I am submissive to my husband AMA

[Peachesx2606]

Please AMA but please be kind.

I'm interested in other thoughts/opinions and will try to give mine.

This is just something that seems to work for us x

Of course he respects me. I gave birth to his child! Not so feeble then!

Ok, thank you.

@Peachesx2606 the I really hope you are able to access support to work through this. It’s not healthy. Best of luck.

Again with the language of a child to a parent.

have you spoken to your therapist about this, do they know the extent of your behaviour ?

I am not sure being potentially nd, which explains this, I notice some posters have jumped on it as usual, it’s just really disturbing to read and yes you need help.

i am genuinely unsure how your children can’t know you behave like a child and treat your husband like a parent, I can’t see how that can be hidden, and I am unsure how you could do a job really, do it successfully.

it’s all just “I’m so incapable I need my dad to tell me what to do”

I'm spoken to my therapist a bit about it.

I did really well in my career. But I found it very stressful.

I’d advise talking a lot to your therapist about it.

but if you’re able to do well in a career then this behaviour at home is a choice.

See, it’s changed from when this started? The start of the thread was that you had both agreed that you would be submissive to him and that you like a more traditional relationship. Now it’s that he has no choice but to support you and he would be proud if you could cope more.

Which is it? Are you submissive to him because that’s how you want to live your life or are you dependent on him to manage your life for you?

Yes and in the middle of the thread she was suddenly pretty equal , at the start she was submissive in all areas of her life.to an extent it was taboo to talk about. Then she had a successful career. Takes all decisions on the home, and kids. Now she’s a child again.

just the oddest thread.

Stop doing that or you wont get your nails done?

This is....horrible. A threat.

I am hopeful that the thread might make you realise that dressing up his control as you being submissive is another way to control you. You are being controlled and you say you like it. That its helpful to you. Do you think that you've been groomed to think that? To accept the control? What an effective strategy!

There are other ways a partner can help you manage the parts of life you say you struggle with. Ways that dont involve controlling you and threatening you. I hope you see that and have a life with a supportive partner in the future.

I think it shows how much you have grown. If you were a single mom in the past, you probably understand better and appreciate what he is trying to do. Do be careful and keep a hold of the reigns yourself too though. There is a difference between you agreeing to do what he says because it makes sense and you letting him take over altogether. If ye haven't been together long, keep your eyes open and keep hold of the single mom vibe too. I'm delighted things are going well for you ♥️😃

Thank you for your kind post. Truly helpful.