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If you are a normal person, how much cash do you put in a wedding card?

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BretonStripe · 31/08/2018 09:07

Bride and groom have asked for cash to spend on honeymoon. Not an extravagant couple or wedding (2nd time around for him). We are good friends and going to whole day and evening.

So if you are not rich and not poor, how much do you give?

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cobwebsinthebelfry · 31/08/2018 15:11

Every second wedding I've been to the couple have asked for no presents or money.

Is asking for money in these circumstances a new thing?

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BretonStripe · 31/08/2018 15:15

I think they probably don't need anything and genuinely don't want anything - but I tend to take things at face value! (Scuse the pun).

They probably don't want to put people out, so think nipping to the cash point is quick and easy and saves any shopping stress?

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ourkidmolly · 31/08/2018 15:26

Dress thing as second tier bridesmaids is most peculiar and not something I've seen. How bizarre. £100 minimum for whole day couple. £10/20 tight unless you're super hard pressed.

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HighwayDragon1 · 31/08/2018 15:28

50/75 if involved with the wedding, or close friend/family
25/30 plus fizz otherwise

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BretonStripe · 31/08/2018 15:30

ourkidmolly you say most peculiar and bizarre, I say different and lovely Smile

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Stephisaur · 31/08/2018 15:31

£20 to buy a drink on us on the Honeymoon.

If they were a REALLY good friend, we'd probably do £50?

leghairdontcare · 31/08/2018 15:33

£40 on the basis that it's easier to give 2x£20 notes than 2x£20 & 1x£10 but that's probably my issue alone.

Me and my friendship group all come from average income families 50-60k so could afford £100 for a special occasion but I would be mortified if someone felt obliged to give me that for my wedding. It's too much, in my opinion.

ourkidmolly · 31/08/2018 15:34

But won't people just think you've bought the same dress accidentally? I know I would. Or ask you if you're a bridesmaid? What do you reply? "Yes, a second tier one!"

maskingtape · 31/08/2018 15:39

£50.
£100 seems like a huge amount.

MsSquiz · 31/08/2018 15:40

I'd say £40 or £50 each (so £80 or £100 from DH and I) if we were good friends with the couple and invited to the full wedding

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BretonStripe · 31/08/2018 15:41

ourkidmolly there won't be "people" - just friends and family Smile and yes, I'm fine with saying 2nd tier bridesmaid. I guess traditionally there would be little flower girls running around in matching dresses so not too different. I like different Smile

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Fluffybat · 31/08/2018 15:44

Always give £50. £100 seems a lot. We were given lots of £50s and £25.

goforthandmultiply · 31/08/2018 15:45

I'd feel really uncomfortable if people gave me £50-£100 for a gift.

We got gifts varying from nothing to about £30. Most were £10-£20 but this was a few years back so I'd expect the current equivalent to be £20-£30. The only gifts higher than this were immediate family gifts (parents and siblings)

Usually I give £20-£30.

Freddiesgirl · 31/08/2018 15:50

£40 or £50 for day guests, £20 for evening.

LuckyDiamond · 31/08/2018 15:55

£100 invited all day
£50 invited evening only

Bestseller · 31/08/2018 16:00

I don't think the matching dresses is odd, but especially if the bridesmaids are children or very young women (as the bride isn't having her best friends). A much better plan than forcing, shall we say mature, and women into bridesmaids dresses. Unusual, yes but actually inspired.

FreshEyre · 31/08/2018 16:43

I don't think you should give cash in the currency of their honeymoon destination. Who wants to carry £100s in cash?

I agree with this. And depending on the honeymoon destination there may not be much to spend £100s on.

Bumdishcloths · 31/08/2018 16:44

£20. I can't afford more, it's what I would spend on a present.

VodkaLimeSoda27 · 31/08/2018 16:53

It depends on what you can afford. At our wedding, some people didn't give a gift and others gave £250. Different people, different circumstances, and we were just really happy that they all came.

We give what we can afford- usually £40 for colleagues, £70 for close friends and if it was a close family member I'd make it £100-ish. If it was an evening invite only, probably £40.

Oblomov18 · 31/08/2018 18:24

£50

Racheyg · 31/08/2018 18:28

Depends.....
If we have to travel and do hotel ect the about £50.00 but more like £100 if local

nothingchangesagain · 31/08/2018 18:36

wow all these people saying £100 can you be my friend? Honestly the norm is £20 to £50 with my circle of friends and none of us are poor or tight, just average salaries. Even the more well off couples have only given £50 ish at weddings that I know of.

onetimeposter · 31/08/2018 18:38

30
20 seems tight so it is more than that but affordable

LookAtMeLookAtMoy · 31/08/2018 18:39

£20 for a colleague, £50 for a mate, £100 for family.

bambootwentytwo · 31/08/2018 18:46

£20 for evening if I go alone (quite common with work friends)
£30 for evening together
£50 for day
Have done £100 before when b&g said they would pay for our hotel. Only they didn’t in the end so it ended up being quite an expensive do!