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Been so stupid

220 replies

AyeAyeFishyPie · 26/10/2017 07:10

DH and I have decided to try to conceive but want to wait until January - various reasons, maximising mat leave and a holiday booked.
Coil came out yesterday. I had completely forgotten and had sex the night before. Do I get the MAP? I'm so stupid.

OP posts:
WomblingThree · 26/10/2017 13:01

So you expect your friends to have morals and respect for life @user21, but you don’t. Hypocrite.

ShirleyPhallus · 26/10/2017 13:54

This thread is ridiculous and funny in equal measure

My favourite bit was the accusation that the OP must be addicted to fish Grin

lottieandmia22 · 26/10/2017 13:56

You know what I think the nasty responses are jealousy that the op is going on a great holiday.

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user21 · 26/10/2017 14:10

I don't feel the need to explain myself to a bunch of strangers tbh but surely you can understand that the circumstances for a termination can differ.

I read the OP and replied with my thoughts on her taking the MAP. My thoughts had the OP been pregnant and was considering a termination because the timings were a few months out would have been different.

HidingBehindTheWallpaper · 26/10/2017 14:16

My thoughts had the OP been pregnant and was considering a termination because the timings were a few months out would have been different.

Well yes. And if my Aunty had balls she’d be my uncle.
It would be different, but that isn’t what the op is doing.

Taking the MAP is nothing like having a termination. Nothing at all. It is preventing the vague possibility of a pregnancy, just like using a condom would have.

user21 · 26/10/2017 14:22

... and that is what I said in my first post on this thread hiding

Overreaction1 · 26/10/2017 14:26

User - of course people can understand the reasons for a termination can differ.
What's astounding is the fact you consider yourself in a position to judge what is an acceptable reason and what isn't for a woman to have a termination.
Abortion and your moral principles are nothing to do with the map. But you mentioned it and I think people are shocked at how judgemental you were to your friend

PandorasXbox · 26/10/2017 14:30

Yes you did User but then you said you’d never forgiven friends for terminating and then confessed to having one yourself.

Can you not see the hypocrisy there?

user21 · 26/10/2017 14:34

I'm not sure that's being judgemental.
I just chose to back away from that friendship in the same way I would if a friend was having an affair, was racist or had extreme political views.

user21 · 26/10/2017 14:34

It was the circumstances Pandora

Overreaction1 · 26/10/2017 14:37

So now your friend for termination a pregnancy - same or similar procedure as you as you but different circumstance is being compared to a racist?!
Crazy and yes judgmental.

PandorasXbox · 26/10/2017 14:41

You both terminated for personal reasons. You don’t get to decide whether you were of higher moral ground than your friend.

user21 · 26/10/2017 15:04

I'm not comparing her to a racist Grin

Yes pandora I do.

MsGameandWatching · 26/10/2017 15:31

I have never forgiven friends for doing that btw

You said friends, plural. This indicates that you generally have a problem with women terminating unwanted pregnancies and have judged more than one friend for doing so, only now you're back tracking saying it's just one friend and you are implying there are serious reasons for your judgment that you will not disclose. I call BS.

Overreaction1 · 26/10/2017 15:35

User I think that you are a wind up. There are too many contradictions and it's just so Irrational.
On another note I hope the op enjoys her holiday 😂

PandorasXbox · 26/10/2017 15:38

Yes I agree there is something not quite right with User’s posts.

TaraCarter · 26/10/2017 15:46

Perhaps this thread is getting away from itself a bit now.

The OP has taken the MAP (which is a course of action user21 was encouraging anyway), and arguing over termination is outwith the intended purview of this thread. Moreover, having a debate about it in a thread about the MAP doesn't challenge the common belief that the MAP is an early form of termination. Give me a break here, I've been working hard on separating them!

I like my heated termination debates to take place in threads set up for the purpose, and not in threads about contraception.

user21 · 26/10/2017 15:48

Friends, as in a couple.

6demandingchildren · 26/10/2017 17:31

My daughter has just had the implant taken out as it's now out of date, she isn't having another put in as she is getting married next year and has an amazing honeymoon planned, but she does not want an oppsie moment either but think she had one as she did a test yesterday and it was negative.
We are all human and get carried away when In love, op have the map and have a fantastic holiday and make loads of memories x

StealthPolarBear · 26/10/2017 21:27

Op glad you're sorted. Enjoy your lovely holiday

StealthPolarBear · 26/10/2017 21:28

An oppsie?
And you seem to know a lot about your daughters sex life

6demandingchildren · 26/10/2017 22:14

Yes and I know a lot about my eldest 3 sons sex lives as well, they have never been embarrassed to ask questions or ask for advice.

PandorasXbox · 26/10/2017 22:29

I bet your DILs just love you 6demandingchildren!

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AyeAyeFishyPie · 26/10/2017 22:38

Well that escalated quickly...

OP posts:
6demandingchildren · 26/10/2017 22:38

We all get on well, I obviously don't know what they get up to as that's perverted to even let your mind wander there.
But they are open about contraception and being safe.

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