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If you are a normal person, how much cash do you put in a wedding card?

186 replies

BretonStripe · 31/08/2018 09:07

Bride and groom have asked for cash to spend on honeymoon. Not an extravagant couple or wedding (2nd time around for him). We are good friends and going to whole day and evening.

So if you are not rich and not poor, how much do you give?

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CherryBlossom23 · 31/08/2018 11:30

At least £100 if going as a couple, £50 if single. If it's family or close friends, £150/£100. That's basing my experience on weddings in ROI where it would be that amount in € and less than that would be seen as a bit cheap unless you are elderly/a student or really not well off financially. There seems to be a lesser expecation in the UK.

mostdays · 31/08/2018 11:31

as i think £20 is a bit insulting when they've forked out for a meal and probably some drinks for you plus 1

Insulting? Really? That's very sad.

EmmaC78 · 31/08/2018 11:32

Between £30 and £50.

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Takfujimoto · 31/08/2018 11:32

Friends, between £50 - £100
Family, between £150-250, depending on how much we've had to outlay for the event.

MrsEricBana · 31/08/2018 11:33

In your specific circumstances I would think £50 would be ideal and generous but less is ok too as you have already spent on the dress etc.
As an aside I fairly recently gave an £80 gift to the daughter of close colleague (we did go to the wedding) and £60 in the card of someone who does a small job for me weekly who is very lovely and very hard working. Neither thanked me. I am Shock about it.

SnuggyBuggy · 31/08/2018 11:33

The bride and groom choose to invite you and pay for food.

Minniemountain · 31/08/2018 11:35

We're traveling to DH's first cousin's wedding today (wedding is tomorrow). We're giving £100 of the vouchers they have requested. If it were up to me, it would be £50.

dizzydaisies · 31/08/2018 11:36

"I give more because bride and groom paid a lot for food etc for me and plus one" (paraphrasing)

If this is the attitude, it seems a little too close to paying to attend a wedding!

fourquenelles · 31/08/2018 11:36

Singleton here so £30 if a friend or acquaintance, £60 if family.

Ofchris · 31/08/2018 11:37

We debated this too recently. Went to my oh’s Cousins second wedding (we only see him once every two or three years). Went with £50 but it felt painful based on how well we know him!

H00T3R · 31/08/2018 11:37

The last wedding we went to we put £20 in. Most of the money that we were given for our wedding came in envelopes with between £10-30.

NotAnotherNoughtiesTune · 31/08/2018 11:38

£50

DulcetMoans · 31/08/2018 11:39

I'm surprised how high these answers are!

£20

bellsbuss · 31/08/2018 11:41

Whole day anything between £75 and £200 plus champagne , evening do £30

EllenJanesthickerknickers · 31/08/2018 11:42

£50 here too. I'm divorced so that's just from me. The norm was £20 per couple for evening do, £50 for all day at my wedding nearly 25 years ago.

Ellasshitholekitchenpjpiigp · 31/08/2018 11:42

My close friends that have got married I’ve done £50 and gone to the bank to get a £50 note and put it in a special gift envelope.

areyoubeingserviced · 31/08/2018 11:45

£50

HurricainBiancaDelRio · 31/08/2018 11:45

my husbands cousin got married last year DH was a groomsman and we gave £50. thats all we could afford and at the end of the day its presence not presents that count.

Rebecca36 · 31/08/2018 11:54

£50-75 should do it.

ApolloandDaphne · 31/08/2018 11:56

You give what you can afford. If they are lovely people they won't mind a bit.

We have our niece a lot of money when she got married recently as we are very close to her and we could afford it. Student DD2 gave her £20. DD1 who was a bridesmaid forgot to even give them a card never mind a gift. My niece was not bothered one bit. She was just glad to have her cousin there supporting her.

Nice people just want their friends and family to celebrate with them and won't judge the gift.

actualpuffins · 31/08/2018 11:57

I think about £50 in general from us as a couple. When it's someone we are very close to I might give more. A colleague, maybe £30.

NC4Now · 31/08/2018 11:58

Generally £50, and that’s what most people gave us too.
Siblings it’s been £100.

NCPuffin · 31/08/2018 12:02

I've only been to two. Gave €50 at the first, which seemed OK, especially as we'd flown out for it and I'd taken unpaid leave (teacher, so lucky I was able to go at all). Gave £30 at the second and a small homemade hamper. There was no meal (all guests brought a dish for a buffet) and it wasn't a flashy wedding (it was absolutely lovely though!) Meeting up with the bride today so it doesn't seem to have annoyed herWink. Cash gifts at our own wedding ranged from €25 from a single retiree to €75 from a dinky couple. We had a wedding list as well, so people had a choice.

twiglet · 31/08/2018 12:02

We give between £50-£100 as a couple depending on a number of factors such as how close a friend, if we have had to get a hotel and travel costs and if its a paying bar or not. Generally we give more to the friends that have byob or free bar in marquee type thing then if it's in a hotel where we know it's going to cost £6 a drink.....

TowerRingInferno · 31/08/2018 12:06

30-50

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