A horrible, horrible thing happened****warning, potential trigger****

[JustDontWantToSay]

I'm going to keep this as vague as possible because I don't want my friend to find out.
Last night I stayed with my friend and her husband - known them a long time, stayed many times before.
We went out for dinner, we'd all been drinking (not silly amounts) and then we sat down to watch a film. I fell asleep during the film and when I woke up my friend had gone to bed and her husband had changed the channel to soft core porn and had his fingers inside me. I immediately pushed him away but he was resistant and when I managed to scramble away he started a conversation about the porn! I was so utterly shocked that I just left the room immediately and went to bed.
I've now woken up, I'm still here, WWYD??

we are all behind you op. very brave woman. xx

Hand offered here if you need one to hold....

Good luck, JustDontWantToSay. We all appreciate how scary and difficult this is, but you're doing the right thing.

oh well done JustDontWantToSay! thinking of you & sending you strength.

You're doing an incredibly brave thing, we're here for you

Good luck, big hugs x

Well done you for taking care of yourself OP. You have made a very brave decision. The police will take this extremely seriously

Good luck op. Everyone will be here for you.

Just wanted to say I applaud your bravery. It is definitely the right thing to do. Good luck, OP - will be thinking about you.

You're amazing op xx

Good luck, we're all thinking of you xx

Good for you OP. You're doing the right thing

Well done for going to the police. I hope they are supportive and that taking this action against him helps you to feel a tiny bit better. Please also consider getting some counselling or phoning one of the support organisations people have mentioned, it's not trivial at all, you have been violated. You did nothing to encourage him. No one ever deserves to be sexually assaulted. It is never the victim's fault

Well done for being strong enough to report it. I hope that it has helped you in some way. Thinking of you x

Well done, love. What has happened to you is incredibly distressing, but what you're doing today will prevent it happening to another innocent woman. That's a huge thing to do. Thank you.

How did it go just?

How are you doing? Xx

Hey Just - I've just read your update. How are you doing?
I hope you are getting good support in RL.

I am so pleased you have reported this man. You have done the right thing & are being very brave.

Hope it was ok op.

Thanks everyone. Interview done and dusted. He will be arrested tonight/tomorrow morning.

Oh good. And how are you?

Well done - how you feeling?

I'm shattered and shell shocked and feel like I could sleep for 1 million years. But also relieved. No matter what happens now it's out of my hands and into those far more experienced.

Well done, you've been really brave. And it is very likely that this man has assaulted other women in the past - the behaviour is that of a seriously committed predator. He probably did drug or spike your drink and has probably drugged other women as well. Hopefully he will be convicted and imprisoned.

And none of it was your fault in any shape or form.

well done.
i could bore you rigid with this mans "rapist" profile....but i wont. they all fit a certain "type" you see....

the wonderful thing is that you have chosen to act. well done for that.
expect a bumpy emotional ride now....you will have ups and downs.

you will grieve for that friendship because its never going to be the same.

but
it wasnt after he did that anyway.

you did the absolute right thing.

Oh, well done Just

You will have vindicated the other women he HAS done this to, who didn't have your presence of mind. And, we hope, you've made it much more difficult for him to keep on doing it.

Parsnip mentioned Sexual Assault Referral Centres. I'd never heard of them before, and they sound wonderful! The Glade in Worcester covers Herefordshire. Here's their website. They have a 24-hour phone line.