I am submissive to my husband AMA

[Peachesx2606]

Please AMA but please be kind.

I'm interested in other thoughts/opinions and will try to give mine.

This is just something that seems to work for us x

So are you actually asking for help?

Is there anything about being submissive that makes you uncomfortable and if so what?

Has your belief system shifted now versus some years ago? Do you have any safety concerns about yourself ? Do you have freedom to have relationships (friendships and family) with other people outside yourself and partner? Have your finances self expressionor autonomy been restricted ? Is there psychological coercion or control ? I expect there is.

Are you truly happy, OP?

How old are you both and how long have you been together?

When did you realise that your father didn’t love you?

How did it come about in the first place? Who mentioned it as an idea, him or you?

@Peachesx2606 oh, sometimes people start AMAs and they turn into Answer Me Nothings as they get the huff at the questions.

Why did this submission start? Have you done things you didn’t want to because you were overruled by your DH? Did you promise to obey him in your wedding vows?

Have you had other relationships before your DH? Are you similar in age?

It already seems cagey and strange. Questions have started to be asked, nothing clear in response. As others have asked, submissive in what areas of life?

I wonder if this is more a cry for help.

And if it is @Peachesx2606 then you can speak freely here and people will help you. You don't need to feel alone, or embarrassed, or afraid.

It means letting him make decisions and trusting him to make them in all our best interests. I try to follow what he says.

Submissive in life.

I wonder this too.

OP, you can be completely honest and open here, and nobody will judge you. It’s okay to have doubts and this is a safe space to express them.

Do you think it’s childish to outsource decision making to another adult as if you lacked the competency to be involved in that decision making?

It very much could be cultural. Is it cultural @Peachesx2606?

Was it always like this sweetheart? Before you were married? Or is this a new thing since being married?

Whose idea was it?
Are you religious?

I try to follow what he says

What happens when you fall short?

Even if it’s cultural, it still treats women as child-like, as lacking competency to be involved in decision making.

FFS this sounds like a misogynistic religion. Is it?

Do you have access to your own money?

Did you actually want to be submissive? Doesn’t sound like it. Are you doing this for an easier life without him kicking off?

No one is disagreeing, but people are trying to read the room.

Are you allowed to change your mind and stop being submissive? Why are you submissive and not him? Do you think you are setting a good example to any sons or daughters you may have? What’s in it for you?

No, this is not about my sex life!!

Perhaps that’s not my forte @Arlanymor