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If you are a normal person, how much cash do you put in a wedding card?

186 replies

BretonStripe · 31/08/2018 09:07

Bride and groom have asked for cash to spend on honeymoon. Not an extravagant couple or wedding (2nd time around for him). We are good friends and going to whole day and evening.

So if you are not rich and not poor, how much do you give?

OP posts:
BiteyShark · 31/08/2018 18:48

£50 in this situation

Pebblesandfriends · 31/08/2018 18:51

Usually £50, £100 for really close friends or siblings

pastaandpestoagain · 31/08/2018 18:54

50 for a second wedding, 100 for a first.

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onetimeposter · 31/08/2018 18:55

^ ohh harsh
see your point

derekthe1adyhamster · 31/08/2018 18:56

£20 usually. But I'm old now and haven't been to a wedding in about 10 years. I do feel we missed a trick though. 21 years ago it was a wedding list that our parents held the details to. There was nothing on it for over £50. Most was in the £10-20 range.
I now have the dilemma of how much to give for the chosen charity at funerals Sad

pastaandpestoagain · 31/08/2018 18:56

I have yet to decide what a 3rd one would get 😀

onetimeposter · 31/08/2018 18:57

50p and a self help book for relationships?

Tw1nsetAndPearls · 31/08/2018 19:01

I have never been asked for money in return for attending a wedding.

ashtrayheart · 31/08/2018 19:05

£20 tops and that would be for family too Grin
We have very little disposable income. Fortunately we don't get invited to many weddings! Wink

MrTumblesSpottyHag · 31/08/2018 19:10

It's all very well pps saying £10-20 is tight, but if I don't HAVEore than that then what am I supposed to do?
If I said to any of my friends that I'd love to go to their wedding but unfortunately I could only give £10 as a gift so I wouldn't be able to come they'd actually think I was bonkers. Surely the point of inviting people is that you want them to celebrate with you, not pay for your wedding?

NotUmbongoUnchained · 31/08/2018 19:15

£100. I think £20 would be a bit embarrassing.

hiptobeasquare · 31/08/2018 19:17

£20-£40 depending on relationship to us. That’s all our circle of friends would expect tbh.

notsomumsymum · 31/08/2018 19:18

£50 all day wedding

thenorthernluce · 31/08/2018 19:25

What we do (in late 30s now, reasonably well off):

Close friends, all day wedding = £50 per person, so £100 if attending as a couple.

Less close friends, evening only = £50 from both of us.

When we got married a couple of years ago, cash gifts ranged from £20 to £200. We were grateful for everything we received and were so happy to spend the occasion eating, drinking and dancing with our nearest and dearest. So ignore what the rest of us do and give what is right for you!

shirleyschmidt · 31/08/2018 19:32

I'd give £50 as a rule of thumb.
We were blown away by the generosity at our wedding. The vast majority gave £50s. Some were very generous and gave over £100. I don't remember getting many 10/20s but we had loads of older relatives and close family and I think they tend to give more.

pastaandpestoagain · 31/08/2018 19:33

If 20 pounds is what you can afford it isn't embarrassing, the people inviting you want you and not your gift at the wedding.

Tisfortired · 31/08/2018 19:34

Last couple of weddings we have been to, have given £50 and a nice bottle of something.

DameJulie · 31/08/2018 19:44

2nd tier bridesmaids??

kaytee87 · 01/09/2018 07:06

I wonder if average amounts vary by where you live. I'm in Scotland; £50 for full day is on the low side, £100 is average, £150-£200 generous possibly older family friends or relatives. (This is for couples btw)

We went to a wedding of a friend in Cambridge and gave our usual £100. The bride contacted us afterwards and thanked us for being so generous, before the thank you cards came out (maybe she did that to everyone though).

For my best friend and brothers wedding I gave / spent £200.

movinggoalposts · 01/09/2018 07:50

I’d feel far more comfortable getting gifts of £20-£30 than £50 to £100, but then I hate how expensive weddings are to attend.

crazydoglady6867 · 01/09/2018 07:54

We had my daughters wedding last week and the average in the cards was £50 some gave £10 some gave £100 so I would say £50 is a good amount😄

SnuggyBuggy · 01/09/2018 07:57

To be fair when doing thank you letters it's polite to refer to the person's generous gift even if it's just a handful of loose change.

SellFridges · 01/09/2018 07:59

We asked for money for our honeymoon fund. We had gifts between £20 (mainly evening guests) and £200. The majority fell between £50 and £100 for day guests.

Personally, I give £30 for an evening do, £75 for al day and £100 if one of us is a “part” of the wedding.

EnthusiasmIsDisturbed · 01/09/2018 08:02

£50

I can’t afford more than that.

thaegumathteth · 01/09/2018 08:16

For a whole day with no kids I’d give £80-100

When we got married 14 years ago gifts ranged in value from £0 to £500. We were students so didn’t expect much really as our friends were all skint. Nobody cares or remembers who gave what imo.