Just asked DH to get a vasectomy

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Here's to hoping he goes and gets one! His main concern is lasting pain long after the op(although I pointed out how I have had episiotomies and c sections and they had slight pain ) , any horror stories or is it mostly ok?
I'm hoping to rejuvenate our sex life somewhat also, after years of being on the blasted pill.

All those methods, sans condoms, are potentially damaging to women. If you give a toss about the woman who has born your children, say YES to vasectomy :-)

He's just reading the NHS section on vasectomies next to me, telling me all his new facts he's learnt

I imagine in most relationships partners reach a mutual decision when their family is complete. A vasectomy is as much for the benefit of a man who doesn't want any more children as it is for his partner

The semen no longer smells DW would disagree!

I am sure you will have given him all of the risk information links posted above also... you know...so he is not being misled or manipulated into sterilisation in any way

Femidoms, spermicide and cap, condoms, all are still in the world I believe...

And all reliant on the woman putting shit in her body. You want to put your dick in a female? Sort the spunk out

I don’t want any more children. I will make sure that doesn’t happen. My body my choice.

Femidoms, spermicide and cap, condoms, all are still in the world I believe... Just like a toddler, 'no you do it....'

CurlsandCurves Careful you will be accused of bleating on about body autonomy.

Yep, my body, my choice not to let penis hear it that hasn’t been devalved. Fortunately after seeing me go through four labours, my husband was man enough to get the snip.

Ha ha! I just know what I want ( or don’t in this case) and get on with it. No biggie.

CantankerousCamel your hypocrisy is astounding.

‘Hypocrisy’ how? Because I’m not going to shag a penis that might knock me up again? How is that hypocrisy?

"all reliant on the woman putting shit in her body." You really must have been using contraception in some impressively mad ways!

Hormonal contraception = shit that triggered my bipolar and made me go crazy for months

Coil = shit that made my periods ridiculously heavy and went missing so I got knocked up anywhere

Condoms = shit thst make my fanny swell up like a puffer fish.

Personally, I didn’t like the ‘my husband is man enough to get the snip’. It’s not a competition. You do what’s right for you and your family.

What’s right for women, is when they’ve finished their family, for the man to take permanent responsibility for his sperm. That’s the reality. However you spin it

If men are too scared to go through a bit of discomfort to stop women having to go through anymore of the lifetime of discomfort. Sorry they’re shirking their obligations in my eyes.

man's choice of course but if he doesn't choose to do it after his partner has gone through pregnancy and childbirth then that's not a choice that one could admire in a man really.............

cantankerous , ok I get it now, contraception doesn’t like you and you don’t like it, understandably so. In your situation it would be my husband getting the snip. But to imply he or anyone’s else’s partner is not ‘man enough’ is simply insulting to our intelligence.

Latex free Condoms/femidoms? Hypoallergenic? Separate lube? Just because an option is either best or poor for you, it surely does not mean others will be the same. Sorry for your troubles, may you bear the same wish onto others.

No, vasectomy. Not my problem. I did the time. His go. Like I said, a decent man will stand up and sort it