I’m a gay woman, as me anything!

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Shoot!

please can I ask -

W mentioned you’re attracted to masculine women- but are you at all attracted to feminine men ? For example Tom whatshisname in the Umbrella LipSynch ? Does he do anything for you ? He does for me and I’m ’super Straight’ . How much different are you and me ?

Honestly, I can’t remember if I worried too much about it before the children were born but definitely after it hasn’t mattered one ounce!

The length of this thread suggests people do indeed have questions

That is reassuring to hear 😊

No, I’m not attracted to feminine men. I’m not attracted to men at all but I think if I was I would probably go for a masculine man? As im attracted to masculinity in women?

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She corrected herself.

"I'm severely disabled. An ex through me under a moving bus.. left me for dead.. he's in prison for attempted murder.. sex is too painful and l don't have a complete pelvis or vagina .. I'm 66 now."

This was her post she forgot to add "threw me". HTH

Which is what I was surprised about! 😂

Why is being gay exceptional? Do we not live in a society where being a lesbian is perfectly normal?

I’m intrigued what insecurity or negative attitude towards you has led you to start this?

In a long term relationship, do your periods sync up?

Well it is exceptional in the truest definition of the word. Not insecure at all, just thought it would be fun and it has been. I think it’s your bedtime now👋

Im married and no

Ask Mumsnet to delete the post choose other and give your reason. It will probably be easier.

Do you find there's a lot of secret 'hate' for men amongst lesbian women ? A few I've been close to in the past, have all admitted they basically hated men. I didn't want to cause offence by prying too deeply. But it made me wonder if it's a common thing ? And if so, why?

Also, do you have any sons? How would you feel about bringing up a male ? (Please nobody jump on me about single mothers bringing up sons blah blah ) I'm just curious.

Do you think gay parents are more likely to feel more attuned to their child if they (the child) themselves turns out to be gay ?

For some of us a person’s femininity or masculinity isn’t directly related to the clothes they wear.

How mature of you to close a discussion rather than open it up. Why do you think being gay is exceptional? Are you the only one?

As part of a family that includes numerous gay members, I would never suggest they were exceptional. In fact, I think they’d all be quite horrified at this entire thread.

Maybe it’s your bedtime now 😬

Also, two friends who were lesbian were just "one of the group" treated no differently to any other member of the friendship group. It genuinely ,(not faux genuinely virtue signalling) didn't enter anyone's radar. We didn't talk about their 'gayness '. This was early 00s. Then when the pride movement/LGBTQIA+ movement gathered pace, I felt like I kind of lost these two friends to it. One is still the same mostly, but has become mortally offended at the drop of a hat, policing people's words, debating 'straight privilege ' at non related opportunities and it's like she's been brainwashed.

The other friend, changed beyond all recognition and decided it wasn't cool to be friends with "the straights" anymore and choose to only have gay couples as friends (gay/non binary/queer women ). It seemed like there was a kind of "lowering" yourself to mix with "straights". She did more or less admit that. Her loss I guess.

I'm just curious whether the LGBTQIA+ movement has caused division instead of inclusion. I wonder your thoughts ?

That’s a bit aggressive. It just sounds like the OP is thinking out loud in her answers, which is quite normal. I don’t really know what you’re actually accusing her of?

What do you actually do?

The thing is, even if them being gay wasn’t on anyone else’s radar in the group, that doesn’t mean they necessarily always felt fully part of the group. My friends are almost all straight, and I have no gay or bi female friends (other than my partner) outside work. However, in my workplace there are loads of LGBT+ people of all types, and when I first started there it felt so liberating to be around other queer people. It’s hard to explain and it’s probably hard to understand (just like how it’s hard for me to imagine how liberating it can feel sometimes for some people of colour to be in spaces where the majority are also people of colour). I think when we’re used to always being in the majority - being the ‘norm’ - it can be hard to understand how it feels for those who are usually in the minority.

Some are designed specifically for lesbian sex

Sounds like your group were fine with them being gay while they fit in your box of what normal is. Once they were more open about that part of their identity and got more politically engaged you were no longer accepting of it. Instead the way you describe them sounds divisive and judgemental. Sometimes people just grow and evolve differently. Gay rights didn’t cause division, homophobia did

Enjoying lesbian porn/womens pleasure doesn’t mean you’re a lesbian - it’s nice to see women’s pleased in porn as it is usually made for the male gaze but you never know, sexuality is a spectrum. I thought I was straight until I met my wife at 27