Uncomfortable realisations about yourself

[Casperandme]

I've had a couple of these recently, things I've realised about myself that are uncomfortable but at the same time things I wish I'd realised many years earlier.

In particular:

• there are all of these altruistic things I think I want to do one day but it's all bullshit, I don't actually want to, I just fancy myself the sort of person that would want to if that makes sense.
• I'm a gossip and I need to stop.

What are yours?

[AbeautifulBeast]

neveradullmoment99 haha, you think? Have you read the thread?
Pp have admitted they would commit murder if they could get away with it....
Anyway I can only assume you do some of the things I would judge so your opinion doesn't particularly matter to me 😂

[PaulHollywoodsSexGut]

I judge people terribly who don’t get the point of threads

[Kaixo1]

Jeez where do I start!
Really don’t trust adults (childhood abuse by male/females
Serial loner - isolate myself and also sabotage friendships
Lose contact with people easily
Lazy, hard to motivate myself, sit on passions and interests
Crap with money always overdrawn
Inferiority complex with just about anyone
No real career to speak of, thought art degree would be a springboard didn’t work out
No resilience to give anything my all cba

Great with children, plants and animals
If I manage to drag my ass out, have a great time and sometimes am the soul of the party

[IWantToBeCillianMWife]

I’m so intolerant
I dislike fat people
I dislike racists
I dislike completely & utterly my step children
I love my DS2 because he’s a complete rebel although he makes a very healthy living through very dubious business dealings (he’s 16)
I’m told I’m very attractive & I get hatred from other women because of it. I never encourage it but hate they are so insecure that they see me as a threat. Talk to me - I’m an interesting person
I cry nearly every day about a loss from 20 years ago but won’t admit the weakness in
me although sometimes I wonder if I’ll kill myself about it 1 day
My DP & I have a FWB (male) who I fancy & we booty call every couple of weeks
I don’t fancy my DP
I was vvvv rich 3 years ago - now I’m poor & I hate it
I would die for my children & my best friend
I hate my family- every single one of them
I lie every day about my eating & throw food out so I can’t eat it
I’m ginger not strawberry blonde
I had a tequila at 2pm today before the DSS arrived
I have the best book in me but I’m afraid of rejection

[something2say]

Yes, a beautiful beats, I agree with that lady who said you sound dreadful. I read an article about a previously very beautiful woman who lost her looks and came right down a peg or two. It was so sad that she'd based her entire viability on beauty, which then faded, and she'd not even tried to be a good person.

FWIW I wouldn't fare too badly on your criteria, in case you want to write off my views. So I'd be sort of equal to you, but you'd be bitter inside.

In general I am pretty shocked by this thread. Not the I need to be alone types, but the people who feel happy at others misfortune and those who are cruel to others. As an abused child, I had to go thro healing and part of that was becoming a person I valued. I do not suffer with jealousy etc for example as healing would say, get thy backside out there and get it if you want it.

[Strongmummy]

@iwanttobecilliammwife - one thing I think you need to be aware of. Women don’t hate other women for being good looking. I am very lucky to be blessed in the looks department. I also try to be warm, friendly and good fun to be around. I appreciate that sometimes some women are wary of me, but if I sense that I make extra effort. Being attractive is a blessing, not a curse and perhaps you feel women don’t like you coz you’re not actually very nice

[Gingernaut]

I do expensive, impulsive things on a whim and regret them.

I book tickets to shows I like the sound of at the time and have trouble making myself go months later.

In the summer, I bought a ticket to see Sarah Millican next month and I have just advertised it for half the face value on Facebook.

I am on my way to fat camp as I type, as watched a programme about it and had been thinking about a holiday and losing weight, so why not kill two birds with one stone?

What was I thinking?

[JuliaJaynes9]

I am totally judgemental when it comes to armchair life coaches and self-appointed self-help gurus

[Bimgy85]

I have serious body image issues

I always think the worst and most of the time think the world is out to get me. If someone does something I immediately catch on and turn it into my own version and constantly think it's a situation - think it's from my mum being so paranoid

I never donate or give my free time to anything charitable
I've only recently learned loyalty

I judge absolutely everybody it's an awful habit (adults working in level entry jobs or people that purposely do not work)
I do think I'm better than people

I am selfish
If it doesn't affect me I'm not bothered
Everything has to be done on my terms even interacting with people if somebody talks to me when I don't want to be talked to I will be very quiet /not friendly

I cut people off all the time, so frustrating, I've had many best friends that I just stopped/reduced contact. I can almost feel them thinking 'wtf is up with her'

[MisstoMrs]

I try and be upbeat, thoughtful, open hearted and industrious but actually

I talk about myself / my experiences too much

I am short tempered

I develop a martyred inner dialogue when I’m tired / stressed etc

[CiderBrains]

I don't like men. I am much harsher with them than I am women.

I have never had a man in my life who hasn't hurt me/abused me/left me so it stems from that.

[cushioncovers]

I enjoy gossip

I prefer animals to humans

I feel very resentful that my parents have a lot of money that they sit on and never spend and I'm a struggling single parent in debt.

I sometimes wish my exh would drop dead.

I judge people who have never had a job and go from school to being a parent.

[Bimgy85]

I constantly cut people off for no fucking reason and dunno why. I spent last year in college and was in a group of girlfriends, we'd go for lunch together, on nights out, I

I didn't return to college this year and didn't even bother to text them to say goodbye :S completely ignored any interaction

Dunno what's wrong with me,
Similarly, I worked for a small family business for 2 years. I left in February and didn't ever come in to say hello or even have a chat with the people that should be my friends... I can sense they think wtf.. shows a lack of loyalty and selfishness

[AbeautifulBeast]

something2say I need to add to my list, I also judge people who can't get my username correct even though it's written in black and white.....
I am totally at peace with my looks fading, what makes you think it will knock me down a leg or two? In fact that is an awful thing to think for someone so clearly self-righteous as you 😂

[AbeautifulBeast]

*peg, bastard autocorrect