If you are a normal person, how much cash do you put in a wedding card?

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Bride and groom have asked for cash to spend on honeymoon. Not an extravagant couple or wedding (2nd time around for him). We are good friends and going to whole day and evening.

So if you are not rich and not poor, how much do you give?

£20 or £30

£50 for friends, £100 family. Normally as a couple, however, newly single and going to a wedding soon, will still put £50 although it's going to be a bit of a push for me. I think £50 - £100 is the norm in my social circle.

£20 for evening and £50 for a full day - maybe more for close family or friends.

I think good etiquette is basically give what the couple would have paid for your meal, so £40/£50 per head if you're invited to the all day event! Going to a wedding in November mid Mat leave and freaking out about this already! As it's family.

Nothing on a point of principle because I object to being asked for money as if it’s an expectation. It should be my choice if I give anything and not dictated to me. But I’ve seen you said she hasn’t actually asked until you brought it up with her so I’d go between £20-£50

£50 is our standard. We go to about 5 weddings a year though! A bit more for close friends.

£100 for family and very close friends. £50 for others. £20 or bottle of fizz for evening invite.

My best wedding present was a £10 vase from M & S from my cousin, who is really hard up. I use it all the time, as it’s the perfect size and flowers seem to arrange themselves.

£25 for evening only and £50 for whole day.

I think good etiquette is basically give what the couple would have paid for your meal,

Nah, that's nonsense. I've never married but, if I did, I certainly wouldn't expect people to be reimbursing me for their food.

I think good etiquette is basically give what the couple would have paid for your meal

I think that’s rubbish. We’ve been to loads of weddings with all different budgets. Some will have spent £100+ on our meal, some will have spent £15. I give the same amount regardless. Food was the biggest thing for DH at our wedding so we went all out and spent a lot of money on it. I would never expect people to give us more because we’d made the choice to spend more. It was our wedding, our budget and our choice.

Who are the top tier bridesmaids, then?!