the composer wants in the harmonic texture, but can’t fit into the lovely lines they are writing for all the other voices, so they are randomly wedged into the alto parts - and the really random lines - give them to the second altos - no-one cares if they are enjoying their part.

This is the first Christmas for years that I haven’t sung a carol concert - I love the Christmas music, but I have not regretted leaving for one single nanosecond.

Sorry - rather niche rant.

I feel as though I am dying. I don't want to die just yet. Please.

Neighbour, what has gone wrong in your life to turn you so nasty? Can't you see you've lost all of your friends?
Stop taking it out on me.

Dear Friend
Sometimes when I talk to your son, I wonder when we will hear about the bodies he has buried in the garden.
He actually scares me.
And I don't think breastfeeding an 8 year old is really doing him any favours.
In fact, I thik you have raised two boys who will make some woman's life a fucking nightmare. Its like watching a crime being committed in slow motion.
And going to mass 4 time a weekt won't change the fact your husband is an evil cunt and your life must be hell and I just wish you would leave him.

Stop claiming you've read everything. You get right on my tits with constantly talking about yourself and needing to be the centre of attention. You're thick, you know you're thick. And you look like an inflatable doll and those lip fillers are shit.

To the band I play in.... I love the music, and playing an instrument and singing is soothing to my soul. Until recently. The politics and bid for supreme power are getting right on my tits. And locking me out of drop box for the music is just a bit, well, odd. And when I endure a week when it is chaos becuase the person who was meant to do the music list, didn't, and no-one else has done it, and I offer to do it, out of rotation the following week? No. You would prefer the chaos, becuase the suggestion has not been made by someone with a willy, or by Snow White, who is a gorgeous woman who you all fancy.
And I have taken myself out of the WhatsApp group for now at least. One, you were all endlessly posting pics of scones etc I had to trawl through to find any important information, and it was wasting my life, and two, making angry faces because I had the temerity to suggest there was too much down time with no song list whilst we decided not to play. I didn't even say it was chaos, you could see it was, you there. I am not the problem here. The person concerned who didn't do the music is elderly, and obviously growing more confused as evidenced by a couple of incidents. Nevertheless he has access to the hallowed dropbox, and has had to give it to a relative to use it! I didn't even care that much about the feckin drop box, it's just the power play of being taken off it , and told "Woman, know your place". How can something we do 'for fun' be so stressful?! And don't even get me started on the financials...

@Zevitevitchofcwsmas I have pm'd you.

I am being bullied today has been awful. I need to leave but have nowhere to go. I feel so lost. Dont know what to do.

Tink1990

tink1990

I am too. Please try not to give it head space. Its not personal and it's something missing in their life thay they need to bully you. Can you go to HR?

I don't want MIL to come for Christmas. She's a dementor type and will make the whole week she's here a misery.

She hates our dog and won't give her a minutes piece. She's a martyr to her lack of appetite so will only have soup on Christmas Day and will make remarks about the rest of us eating the rest of the meal.

I can't bear it and we're driving the 3 hours to her home tomorrow night to bring her back to ours as she refuses to get on the bus...the bus she happily travelled on not so very long ago. DH is also expected to do the 6 hour round trip to take her home.

I have plans in place to escape often and to hide upstairs with wine as much as possible!

Thanks for the support, im sorry you are going through this too. I think I might go to them but it is so awkward. Ive started noting everything down as sometimes when I try to explain it sounds so petty. But it really truly isnt. Writing it down helps me to see this isnt petty. Oh god, I just dont want to go back

Oh hec, here's another one.... to my employer (zero hours stuff) You cancelled this morning's work with less than 12 hrs notice, and the only reason it wasn't even later was because I fully anticipated this due to previous form and sent a couple of messages to establish if you wanted me or not. I counted up that during the time I have 'worked' for you, you have cancelled half those times, without pay. So say out of 20 , I have completed and have been paid for 10 sessions. You have previously told me how much you earn, so its not that you are short of money, as you are still having massages, etc. I realise that you have been let down by clients so near to christmas, but to moan to me about it, when you do it to me all the time, is ironic, and a bit rich. You really don't see these things as being the same! And then summonsed me to coffee to collect my Christmas present. And then insisted that I opened the crappiest polyester christmas scarf ever.... I have agreed to work for you in a different capacity, which hopefully does not give you as much room to fuck about with my earnings, but if there's a loophole, you'll find it...And you do seem to be a nice person, but you are going through relationship issues, and you need to toss him aside, and I have listened to you endlessly offload, but really, you are one self-centred woman. I hope that if you sort The Knobber out you will become a bit more considerate, but I'm not holding my breath.

Dear c, we wish you could have shared your struggles. Leaving the way you did has had a massive impact on everyone who loved you. The kids are really struggling and I don't have the answers to help them through.

CH my confidence has been shot to peices since you turned weird on me. Learn to control your jealousy or you'll end up with no friends. I now see you for the controlling manipulative bitch that you are.

K I'm sorry my judgement was clouded by CH and wish I'd been stronger to stand up for you. You are genuine and she is not. I carry the guilt of treating you badly and I'm truly sorry.

FIL wake up and smell the coffee your wife is a nasty evil controlling bitch and if we never see her again that's fine with me. She's toxic and not good to be around the kids.

A it is not possibly to accidentally delete someone from your friends list. Stop treating me like a mug. And by the way your list of what was received last Xmas and your nasty comments by each person and gift is with me. You shouldn't have left in out to be found so this yr I send you nothing you ungrateful spiteful thing.

Ahhh that's better!

I don't know what it is about my ordinary life that fascinates you so much that you feel the need to stalk me. I saw you outside in your car watching me. I know you followed me around Tesco's. I was with my children, luckily they didn't notice.
I can't even tell anyone, because of another issue I have with another person. I'm already considered a paranoid nutcase.
But I took a pic of you sat outside in my car. And your car reg. logged it with police. I'm frightened of you.

Sat in your car, not my car.

Stay away from us this Christmas. Your lies have destroyed the family. You didn't care that your father has cancer. You lied anyway to protect yourself. I will never understand why members of the family do not want to hear the truth from us. Why they blindly believe your lies. Instead they have abandoned us when we are both ill but your father gravely so. Your pathetic FB memes just reinforce what a deeply flawed person you are. I hope you realise the damage you have caused but I suspect you are certain you are right. Go to hell.

SOmetimes, when you wake me at 3am shouting and screaming because the cover has come off your legs slightly, I hate you a bit.

New friend I've made this year, I'm really taken aback by how well we get on and how attracted I am to you. Amazingly, I think it's reciprocated. Which is nice. But dangerous....

When you get cake crumbs all over the floor DCs it makes me want to cry

Christmas- f**^ off already
Wish I could cancel the whole thing

IRL
"I know they're making a mess but I'm just happy DCs are eating something"

"I'm feeling really xmassy"

😂🙈 are we all frauds???

I hate Xmas at your house. I hate your house. It's small, dirty and ice cold. I don't like the village you live in, it's full of vile people, it's cold, wet, isolated, filthy and the best thing about it is the road out.

I'm relieved that you won't be there for Christmas. It feels like walking on eggshells when you come to stay and your perpetual misery does not interest me one bit. I don't understand how an intelligent woman could have lived this long and had such a limited experience of the world. In London. Did you live in a box?

I've really tried to get on with you. A bit of genuine effort from you wouldn't go amis.

1. I hate how much I don't hate you because I actually love you

1. I don't want you to leave

1. You're fucking up my head, fuck off!!!

1. I need to focus on my actual DP and stop being a total idiotic dickhead

I know you wrote a check for your mortgage down payment on a closed account, and caused all sorts of problems for our friend in realty who was trying to help you. You can stop acting like you've got your life together so much better than the rest of us.