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Been so stupid

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AyeAyeFishyPie · 26/10/2017 07:10

DH and I have decided to try to conceive but want to wait until January - various reasons, maximising mat leave and a holiday booked.
Coil came out yesterday. I had completely forgotten and had sex the night before. Do I get the MAP? I'm so stupid.

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TroutySnouts · 26/10/2017 07:55

Some very harsh, unnecessary responses on this thread.
OP it’s up to you - the MAP shouldn’t hurt your chances of conceiving when you are trying so it can’t hurt to get it today if you want to be safe and would rather not conceive just yet.

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AyeAyeFishyPie · 26/10/2017 07:55

Thanks LaBelle. I know I'm being daft in that my chances would be very low, and I'm aware this is a proper first world problem, I'm also aware that I may really struggle to get pregnant etc I'm just cross with myself if I have booked one last adults only carefree holiday and knowing me I would spend it being completely paranoid...

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user1495832265 · 26/10/2017 07:56

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AyeAyeFishyPie · 26/10/2017 07:56

I had the coil in for 5 years so it had to come out.

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CandyMelts · 26/10/2017 07:57

By some of this logic we should all go contraception free from the age of 16 if we ever want a child. Then if you got pregnant and it messed up school, uni, career, life goals etc then that's the correct thing to prove you can cope with the needs of kids Hmm

Get the MAP OP, enjoy your holiday - you should absolutely control the elements of your life that are within that control

Mooncuplanding · 26/10/2017 07:57

Sole destroying where people put their priorities these days

duckduckmouse · 26/10/2017 07:58

You can have wine in small amounts and eat all seafood pretty much.
Nothing raw and don't have mussels.
As long as you don't have morning sickness you will be fine and if you do you cope.

Also it depends where you are in your cycle. Why don't you check if you're ovulating.

And one other thing, I'm shocked you forgot! It's a big deal..

MrLovebucket · 26/10/2017 07:58

Clearly it's not convenient for you to fall pregnant at the moment, for whatever reason. Although it's unlikely you have conceived with a one-off unprotected shag it's also not unheard of.

I'd get the MAP to be on the safe side.

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AyeAyeFishyPie · 26/10/2017 07:58

Thanks Trouty, I really appreciate that advice. I think you are right - better safe than sorry.

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Bisquick · 26/10/2017 07:59

OP, we booked a holiday before getting pregnant, to Japan! It was in the middle of second trimester - I was still throwing up twice a week and was tired but had a fantastic time! I didn’t drink, but not sure why you think all seafood is off limits?
Based on my obgyn’s advice I had salmon sushi and some tuna as well, just stayed away from raw or undercooked seafood.
Of course you can get the MAP if you wish to avoid getting pregnant... depends on how much this is truly a “once in a lifetime” holiday really. So many of my friends seem to go to the Indian Ocean on their babymoons or with kids in tow it doesn’t seem like a pregnancy-unfriendly destination, unlike say a trek up Kili.

pipistrell · 26/10/2017 07:59

I’m agog that you would get the MAP three months before you had decided to start trying for a baby.

I won’t say any more as I’d get banned.

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zen1 · 26/10/2017 07:59

Sounds like you've already decided that the prospect of being pregnant now would be a huge inconvenience to you so take the MAP. Be aware though, that you can't always schedule conception to fit in with your plans.

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AyeAyeFishyPie · 26/10/2017 08:01

Duck I know - five years with a coil in and it's all just left my head - so stupid, I know.

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KoalaD · 26/10/2017 08:02

Sole destroying where people put their priorities these days

I see what you did there. (Sole is a fish...?)

I'll see myself out.

Knusper · 26/10/2017 08:03

OP will you need to take malaria medication contraindicated in pregnancy for your holiday? I'd be tempted to look into that now.

LIZS · 26/10/2017 08:03

And your dh's head? Hmm did you not discuss your plans for interim?

MsGameandWatching · 26/10/2017 08:03

throughthickandthin. The MAP is not used to "abort". You do understand how it works don't you?

WhoKn0wsWhereTheSlimeGoes · 26/10/2017 08:04

Go and get the MAP plus condoms then go and enjoy your holiday. Yes it was silly, but its done now, no point beating yourself up.

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AyeAyeFishyPie · 26/10/2017 08:04

OK I'm leaving this thread. I can't believe the things that have just been posted. Thanks to those who have been supportive.

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ScarletSienna · 26/10/2017 08:05

It is very close to when you’ve decided you’ll officially start trying anyway so I wouldn’t. If you weren’t planning on ttc that’d be different. It would only be avoiding alcohol that’d be not as planned. If you found out you were pregnant (given you want to be very soon) I don’t think it’d ‘ruin’ your holiday. But if you are feeling more negatively towards conceiving a few months early than about avoiding alocohol then your choice is straightforward.

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AyeAyeFishyPie · 26/10/2017 08:05

knusper no I made sure to avoid malaria and Zika zones

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littlechous · 26/10/2017 08:05

Don’t beat yourself up about it OP. Just get the MAP, its not a big deal taking it.

But maybe have a think/readjustment with your expectations on falling pg. you’d be very lucky indeed for it to happen in January straight away and I can’t help but feel that if you’re worrying this much about falling after one count of having sex you might end up very disappointed if it doesn’t happen straight away

parklives · 26/10/2017 08:05

Wow op. Are you really sure you’re ready to be a mother? (Even in January). I am actually very shocked by your post, and I’m not a pearl clutcher. You can love a pregnancy and a baby in January, but not in October? Hope that baby has the correct colour eyes for you too op.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 26/10/2017 08:06

MsGame yes I do know how MAP works. And I meant abort to mean stop, end, terminate, prevent.

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