talk me down! dd(14) poss pregnant

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just moved dds school bag of the settee and a bit of papers slid out, on it it says a due date, possible names and names of godparents.
now this wouldnt normally phase me as id just think it was teenage rambling EXCEPT..... ive been asking myself when shes next due on, as we have been away for 2 weeks and back now around 10 days and shes not been on during that time which got me thinking back to when i last bought her any pads and tbh i cant remember. im thinking around july time which would tie in with the due date wrote down.
shes out at the moment which may be a good thing as i dont know what the fuck to do now!!
please help me by giving some advice

I thought those tests no longer worked once you're a bit further along. If she got pregnant in July she could be in her 2nd trimester already.

My sister gave birth at 14.
She never told anyone she was pregnant.
She was a big girl and was always body conscious, so no one ever saw her without big baggy clothes.
It turned out that she was putting her san pro in the bin and hoping it would all go away.

Has she got a computer or laptop that you could have a look at while she is out? Her browser history might shed some light.

Could she of found out almost as soon as the period didn't come from the school nurse? When I was at school it was confidential and no parents was informed at all about it, or she could of simply just gone to pound land and got a pack of 3 and already knows x

I've been through the same situation with mine around the same age. She was pregnant and burying her head in the sand. Took ages before I could get her to face it and do a test. Little one is 5 now, and the light of our lives.

You need to open the conversation, keep calm, and allow it to take time and several goes as she may be bricking it. Good luck OP, pm me if there's anything I can do to help if you need it

another thing, she is quite open with me on subjects like this. it wasnt that long ago that she told me she was bi which is one of the reasons i didnt press the contraception talk as i assumed that there was a girl she was interested in instead

Sit her down when she gets in and just ask her calmly if she thinks may be or knows she is.

How difficult for you, my DD turns 14 next week and this makes me it’s so so young.

for you and finger’s crossed she’s not.

Agh, cut off! Anyway, I guess you've got an awkward conversation in your near future. It's as good an opportunity as any to talk about safe sex etc. Let us know how it goes, and good luck!

Well if it maybe eases your mind a bit OP, at around that age I can remember not only writing stuff like this down but I actually went out and bought a baby's name book! Ive no idea why as I'd not even had sex full stop.

Hey OP
I would suggest you try gently coax her to family planning clinic. (Regardless of whether she is or isn’t pregnant)
Pregnancy aside, she needs to understand about safe sex, and STIs.
My mom is a sexual health nurse and as embarrassing as it is to have these conversations I’m so glad she did talk to my brother and I about this all.
All the best

Hope this all works out

Good luck OP!

Yeah the godparents bit could just be teenage stuff, but the due date (especially if it would fit timeline) makes it seem more real..

Could the lack of sanpro be down to the fact that's she's on contraception like the depo etc? I was on the pill from 14 and I used to run the packs together to stop periods.

You're taking this very well OP, I remember my own mum hit the roof when she found out I was on the pill at 16. I'd have given anything to have a mother who I could talk to and rely on about such things.

If she fell pregnant in July then she's potentially missed a lot of the early antenatal care and screening windows so it definitely needs to be addressed quickly.

Here's hoping she's just put 2 and 2 together and come up with 5

You sound lovely OP - keeping everything crossed she’s not pregnant- so young x

" im more upset for her, as it will be due only a few months before she is supposed to go on a residential trip for 3 days, shes got big plans for college and uni and i dont want it to change that for her"

Just give her plenty of space to decide things, she is 14 but if she is pregnant then she will have to step up to it, and it is not the end of the world. Although, it must feel very tough.

Hand holding available.

Woah woah woah.

WHy are you going on about this ruining college for her?

She's 14, you're surely not assuming she's going to give birth to this baby?

If she's pregnant, the kindest thing you can do for her is take her for a termination!

So sorry OP, don't know what's going on with my posts

mycatplotsdeath dare I ask how hings went?

Ah op what a worry for you! When is she due home? I'd buy a pregnancy test ready for her to do, you'll only be thinking about it all night otherwise.

I was sexually active at 14, no abuse or coercion, just because I wanted to. 

@colditz that is absolutely not your call to make for anyone, no matter what age they happen to be.

Well.my periods were always very irregular and i didnt have sex untill i was 18 but anyway she needs to do a test before eithet of you can make any decisions .

@colditz surely that's a decision for the OP's daughter to make? IF she is pregnant, she's already considered names and godparents, chances are she's planning on keeping the baby

"She will have to step up to it"

no fuck that. She's a fucking child. Children do NOT have to 'step up' to childrearing just because they are unfortunately enough to be children with ovaries. She doesn't need to be punished for 20 years for being sexually active at 14