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Just found this on family laptop

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Wafflenose · 10/09/2018 17:44

I'm need need of some advice. After work, I sat down to type something in the address bar on Explorer (I was typing Hotmail, to be precise) and as I started typing (literally one or two letters) my search bar suggested 'homosexual anime porn' and 'homosexual manga porn'. I went into our Internet users history and found that over a 30-60 minute period in the middle of the night (Friday or Saturday night, I can't remember) someone has searched for the above, plus manga incest, male on male gay porn and more. It would almost be funny (because of the animal element) if it wasn't so disturbing.

I have two DDs, aged 10 and 13. The younger one has her own laptop which she saved up for, so she doesn't use ours. The older one does use ours to play on and do homework, although at the times that correspond to when she was using it during the day just contain educational sites because she has been doing a history project. Both girls have been learning to draw manga. Little one hasn't heard of homosexual porn or incest, and the big one might have at school. She has never shown any interest in boys, or girls for that matter, but might be curious? If it turns out to be her, we will obviously be having a serious chat and supervising all screen use, because she will have betrayed our trust by going online during the night and googling unsuitable topics.

Then there is DH... we have been married for 20 years and he as straight as straight can be, or so I thought. I guess I am asking how I should approach this, because if it's not him then we need to have a serious chat with our daughter.

Unless there is some kind of virus or malware that generates this kind of thing? (Clutching at straws).

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woolduvet · 10/09/2018 17:46

Can anyone (neighbour) access your internet, change the password.

RebeccasFront · 10/09/2018 17:48

@woolduvet if it's on the laptop, it's definitely not a neighbour.

@Wafflenose it's most likely the older daughter, ask her.

MrsEricBana · 10/09/2018 17:49

Wouldn't that just allow them to use OP's Wi-Fi on own devices though? Ie search history wouldn't be on OP's laptop.

dailyshite · 10/09/2018 17:50

I don't understand the animal reference Confused

MrsEricBana · 10/09/2018 17:50

Cross post.
I think you'll need to ask dd carefully and see what she says as a first resort.

BigBlueBubble · 10/09/2018 17:52

It would almost be funny (because of the animal element) if it wasn't so disturbing
Anime has nothing to do with animals. Have a chat to your DH and if it wasn’t him you should approach your DD. But don’t raise it with DD until DH is ruled out!

MrsEricBana · 10/09/2018 17:52

Animal autocorrect of anime?

Hauskat · 10/09/2018 17:52

Could you just tell your husband what you have said here and then say something like ‘I was hoping it was you because otherwise I think we need to figure out how we address this with dd’.

snowsun · 10/09/2018 17:53

It could be as there's a variety of areas that they have been talking about anime in school and it's got to a 'omg there's this , that and the other on anime, check it out'.

It could be she's had a look to see what they are on about and that's it.

Yes you need a conversation about it but at a level that leaves her able to talk to you and not go secretive.

Wafflenose · 10/09/2018 17:53

Sorry, anime not animal!

Not a neighbour. We went on holiday lately and NDN came in to feed the pets, but we took laptop with us.

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ShrodingersSturdyPyjamas · 10/09/2018 17:54

Does your husband have a fitbit watch, it tells you what time you were awake each night.

BabyItsAWildWorld · 10/09/2018 17:54

You have a thirteen year old who is interested in manga... and who will be curious about sex- you don't need to be Poirot hereSmile!

There have probably been some discussions with friends, or she's read something about manga porn, and gone searching.

Time for a little chat...

dailyshite · 10/09/2018 17:56

Oh! Anime! Yes - this has nothing to do with animals.

Yeah, chat to your husband but bear in mind that looking at gay cartoon porn doesn't mean he is gay in any way shape or form.

TheGateauIsInTheChateau · 10/09/2018 17:57

Did DD have a sleepover? Sounds like the sort of thing teenagers do for a laugh.

Otherwise I found some very questionable stuff on my ex’s family computer years ago... men can surprise you.

Wafflenose · 10/09/2018 17:58

I definitely didn't mean to type animals, and know what anime is.

I am hoping it's DH, because DD1 shouldn't be sneaking around at 2.30 am! We have always been open about sex - I told her the facts of life when she was 5 because she wanted to know.

Will talk to DH first.

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flowerythorns · 10/09/2018 18:00

I don't know what anime is and I'm afraid to google!

HollowTalk · 10/09/2018 18:00

Mind you, I've had some right dodgy stuff on my history from threads on here. It could well be someone sending her links, OP, rather than her sitting there and searching herself.

I thought at first you'd been reading threads on that Green Party person and clicking on links.

Aaaahfuck · 10/09/2018 18:01

The first thing I thought was that if your dd's have been learning to draw manga that could trigger an idea to look at that sort of porn with your dh. I've read articles about people with porn addiction and people said they often would get "inspiration" from daiyl6life to find new stuff.

Wafflenose · 10/09/2018 18:01

But 2.30 am!

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Wafflenose · 10/09/2018 18:02

No sleepover.

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Jezered · 10/09/2018 18:02

Flowery It’s just Japanese animation and manga is the comic book version essentially.

Talk to your husband but dd1 seems most likely if she’s into manga? Also dh would know to use ingognito mode on a shared family laptop?

Wafflenose · 10/09/2018 18:03

He doesn't have a fitbit or similar either.

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Aaaahfuck · 10/09/2018 18:03

Anmie is a type of Japanese animation a bit like manga. It's not just a porn term. I think it refers to the style.

SomeKnobend · 10/09/2018 18:07

Those searches don't sound like a 13yo girl at all. I'd also check your dh's other devices and talk to him first.

RomyAndJulio · 10/09/2018 18:08

But surely your husband would have deleted his search history?

Unless he was just curious and didn’t see it as being something he needed to hide, in which case he’ll be happy to say it was him (and promise to clear his search history/autocomplete in future so your DDs don’t see it!)

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