My boys go to a prestigious boarding school. Ask me anything !

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Ask me anything about my boys who board at an all boys’ school ! Any disrespectful questions will be ignored

last time I checked I wasn’t in a court of law..

I think we're supposed to be impressed. Careful now, that could be a disrespectful question.....

What type of education are they given in regard to seeing the world from women’s point of view?

My DD recently encountered a boy from an elite, private, all boys school who thought rape jokes were funny. He was a nice boy too, which is why I was astounded that he hadn’t thought through what was clearly an acceptable joke in his world. All boys world.

Will you discuss with them how to treat the girls properly for sixth form?

I went to a “prestigious boarding school” and the public school boys i encountered were scum of the earth. Some of the things they would do included: making websites listing all their ‘conquests’ including naming each girl so each girl had a tracker of every kiss or fumble or whatever, filming girls in the bedroom without them knowing, secretly referring to the girls by names of STDs if they thought they were too “loose”, putting a lot of time and effort into seducing a girl to take her virginity and then dumping her.

Hopefully your DSs will be better.

Are you worried about attachment/abandoment issues?

sorry to hear that. That is bad. My kids will not be backward about complaining to me…

Would you send your daughter there for the 6th form?

There are some state boarding schools for example that cater to students in rural areas and island communities. This indicates that it isn't one of those.

Id be fascinated in an AMA on these options, where people dont have the option of having their kids come home each night. They might be tied to a particular property due to a farm for example so they have no choice but for their kids to board. That must be really tough

DH went to a 'prestigious' boarding school.

Thankfully, he went through a lot of therapy in his 20's when he started to recognise the damage that had been done. There was no abuse, but the knowledge that his parents didn't care if they saw him every day from a young age ate away at him, as did the 'coping' mechanisms learnt (which generally involved squashing down any nasty emotions like isolation and loneliness deep inside, usually with drugs and alcohol).

When his parents (that we have only seen a handful of times in the last ten years as DH considers them strangers) floated the idea of dc going to the same boarding school he shut them down immediately.

Actually, his precise words were 'Hell will freeze over first'.

You don’t need the best education money can buy. You need a good education and a stable loving family environment.

Well done 👏👏👏

No. It is a new initiative mixed 6th form so not tried properly yet, and i would like her to go to an all girls school

Rude! No your not in a court of law but you allowed people to ask you questions and that one was a good one I thought but you didn’t actually answer it

I'm guessing boarding schools are different these days. My ex went to boarding school. He was a weird combination of emotionally unavailable and oddly needy. He seemed to have no self- governing abilities and couldn't stand his own company. His boarding school was like Lord of the Flies. I loved home but had to leave in the end because his inability to be emotionally supportive or take any kind of control of sa situation was just too much to bear. It was very sad. He ended up marrying somrone else and had a lot of kids. I think it was to make up for the emotional hole in his own life. His mother was a high functioning addict. But if a mess and not an uncommon story from years ago.

Don't kid yourself.

Do read the findings of the 2022 independent inquiry into child sexual abuse in boarding schools.

Why do you think we care?

will be back, just heading to the beach with said kids

Interesting. Do you think the girls are vulnerable in this situation?

Because you are commenting ?

Are you in Skegness? It's very breezy today.

No, the poor kids have to exceptionally bright. The rest just need parents with coin.

Most of the threads on AMA are thinly-disguised attempts to get attention or boast. This is a new goady low though.

Oh and yes...... weird things happened at his school as in...well you can guess...but he was never detailed sbiut it....it was just ' there' in the ether

No, I just prefer single sex education - it is about the quality of provision as girls have different learning needs