I’m a gay woman, as me anything!

[Flowery41]

Shoot!

I have slept with men in my youth usually drunk and not many, don’t have many clear memories of it as was a long time ago. But I have no sexual attraction to men so while repulsive is a strong word I do have strong feeling of being a bit grossed out at the thought

Thanks. Do you think you have a masculine style? Why do you think you feel attracted to masculinity but not men? Sorry, I don't want to bombard you but I'm fascinated. Please tell me if I'm asking too much.

I do agree with that

No I’m very feminine so people would never guess I’m gay. I like a confident dominant woman and like a sorta cocky woman (well I used to be in younger days) and that tends to be the women who dress more masc

You said to me you’ve had no relationship of significance with a man but you’ve slept with men? Then you don’t know what some women wear masculine clothes but that’s the type of woman you’re attracted to, so you must know why?

some disingenuous answers here with a big drip feed

I have loads of questions

1. Are you political, if so which party?
2. What do you feel about gay families (ie, adopting, surrogacy, etc)? Do you have any concerns about bringing kids up in an environment which you know puts them at risk of bullying etc over homophobia?
3. Do you have any religion, and if you do, what do you think about the way it treats gay people?
4. I'm interested in performative queerness & identity- the 'butch' trope for gay women, campness in gay men, etc. Like, for some people, it's important to them that others know their sexuality, and they do this by affectations, dress, etc. The same trait certainly exists in 'macho' men, but I'm not sure it exists so much in straight women. Or maybe I don't see it? I wonder whether you think there is a change in this in recent years? (I - personally!!- think it might be waning, and that's to do with technology revolutionising how people meet, so gay people no longer need external signals so much). I think the way people (all people) behave etc is strongly shaped by the society we live in, but it can seem hard to say that when people really feel it's part of their identity? Do you have any thoughts on that?

Thanks :)

Do you have children? How did you have them and do you mind if people ask for details? I know two same sex female couples who have had families and I want to ask who carried the babies because I’m nosy but I’m pretty sure that would be very rude!

lol are you ok hun?
I slept with men in my late teens, over 20 years ago. No relationships with any man outside of those encounters.
I don’t dress masculine myself so I can’t speak for why other women do?

Not political.

i support everyone’s right to have a family however they choose.

not religous anymore but grew up loosely religious which probably shaped a lot of my fears about coming out

honestly not something I’ve really ever thought about so I would need to think more before I replied about that but food for thought for sure

I do have children yes though IUI and IVF. I don’t mind when people ask if it’s someone I know well enough and it seems like a genuine question

How do you decide when you are finished in bed?

It’s never ending 😂😂

And also I don’t mind at all people asking who carried the children. Asking the details of how we had them etc I decide how much I share

I don't really quite know how to ask this but I am often surprised to find that lesbians seem attracted to me, despite the fact I could not be more feminine. That probably sounds really dumb! Do lesbians even bother showing an interest in straight women? Am I imagining that?

Thanks OP! :)

(I'm with you on the family)

Do you think the T should be lumped in with the LGB?

I have friends who love chasing straight women. So any attractive straight woman would be on their radar

Do you believe transwomen are women?
Would you have a relationship with a transwoman?

What offensive about fruity? Its not a word I use or hear about but didn't realised its a slur.

My daughter is lesbian and has struggled through initially believing she was trans as she’s gender non-conforming. My feeling is that, in my naive ‘we’ve fixed LGB rights, yay’ mis-belief, that things may actually have got harder for lesbian/gay women in recent years - especially with the widespread access to porn. Do you feel this? And what advice would you give a young confused lesbian who hasn’t really come out yet? (She’s not had a girlfriend and would not now where to start!)

Why would the sex toys you use differ if you were lesbian or not though?

My dd is gay and has a girlfriend. They’re 17 and we’re supportive but have lost parent friends who disagree with our stance - I want my dc to be in healthy relationships with people who are their cheerleaders regardless of genitalia. I was fairly stunned this view was seen so negatively by some of DD’s friends’ parents.

do you have any advice for my dd?

Do you have a 'gaydar' for lesbian women and how accurate is it?

I don’t feel it’s hard at all being an out lesbian now but I’ve been out for so long! But definitely initially it was hard internally for myself for a year or so, I would imagine your daughter is maybe in the throes of that but she will come out the other side. I love a very normal life with my wife and kids and work a normal job and everything is good :)

You’ve lost friends because you are supporting your daughter who’s gay? What have they said to you?
well I would tell your DD to keep living her life true to herself and she sounds very lucky
to have you