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If you are a normal person, how much cash do you put in a wedding card?

186 replies

BretonStripe · 31/08/2018 09:07

Bride and groom have asked for cash to spend on honeymoon. Not an extravagant couple or wedding (2nd time around for him). We are good friends and going to whole day and evening.

So if you are not rich and not poor, how much do you give?

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hugoagogo · 31/08/2018 10:17

£50 sounds right for me.

HushabyeMountainGoat · 31/08/2018 10:17

I just helped my sister go through her wedding cards a few weeks ago and it ranged from about £20-30 for colleagues and less close friends, £50-100 for closer friends and family. A couple of close family members gave up to £200.

dustarr73 · 31/08/2018 10:18

I would give 50 as you have bought a dress specially.

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NonJeNeRegretteRien · 31/08/2018 10:21

Depends. I gave my best friend £100 cash along with champagne, champagne flutes and some other bits. In hindsight it was a stupid thing to do as I think it made them feel uncomfortable (her husband doesn’t like me and calls me City Girl).

I will often gift money and something - whether it’s champagne or a photo frame. If you have a nice photo of the couple to put in the frame already that’s a nice touch - I did this for one friend (a collection of photos of her and her DH) and she said it meant a lot as they didn’t have any framed photos of them up til that point.

I think £50 is a nice midway point. and They will be really pleased with that gift.

mycatplotsdeath · 31/08/2018 10:21

Went to a wedding a few weeks ago.
The couple asked for a small gift of $ if anyone wanted to give a gift.
We gave $50

Longdistance · 31/08/2018 10:23

£100 for the day.
£50 for the evening

MirandaWest · 31/08/2018 10:29

We give £50. When we got married two years ago (second marriage for both of us) most couples gave us £50

Spikeyball · 31/08/2018 10:29

Usually £50 but more for close family.

littlebigtown · 31/08/2018 10:31

I put £50 in a card for 2 very good friends of mine .

I was invited as a single and was there all day .

Luckily for me I happened to live close to the venue so I didn't need to pay out for hotels or taxis . We all work in the same industry so they know my earnings and outgoings .

Judging by how much they had in cash from cards ( yes , I asked , they told me .. we are not weird about that kind of thing within our friendship group ) and how many people were there £50 each person seemed about right .

Mostly they were thrilled that people turned up and the extra honeymoon cash was just a bonus , but then they are nice non grabby people just happy to be married ,

Give what you can afford , good friends and nice people don't care as long you've had a good time Wink

Merrz · 31/08/2018 10:37

I usually give £100 per couple for an all day wedding, if i'm a normal person (by that i guess you mean like a standard guest, good friends but not part of the bridal party or anything?)

Holy f**k, £10 or £20 Confused I got married a couple of years ago and didn't get this little even from evening only guests.
Not that it's about the money at all and i'm sure the b&g will appreciate its expensive for guests by the time they get an outfit etc but if you are on a budget i would probably just give a gift rather than money as i think £20 is a bit insulting when they've forked out for a meal and probably some drinks for you plus 1

serbska · 31/08/2018 10:40

Nothing if I have to travel abroad, have to take annual leave, or if I have to stay in the expensive wedding hotel, or if I am bridesmaid and you make me buy my own dress,

£100 if it is a nice local (in UK) wedding where there is a choice of hotels!

Rarfy · 31/08/2018 10:42

I have done £30 in the past and £100 for siblings.

AlexanderHamilton · 31/08/2018 10:43

I would give £20-30 for a friend, maybe up to £50 for a best friend and approx £60-80 for a sibling.

More would be simply unaffordable.

wafflyversatile · 31/08/2018 10:44

£30 tops. That's what I spend on gifts for DN's birthdays and Christmases and those don't require me to travel or pay for hotels or buy fancy outfits to attend.

RebeccaCloud9 · 31/08/2018 10:48

Recently married. We got a range from £25 to about £60, then a 100, 200 and 300 from 3 particular guests. Probably the most common amount was £50 from couples.

DameJulie · 31/08/2018 10:49

I've spent £60 on a dress she chose as myself and a couple of other mates are matching as she wanted us to match to stand out as her best friends

Is that normal?

Ohyesiam · 31/08/2018 10:52

£50
Am I the only one that feels Hmm about matching best friends....?

zebrarobot · 31/08/2018 10:53

As a couple with 2 young kids as well, we aren't rich but not struggling either. We do keep an eye on money though so would probably be £50 from us.

RuleBreaker · 31/08/2018 10:54

I don’t, I buy a present.

RavenLG · 31/08/2018 11:21

As a couple we've given £100 to close friends.
£50 to friends / family
£30 to evening only weddings.

When my best friend got married I was at uni, living in a different city and absolutely skint. I couldn't even afford to go to her hen party I was so upset. All i could afford (after train tickets, dress etc.) was £20 but did make her a little memory book and handmade picture frame. She was touched. It's been 5 years and I STILL feel guilty I couldn't do more.

RavenLG · 31/08/2018 11:24

Am I the only one that feels hmm about matching best friends....?
Nope. If they were that close and bride wanted them matching why not make them bridesmaids? I have a feeling something like this happened at a wedding I went to recently. Very casual affair (town hall, pizza place for reception and pub function room). Bridesmaids were in one dress and 3/4 other girls were in matching dresses (different from BM but clearly BM dresses). When we were waiting to go into the room we assumed they were from another wedding but nope... very odd imo!

SnuggyBuggy · 31/08/2018 11:26

You really should pay for your bridesmaids dresses, maybe it's ok not to if you are ok with them just wearing a dress they already own

mikeTV · 31/08/2018 11:26

Holy fk, £10 or £20 * I got married a couple of years ago and didn't get this little even from evening only guests.
Not that it's about the money at all and i'm sure the b&g will appreciate its expensive for guests by the time they get an outfit etc but if you are on a budget i would probably just give a gift rather than money as i think £20 is a bit insulting when they've forked out for a meal and probably some drinks for you plus 1*

This is why wedding gifts/money drive me crazy. £20 isn't insulting! Weddings aren't a transaction of "We've paid for your meal, now pay us back".

Traditionally wedding gifts were to help a couple set up home from scratch. It's really rare that couples need this these days.

I'd rather we did away with giving of money/gifts where not needed tbh, but if people are going to do it at least be grateful/non-grabby!

mostdays · 31/08/2018 11:29

Around £30 probably. £50 absolute tops.

SwedishEdith · 31/08/2018 11:29

2nd weddings/older people getting married makes a difference (in my head, anyway) as they probably don't need anything.

Between £50 and £80 if close friends. But it completely depends on what you can afford.