Uncomfortable realisations about yourself

[Casperandme]

I've had a couple of these recently, things I've realised about myself that are uncomfortable but at the same time things I wish I'd realised many years earlier.

In particular:

• there are all of these altruistic things I think I want to do one day but it's all bullshit, I don't actually want to, I just fancy myself the sort of person that would want to if that makes sense.
• I'm a gossip and I need to stop.

What are yours?

[NannyMcfanny]

When I say hyper I don't mean in a happy way, more of an angsty way.

[sar302]

I thought a lot of myself once I got my masters degree. Thought I'd have an awesome career. Graduated 9 years ago, and have made nothing of myself. Have a career that I don't want to do anymore, and all my friends are moving higher up and out-earning me. I thought I was special, but I'm actually reasonably average, and that hurts.

[PQRST]

I am VERY lazy (seems to be a common theme, presumably because we should all be doing stuff and are, instead on MN)

I am selfish, I get my DH to do a lot for me because I know he will

I need a lot of quiet time to do what I want to do (see also, selfish) and worry I'll struggle with small children

I'm a slob and I eat far too much.

@umpteennamechanges is me and I am umpteennamechanges

[prunemerealgood]

Umm, some of you want to get over yourselves :) Stop being dickish to people who love you and like you, it's not necessary.

(I lack empathy on occasion.)

[gamerchick]

Feeling a smite sorry for some of these husband's

[amusedbush]

I struggle with the term ‘lazy’ when describing myself because I hate any sort of physical exertion and I love doing absolutely naff all BUT I work hard at my career and have completed and degree (and am doing my Masters) while working full time. So I’m very lazy about some things, but not all.

I am, however, judgemental and very selfish. I am totally inflexible, I resent any sort of compromise and I want everything to be MY WAY ONLY. I’m married so I have to try really hard but I struggle to give an inch with anything.

[amusedbush]

Completed a degree*

[BlowPoke]

Pretty much everything that has been said here is true of me. Lazy, annoying, gossip, schadenfreude. I have no inner strength. I’ve achieved some things in my life through luck and natural ability but I’ve never put my mind to something hard and actually done it. I always think I could have done so much more but clearly that’s not true.

[BlowPoke]

Oh and I love Netflix and my kids annoy me

[BillywigSting]

I am spectacularly lazy and fundamentally misanthropic (there was a quote I saw a while ago that said something like 6 billion people in the world and I like four of them, it resonated deeply).

I'm cynical, sarcastic and reckon most people are actually a bit dim (though I don't necessarily exclude myself from the latter)

I'm scruffy and short tempered if I don't get enough sleep or time for myself.

I am slow to let people know if a situation or behaviour upsets me so when I finally do tell them it comes as a great shock or I am disbelieved.

I sometimes exaggerate the exciting things I have done because I don't want to sound boring

[Badhairday1001]

I’m a better person when I’m not in a relationship. I think being with somebody else brings out the worst in me. When I’m in a relationship I don’t compromise enough and can be selfish. I’m great when I’m single and able to do what I want.
It does worry me a bit that I have only been in one very long term relationship and maybe we just weren’t right for each other but I’m still condemning myself to a single life after one experience. I’m just the happiest I’ve ever been and quite scared to rock the boat.
I can be grumpy especially when tired, stressed or hungry. I’ve learned that it’s me with the problem in these situations and I shouldn’t take it out on other people.
I go in to things head first always thinking I’m right. I can take over situations if people don’t stop me. This ties in to relationships too, I need people around me who don’t let me always have my own way. I’m trying really hard to step back and listen to other people’s opinions and recognise there is more than one way to do things.
Other than that I have lots of positives. I’m fun, am a great friend and care about people and am really good at my job. Pretty happy with myself really.

[Dontfeellikeamillenial]

Oh god loads.

I'm fairly manipulative.

I'm a bit of a jekyll /Hyde character.

I'm a terrible flirt and absolutely have to have male attention from someone at work. I constantly have a crush on someone. Dunno but it makes the day go quicker and means I make the effort with my weight (not eating junk cos I want to look good) and means I dress better! I have absolutely no qualms about using my feminine wiles to get what I want.

I can read people easily and sometimes use this to my advantage.

'I m cynical, sarcastic and reckon most people are actually a bit dim (though I don't necessarily exclude myself from the latter)

^

This is me too.

[MysteriousQuinn]

Lazy, judgemental, bitchy, I talk too much, I'm too loud, I dominate conversations, I always assume that giving my opinion will help people, I'm quick to anger and very impatient.
I'm also very selfish, it's completely unintentional though I just genuinely don't think about other people most of the time.
I have very little empathy, always think 'oh fgs stop feeling sorry for yourself and sort the problem out'.
The main thing that I am trying to improve about myself at the moment is giving more of my attention to my children, they are well looked after but I don't give them enough of my time (because I'd rather do my own things, selfishness).
God I'm awful really when I think about it I do try my best to fight against my bad traits and be good mother and wife though.

[Womanlikeme]

I am very lazy indeed. I will always find the easiest way of doing something or preferably won’t do it at all.

I procrastinate and leave things till the very last minute. I have tried to analyse it and consider if it’s perfectionism but actually I know it’s just pure laziness.

I am always thinking of ways of making money without actually working for it.

[JackNamesThePlanets]

I have zero attention to detail and I'm reckless with money. I also have bad teeth

[Dontfeellikeamillenial]

I also have a humongous chip on my shoulder about being working class. I live abroad and one of the main perks for me is that they don't realise about the class system and just think my British accent is cute. Even though in the UK it marks me as some sort of pleb.

I wholeheartedly wish I'd have been to a grammar school in Sevenoaks.

BUT my upbringing did give me a resilience I rarely see in others.

[KeepServingTheDrinks]

I'm like loads of people on this thread. MysteriousQuinn (just above me as I'm typing) encapsulates it - esp the first half of the post.

I'm impatient with others (and hide it poorly)
I'm judgemental and pretend I'm not (badly)
I'm gobby and tactless (sometimes I upset people by mistake and sometimes I almost catch myself in time, but often say it anyway)
I'm loud and annoying
I'm also quick to anger

I'm not as nice as I try to be.

I don't have any self-control (hence the gobby, and also why I'm overweight)

I'm REALLY bad at articulating things when I'm upset, and often do it really badly and clumsily, so that people get distracted from what I'm actually trying to say and concentrate on the way it was delivered and I generally end up apologising, even if I had a point to begin with. This drives me nuts about myself and I wish I could say things to people in a direct and honest way. I really admire people who can do this and hate it that I'm so bad at it. Especially as I'm actually really good with words.

I'm paranoid and insecure.

[averageisgood]

I flirt whenever I can, but as soon the other person shows too much interest in me, I back off and start disliking them. I think I start to doubt them, because what is wrong with them that they actually like me?
My boyfriend told me he loves me last week and I'm finding it difficult. Why would he? I don't think there is anything loveable about me

[QueenOfMyWorld]

I've never felt quite good enough for my dh,don't know exactly why I think it's because I fancy him so much I assume every other woman will too and that eventually someone will come along and take him from me.God this is like therapy.thanks OP

[averageisgood]

Oh gosh, another thing. I hate when men leer at me. Yet I put effort into my appearance, and sometimes look deliberately 'sexy', and yet I hate this reaction. Then I think I should try to play down my appearance, but the voice in my screams at me "stop victim blaming" But am I really any kind of victim just because a man has looked at me? He is only looking, not assaulting me. Why does it make me fell so uncomfortable?

[Missillusioned]

I adore male attention. I fancy men who are a lot younger than me and I'm scared of losing my looks and becoming less attractive to younger men.

I am very lazy.
I bear grudges for years. I hate being single and spend a lot of time worrying about how to catch a man before I get too old.
I get unreasonably anxious about spending too much time with other people and doing stuff they want to do, but sad if I spend too much time alone.
I put up with bad behaviour from people towards myself if I like them enough.

[BlowPoke]

Whenever there’s a SAHM/WOHM argument on here all of the WOHMs assume the SAHMs are eating bonbons and watching Netflix all day while the SAHMs indignantly protest about all of the productive things they do all day. And I always keep quiet bc I am a SAHM and my life is exactly what the WOHMs describr. After I drop off my kids most days I get back into bed and watch TV or nap for most of the day.

I say I can’t wait to go back to work someday but I doubt I ever will. We don’t particularly need the money. But I also say I will volunteer when the kids are a bit older but I probably won’t do that either.

If it helps, I really hate myself for the way I am. I’m always thinking of the things I need to do but I never do them. Every day I resolve to be a different person.

[TheWiseWomansFear]

I rely on my boyfriend to keep in contact with our friends and wouldn't do it myself.

I stir things sometimes by accident but I enjoy the feeling of being in the know.

I'm very very unhealthy (smoking, drinking, eating way too much) but refuse to do anything about it because I'm thin and have great skin....