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To think life is overrated

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dexent · 25/09/2018 06:52

You're born without having a choice. Then you live a life. Some of it might be good, some of it bad. You might get a lot more of one than the other. Alot of it is out of your hands. You then die. What was the point. This life is so temporary, so fleeting yet we cling on to it so dearly.

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strawberrisc · 25/09/2018 06:54

I agree. But I thnk we’re in for a good flaming!

namechangedyetagain · 25/09/2018 06:55

I completely agree. I just cannot see the point. Especially when there are no good bits.

EmpressAdultHumanFemale · 25/09/2018 06:57

When I was married & severely depressed, I thought life was overrated. But since I've been single & got better, it's been bloody fantastic.

dexent · 25/09/2018 07:00

So glad its not just me. I thought I was going to get people asking if I was depressed. It's obviously a prettt solemn thing to be thinking about in bed at 6.30 in the morning but I have always thought it like this.

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explodingkitten · 25/09/2018 07:04

Yeah, over here Blush. I just thought that I was permanently depressed.

Eminybob · 25/09/2018 07:08

Sadly this is the case for some people. People with health or phychiactric issues which make life unbearable, or people born into extreme poverty, abuse and violence. It’s fucking awful and I feel desparately sorry for those who have to live their lives in misery. However, life can also be awesome. It is fleeting so therefore if you are able to, live every moment to the fullest. Laugh, love, travel if you can, spend time surrounded by people you love. I won’t say life is what you make it, because sadly sometimes we have no choice.

KittyLane1 · 25/09/2018 07:08

I agree OP, but i am a miserable cow so...Grin I don't understand the obsession about living longer. "Smokers die young " etc. Who wants to live long enough to be put in a home??

strawberrisc · 25/09/2018 07:18

Agreed! My Mum works with the elderly and not every 100 year old beams at the cameras clutching their birthday card from the Queen.

kaytee87 · 25/09/2018 07:20

I agree OP, but i am a miserable cow so... I don't understand the obsession about living longer. "Smokers die young " etc. Who wants to live long enough to be put in a home?

Have you seen someone die of lung cancer?

SnuggyBuggy · 25/09/2018 07:20

For many it seems like life just hands them a sack of shit. I don't feel that way myself but can understand why others might.

kaytee87 · 25/09/2018 07:20

The point in life is to live it.

Emmageddon · 25/09/2018 07:25

My life isn't overrated. I love it. My children are all adults, we downsized recently and live by the sea. Every day is an adventure. I suffered from debilitating PND 23 years ago and was suicidal. I'm eternally grateful to my health visitor for recognising my illness and helping me recover. At the time, every day was an endurance test, just marking time until the end. A horrible sad way to be.

KittyLane1 · 25/09/2018 07:28

kaytee throat cancer yes, not lung cancer. Sorry if my comment upset you. I have also seen countless people withering away in a home, stewing in their own shit in a day room with a blaring TV, no windows open, people calling out for their long dead mothers and over worked, undervalued staff trying their best. All for 1k or more of their money a month. No thank you. ( I don't smoke it was just an example)

SnuggyBuggy · 25/09/2018 08:58

You rarely see anyone over 90 with a life worth living

LeftRightCentre · 25/09/2018 09:00

I agree!

DollyDayScream · 25/09/2018 09:02

I agree, life can be hard and there are circumstances that I can imagine where I'd much rather be dead (than be a trafficked sex slave for example).

I also expect most farmed animals have a shit life and that there is nothing sacred or precious about their miserable existence.

Truckingonandon · 25/09/2018 09:05

Couldn't agree more.

madmomma · 25/09/2018 09:12

Don't you think most of the problem is human selfishness and greed though? (including myself in that btw). If families and neighbours looked after each other people's lives would be a lot more meaningful.

DevonshireCreamTea · 25/09/2018 09:12

I completely agreeGrin that's why we have things like religion...to give our mind something to cling onto in vain hope Gin

SnuggyBuggy · 25/09/2018 09:13

@Madmomma, that and how atomized life is these days.

dimsum123 · 25/09/2018 09:15

I totally agree. And I have a pretty good life in general. We value individual lives so much when in reality none of us really matter as individuals. We're only here as a result of the biological imperative to ensure survival of our species. But there is no danger at all of the human race going extinct so most of us are here for no purpose whatsoever and many are living lives full of suffering and pain. And it's all for no discernible reason.

PropagandaMachine · 25/09/2018 09:25

My life isn't perfect and there are a few things I'd like to change about it (or myself) but I love being alive!

rackhampearl · 25/09/2018 09:26

. I have also seen countless people withering away in a home, stewing in their own shit in a day room with a blaring TV, no windows open, people calling out for their long dead mothers and over worked, undervalued staff trying their best. All for 1k or more of their money a month.

I completely agree with this. I work in the care sector and each morning I come home completely deflated. It's exactly how you have described. It is truly heartbreaking. But I am only one person. One carer who cares and an agency carer who gets paid more than me who only cares about taking their hours break off the unit. Treats the residents like a production line when changing pads ect. They staff 2 carers to 28 dementia residents and I don't have the time to spend with them. It sickens me. I have done so many unpaid hours on my days off just to go in and see the residents but end up doing cares. They are suffering and nobody gives a shit. Management, HR. With the exception of a select few carers who are there for more than just the pitiful wage. I'm not sure how much longer I can take working in care. Sad

MysweetAudrina · 25/09/2018 09:29

Personally i think it is underrated. Life is the only thing we have. It means we are here, alive, breathing. We get to feel the sun, quench our thirst, snuggle into a warm bed, smell and touch our children, overcome our weaknesses, become stronger, learn, love, cry, shop, eat, move, travel, work, relax, exercise, sing, shout, dance, comfort, smile, run, talk, listen, trek up a mountain, stare at the sea, kiss our pets head, be there when someone is reaching the end, put on clean clothes, have a hot bath, paint our toe nails, get a massage, put our kids into our bed beside us when it is cold outside so they know that they are safe, forgive, feel pain so that we can understand the pain of others, sex, hugs, someone rubbing your foot, fresh fruit, transport, heat, theatre, books, pyjamas, fluffy socks, candles, a fire, a home, family, friends, birthdays, Christmas, chocolate, ability to change, ability to grow, ability to choose our outlook even if we can not always choose our circumstances.

SnuggyBuggy · 25/09/2018 09:29

Ugh I want to get something in writing to say palliative care only if I have dementia. I have seen dementia patients made to have cancer treatment or life saving antibiotics and thought what's the point, they aren't going to get better?

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