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Just found this on family laptop

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Wafflenose · 10/09/2018 17:44

I'm need need of some advice. After work, I sat down to type something in the address bar on Explorer (I was typing Hotmail, to be precise) and as I started typing (literally one or two letters) my search bar suggested 'homosexual anime porn' and 'homosexual manga porn'. I went into our Internet users history and found that over a 30-60 minute period in the middle of the night (Friday or Saturday night, I can't remember) someone has searched for the above, plus manga incest, male on male gay porn and more. It would almost be funny (because of the animal element) if it wasn't so disturbing.

I have two DDs, aged 10 and 13. The younger one has her own laptop which she saved up for, so she doesn't use ours. The older one does use ours to play on and do homework, although at the times that correspond to when she was using it during the day just contain educational sites because she has been doing a history project. Both girls have been learning to draw manga. Little one hasn't heard of homosexual porn or incest, and the big one might have at school. She has never shown any interest in boys, or girls for that matter, but might be curious? If it turns out to be her, we will obviously be having a serious chat and supervising all screen use, because she will have betrayed our trust by going online during the night and googling unsuitable topics.

Then there is DH... we have been married for 20 years and he as straight as straight can be, or so I thought. I guess I am asking how I should approach this, because if it's not him then we need to have a serious chat with our daughter.

Unless there is some kind of virus or malware that generates this kind of thing? (Clutching at straws).

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Wafflenose · 10/09/2018 18:53

Older DD has a phone, which is checked at random and all good.

In actual fact, she is 12, turning 13 in a few weeks. I changed that small detail and tried to name change too, but failed. Oh well!

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Singlenotsingle · 10/09/2018 18:54

Lemony Snicket it's an age thing. I was more interested in climbing trees at that age, but it was a long time ago.

Lockheart · 10/09/2018 18:57

@Wafflenose I honestly think, based on your DD's interest in manga and the genre which was being searched for, that it's far, far more likely to be your DD than your DH.

But either way I wish you luck getting to the bottom of this (it might be worth keeping schtum for now and seeing if those searches occur again?) and would still recommend strong parental controls to keep any searches within an age appropriate parameter until they're a bit older!

madeoficecream · 10/09/2018 18:57

My money is on the 13yo. I used to read gay (man on man) porn at that age, maybe 14. Because it was not as threatening to me as straight porn. Not something I carried on into adulthood!

But I do actually think its very common for teen girls to look at that... what you have described.. essentially gay cartoons, that is exactly what a young girl might look at if she were curious about porn because its the least threatening... firstly its two men with each other so not harming any women and secondly its a cartoon so not real. Eactly the type of porn a young girl would look at. You only have to think of all these fanfic things people are talking about to realise that actually theres a big market of this stuff for teen girls. Written and drawn by them for each other.

QueenOfCatan · 10/09/2018 18:57

Why not up at 2:30? I was often up until the early hours at that age (obviously didn't have the best parents as you can probably tell, lucky I didn't do anything too extreme!)

Seriously, a lot of teens do know this stuff, it's easy to accidentally come across and to them search deeper. Male on male is extremely popular among teen girls and young women. It astounds me that so many parents don't actually think it's sobering their teens could possibly know about. But then I was often shocked at some of the things my explore scouts (13-18) came out with as I didn't realise the younger ones particularly would know much about things.

QueenOfCatan · 10/09/2018 18:59

Something not sobering. And explorer scouts. Feeding my DD whilst I type!

deepsea · 10/09/2018 18:59

I am really amazed that all of these young 13 year old girls are interested in male on male gay sex. Yes maybe one search for a couple of minutes. Mostly I think they would be so worried about getting caught. 30-40 minutes is a really long time.

Only you know your own child op, and whether she is into that kind of stuff or not. Mine would not have the first clue beyond the basics. Nor would she know to use those kind of terms. Maybe it is different with some other teens, but I was still climbing trees and playing with my friends at that age. We were not seeking out porn in the middle of the night!

Oliversmumsarmy · 10/09/2018 18:59

Could it be your DD has googled something inocuous and these sites came up.

DD in the living room with us was doing homework and was asking for something she could add to it that involved a ball.
I remembered seeing something on the news and she searched for it.

Clicked through to a site that wasn't thinking along the line of tennis ball(with pictures).

I have never unplugged a computer so quickly.

Sometimes if you are not looking at the address you can by accident get on these sites

Vandree · 10/09/2018 18:59

Yaoi is written for teenage girls and women. I would bet all my money on the teenage girl. She could have heard about one and wanted to search for it. There is loads of yaoi with incest between brothers (usually step brothers) or "uncle" and "nephew". Some of it is all very tame and love lorn and full of angst between a younger and older man/boy. I cant see a grown man being as in to it seeing as he can watch all sorts of grown up porn and yaoi (gay anime etc) is written for young women who want all that angst with a bit of nudity (ahem I might have went through a phase of watching yaoi anime).

I would just double check with your dh that it wasn't him (and wonder if he is really a teenage girl) and then talk to your daughter about watching inappropriate content in the middle of the night.

RiddleyW · 10/09/2018 19:00

DD I think. I certainly was very into gay porn (written) at that age. Honestly she’s slightly younger than usual but the internet is full of teen girls with an interest in this.

CountessVonBoobs · 10/09/2018 19:01

Am I the only one that doesn't think it's a particularly big deal no matter who it was?

Yaoi/male on male anime and fiction is 99% consumed and created by women andnteen

deepsea · 10/09/2018 19:02

Op's dd is 12 not 14. There is a massive developmental difference between the two.

deepsea · 10/09/2018 19:03

Am I the only one that doesn't think it's a particularly big deal no matter who it was?

I wouldn't be comfortable with my dh getting up in the middle of the night to watch gay porn. Strangely enough a few red flags would start to flutter rapidly in the breeze.

CountessVonBoobs · 10/09/2018 19:04

GAH, accidental post.

...consumed and created by women and teenaged girls. It's not an adult man's taste - if he had inclinations for gay porn, why wouldn't he just search for gay porn? It's sexy drawings and slash fiction - no actual men or real nudity was involved at any point.

I was heavily into m/m slash as a teen and young adult and it did me nary a bit of harm. I'd be more worried about the being up at 2:30am part

PollyFlinderz · 10/09/2018 19:05

OP, I think its your DD. Its the modern day equivalent of looking up 'dirty' words in your school dictionary years ago.

notapizzaeater · 10/09/2018 19:05

Do you wake up if your dh leaves the bed ?

CountessVonBoobs · 10/09/2018 19:06

It's not real "porn" though. It's sexy drawings. Even if it were him, so what? He's not seeing male escorts, does it matter if he occasionally has kinky thoughts about big-eyed drawings? Unless there was an issue with our sex life already, I honestly don't see the problem.

madeoficecream · 10/09/2018 19:07

countessvonboobs totally agree. It would be much more odd if it were the DH. Ive never known any men gay or straight to be remotely interested in gay anime porn. It is for teenage girls. Especially the incest bit.... its all 'forbidden love' gazing off into the distance and blushing... not the type of hardcore pornography men jerk off to!!

Borntobeamum · 10/09/2018 19:07

Maybe a search for something was initiated but whoever ended up falling down a rabbit hole?

I clicked on a link of a little girl singing and within 2 minutes was directed to autopsy photographs?!?

StormcloakNord · 10/09/2018 19:07

I'd ask DH.

If it does turn out to be your DD please don't go in with punishments and waffling about unsuitable searching etc. She's obv just curious, I searched all sorts of weird things when I was around that age. Just seeing what I was into really.

It will be mortifying for her to know you've found out what she was looking at and even worse if you go about punishing her for it.

It's nothing particularly disturbing either..

PollyFlinderz · 10/09/2018 19:08

Im also thinking of a film we all wanted to see that was called Helga.

Then of course there was also Lady Chatterly's Lover.

But best of all was an illicit copy of the Kama Sutra pinched by my friend from under her dads side of her parents bed,

CountessVonBoobs · 10/09/2018 19:10

its all 'forbidden love' gazing off into the distance and blushing...

Yes, this. It's heavily centred on emotional intensity rather than sexual explicitness. I'm not saying some of it doesn't have down and dirty sex in, but the inexperience of the creators is such that it can be unintentionally hilarious or anatomically implausible.

One of the most popular genres is "hurt/comfort", which should give you a taste.

MissLingoss · 10/09/2018 19:11

I'd be more worried about the being up at 2:30am part

OP did say it was Friday or Saturday night! Isn't this the equivalent of reading one's library book by torchlight under the bedcovers?

Theweasleytwins · 10/09/2018 19:13

Bit odd, why didn't whoever type that in just type Yaoi? 🤔

ToeToToe · 10/09/2018 19:14

My guess is it's your husband.

A 13yr old girl might be into anime, porn even, out of curiosity, or all manner of gender stuff (it's quite the thing these days - get some safety filters on your laptops) - but I don't believe she'd be searching 'male on male', homosexual, or incest.

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