My boys go to a prestigious boarding school. Ask me anything !

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Ask me anything about my boys who board at an all boys’ school ! Any disrespectful questions will be ignored

Happily yes, the school they went to before (which they had been in from the age of 4) , half the boys went onto the same secondary boarding school.
we also live locally to both boarding schools

Would you consider going vegan?

I am still very much their mother, and instill my values into them,regardless of what teaching staff they have at boarding school

Don't you miss them enormously?!

Yes sometimes, if I am abroad. But they are good at phoning me, and as yet haven’t had any upsetting experiences.
the pastoral care is good so far, but i am always very aware that can change

Do you ever think about the days when they have a rubbish day at school- maybe fall out with a friend, maybe find work hard, get told off or whatever and instead of being able to go home and be in their safe space, get a hug from mum, maybe their favourite dinner, they have to just stay there with none of thst.
It must be like living at work.

What do you think about the bullying that is endemic at institutions such as these?

Yes. Hugely. When they first went it was a big adjustment and I felt an emotion of loss. It is awful, but you grow used to it

What would happen (how would you deal with potential guilt etc.) if your children disclosed a case of abuse, sexual or otherwise, as a direct result of your/your husbands choice to send them away and be parented by an instution?

Family tradition from my husband’s side
great opportunity in terms of sport/ co curriculum
great academics
common choice for boys at his primary school so he would have a lot of friends

why would you chose to spend your time with your husband over your children? Why did you not stay and raise your children and your husband work away? If it’s because you or your husband would miss each other how do you reconcile with your children missing out on both parents just for you to be together as husband and wife?

I think with all the safeguarding now in place (due to the hideous history) I think it a really safe place for a child to be in. I would probably say safer than your children wandering around town

Are you aware that there's a whole boarding school board on this site where people are discussing their children at boarding school?

Will you pay for their therapy when the emotional neglect give them mh problems? Yes, you are emotionally neglecting them by not being physically there for them on a daily basis. Even if your husband worked abroad for an extended time nothing stopped you from staying in England with your children. I would never ever leave my children just to be with my husband : they need me more than him. I do think you're selfish and lack empathy and I feel sorry for your children.

We thought it was a sacrifice worth making for continuing their education. To leave them in England . I have another younger child who travels with us but she is younger so more adaptable

Schools are for educating children. Why would you think they are for parenting children too? What is your role?

You are entitled to that opinion. I disagree. My children are thriving mentally - I see more emotional neglect in other environments. I am a warm and loving mother, and feel confident in the happy family we have built

What was the value of adding 'prestigious' to the thread title, and are you sadly disappointed that people aren't pressing you to know HOW prestigious?

Choosing a school because it was the one their father went to is the most appalling reason for choosing a school. Ask me (or more accurately my brothers), how I know.

What happened to considering them as individuals with needs and wishes of their own?

And I say that as a parent of two children who have also attended 'prestigious' boarding schools. Albeit as day pupils. We chose different ones, according to our children and their personalities.

But surely you’ve made a decision based on their sacrifice of not being a part of your family on a day to day basis. The sacrifice would have been you staying to raise your family or your husband find alternative employment that kept the family together?

Genuinely: better than some day schools- the anti bullying policy is extremely stringent

Did you ever consider a school where you live overseas that follows the UK curriculum, could they have gone to a day school,overseas instead.

we also live locally to both boarding schools

It's different if you are abroad so much but the reason I asked my question was because someone I knew sent their child to live in a school ten minutes from their house, and cut off any previous friendships for some reason. It seemed bizarre to me but I don't move in those circles. I'm glad your children have been able to keep some of what always was for them.

I have read Sad Little Men by Richard Beard, that was quite enlightening.

Yes they love it

Why would anyone want to ask questions about that? seriously puzzled