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If you are a normal person, how much cash do you put in a wedding card?

186 replies

BretonStripe · 31/08/2018 09:07

Bride and groom have asked for cash to spend on honeymoon. Not an extravagant couple or wedding (2nd time around for him). We are good friends and going to whole day and evening.

So if you are not rich and not poor, how much do you give?

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LauraAshleyDuvetCover · 31/08/2018 09:19

I prefer to buy a 'proper' present to be honest! It caused much less worry.

MrsJayy · 31/08/2018 09:20

Last wedding we were at close friend of Dhs family we gave £100 in € for the honeymoon , wedding before that workmate we bought off gift list so £50ish . I think whatever you can comfortablry afford is fine.

Snoopychildminder · 31/08/2018 09:20

We got married in March and apart from parents everyone gave £50 which was unbelievable. We had 100 guests so we were totally blown away by everyone’s generosity

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Bestseller · 31/08/2018 09:21

I don't think you should give cash in the currency of their honeymoon destination. Who wants to carry £100s in cash?

pcrumbs · 31/08/2018 09:22

£100 at least for two people.

Maryann1975 · 31/08/2018 09:23

We’ve been to two evening receptions this year and have given £20. There are 5 of us. Neither have been particularly close friends.
One of my siblings is getting married next month and will probably give £100 to him. A close friend would get maybe between £75 and £100 depending on how much we have spent on hotels/travel etc and how much we have in the bank at the time.

WhereIsBlueRabbit · 31/08/2018 09:26

I would give £30 for someone I knew less well, £50 for a good friend, £100 for a sibling. That would be from us as a couple.

My DSis just got married and we were there when she and her husband opened the cards. The average amount was around £50.

StarfishSandwich · 31/08/2018 09:28

£50 cash/voucher and possibly a token gift. Would maybe stretch to £80 budget for a gift if I thought of something they’d love/find useful.

Average at our (recent) wedding was £50 per couple I’d say with more from some aunts and uncles - £100-150 region. It wasn’t a big fancy wedding so maybe this is reflected in what we received but I thought people were very generous on the whole!

tomatosoup1 · 31/08/2018 09:29

£50 at most on a sliding scale of how well you know them or like them

formerbabe · 31/08/2018 09:31

£50-£100 depending on what I could afford.

meditrina · 31/08/2018 09:32

Usually I'd send a cheque in advance. Which would be between £100 and £250.

I have taken cash in a card a couple of times, £50.

mikeTV · 31/08/2018 09:40

£40 max (only if we know people really well). But then we asked for no wedding presents (charity donations if people weren't comfortable with no presents).

ballseditupagain · 31/08/2018 09:47

Between £50 and £100, depending on who they are to me. We are high earners by the way.

Enidblyton1 · 31/08/2018 09:56

This dilemma is why I hate having to give money as a wedding present. When I buy off a list I normally look for a present in the region of £60-80.

The last time we gave cash, it was £100, but that’s because the bride and groom were our closest friends and had been very generous at our wedding. Before that the last time I gave cash was at least a decade ago and I think I used to give £50.
These days it would probably be £75.

So difficult!

HavelockVetinari · 31/08/2018 09:59

£50 evening only, £100 whole day.

theunsure · 31/08/2018 10:00

My standard is £100-£120 for whole day as a couple and £50-60 for evening. Less if I go on my own.
I also usually add a bottle of inexpensive (but not cheap fizz) with the card.

I see myself as "normal" but obviously it does vary within that as to what people can afford. As a benchmark I spend £30 average on birthday/Xmas gifts for friends - £50-£60 for family so think my wedding average reflects this?

We are off to a wedding this month for DH's cousin, they aren't close. They had a wedding list with also option to donate to wedding fund. DH has put £120 into this from combo of gift and cash.

theunsure · 31/08/2018 10:02

*next month. My brain thinks we are in September already!

Promiseme · 31/08/2018 10:02

Reading this I would say £50.

I think anyone would be over the moon with that.

CraftyGin · 31/08/2018 10:03

At least £100.

MrsBungle · 31/08/2018 10:05

I give £50. To my best friends I give £100

VodkaRevelation · 31/08/2018 10:11

£30-£50 depending how much we’ve spent on travel and hotels purely from a budget point of view. If we’d travelled a long way and had to stay in a hotel for a couple of nights we’d have less spare to give for a gift. If we can’t afford as much as £20 which has been the case before, we’ve given a bottle of inexpensive champagne as a gift.

Jojoanna · 31/08/2018 10:13

£100 if all day both of us

MrTumblesSpottyHag · 31/08/2018 10:15

£10 or £20 depending on how flush we are/ how close we are to the b&g.
We got married 5 years ago and that was what most people gave us.

dizzydaisies · 31/08/2018 10:15

I love that you've phrased this 'if you're normal'!! I totally get what you mean lol

Lots of opinions on here, personally in your situation I'd put in £40/£50 - and your friend will be thrilled! From what you've said about the dress, and you being best friends etc, she'll know your home set up and that you're not Rockefeller, and will be touched by your gift.

HunterHearstHelmsley · 31/08/2018 10:17

£30-£50 depending on closeness.

Bottle of fizz for an evening only invite.