@HelpMebeok
It's not easy and using the right pronouns is very difficult at first but it does get easier with time. It's been easier to come to terms with as it's become clearer that she is happier - I think it would be much harder if it didn't have a positive impact on her. It was also important that she went through thorough psychiatric evaluation and objective counselling. I also found some groups for parents of transgender adults and that's been very useful to talk through the feelings of bereavement for the loss of the 'original' child and also as a safe space to talk through worries and concerns without being attacked for either supporting or finding it difficult to support your child. Ultimately, I've always felt able to love my children for who they are not who I'd like them to be. In the early days, I just pretended to go along with things and over time, that became a more genuine acceptance. I'd be happy to give you some links to groups or talk at more length if you'd like.