SAHM: My husband doesn’t give me any money

[Agoodapple]

Hi, and first of all, sorry, if this is on the wrong board.
I’m a SAHM of a little girl.
Here’s the situation, I’ve been married to my husband for a couple years now and he’s extremely tight. We’re talking, if I’d like to borrow £1 from him he will make a huge deal out it.
My husband doesn’t give me any money, he keeps the CTC, child benefit and working tax credit, plus his salary.
If I want to buy anything for myself (shampoo, get my hair cut, or clothes) I’ll have to sell something on eBay first.
I always thought being married meant that what’s mine is his and what’s his is mine as well, but turns out that it’s 100% my husbands and I don’t get anything.
Yes, he pays all the bills and food which I’m grateful for, but I, like every other SAHM, do everything in the house and look after our child.
I’m thinking of divorcing him, not just because of the money thing, but also because he doesn’t appreciate me, respect me or treats me nice in any way. He calls me names, doesn’t kiss, hug or have sex with me and starts arguments all the time (mostly over money)
I asked him if it’s okay if I buy him a small Xmas gift for £5, and his reaction was: Do I have to do the same?
What kind of reaction is that?
What would you do in my situation and how do you do finances with your SO, do you get an allowance or any spending money?

Kaliza you may be better off starting your own thread. I suggest you look at the relationships board and start there. Sending good vibes

Hi OP I don't have any advice I just wanted to say I hope you're ok and I really hope you can get out of this situation somehow x

I hope everything works out OP. You are going to be so much happier out if this situation.

I'm in a similar situation, I lost my job ,that I couldn't handle anymore,now looking for a job (an easier one ) but it's hard ,I have lost my confidence,I have no clothes & money,can't get Centerlink help as he earns too much money,and when I ask for money for myself or my children ,he says he doesn't have any and that I should hurry up & find a job,I will keep looking for work,is there anything else I need to do ?

Leave him. It's not just financial abuse, it's every kind of abuse bar physical! If he is working the childtax credits and child benefits are yours and should be going into your account. I'd get the hell away from him and if you can't ring women's aid because you are in an abusive relationship.

are you still dealing with this I have been in almost the same situation.

Hi, I’m sorry to hear about your situation. I’ve worked and am currently a SAHM to our daughter, we also have two school aged children. My husband transfers me £800 per month, which covers days out with my daughter and also covers food shopping for a month and whatever else I may need. It sounds like he’s very controlling, are there any reasons why he’s so controlling with money, do you have any financial problems?

This thread is a zombie, ie an old thread. If you're a new poster needing help, start your own new thread and you'll
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I remember reading this from last year, I hope all has worked out for you apple ?

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