I am asexual - AMA!

[YouAreNotBatman]

Hello!👋🏻
Feel free to ask me questions.

Btw, people who've only known me since I had to give up sex tend to assume I'm a lesbian. That's fine by me, they're welcome to their speculation. Why would I be bothered?

The reason I am bothered by people assuming I am a lesbian is because I find it even more upsetting when women suspect my friendship isn't platonic than I do when men suspect my friendship isn't platonic, or make passes at me

Btw, people who've only known me since I had to give up sex tend to assume I'm a lesbian

you do realise lesbians have sex don’t you @GarlicGrace? What a bizarre statement

@Lastthingreally, tell it to the other people, not me! Apparently they think something like: Garlic doesn't date and isn't looking, she must be a closet lesbian.
[shrug]

It feels like everyone has to give themselves a label these days. Look at me. I'm so special. Something has gone wrong in a world where this is needed.

Thankfully I don’t think this particular label is going to make it remotely mainstream 🥲

@Vegrocks you should ask yourself why you’re so angry about asexuals?

And why you keep repeatedly coming back to the thread over a number of days to try and attack a number of posters who’ve been nothing but polite and asked for advice and support?

Often when people are angrily adverse to another person and how they live their life it’s because something in it hits home with them. Something to consider.

Alternatively you may just not be very nice and get off on being mean to strangers on the internet I guess.

Only on a thread like this can someone voice very forthrightly that they disagree with making something an issue that needs to be covered in schools - as having some kind of deep and profound “hitting home” experience from it 😂

So I suppose fact that I don’t want the National curriculum to cover asexuality as a “thing” rather than just ebb and flow of sex drive or… just doesn’t take your fancy, just mean I’m just not a very nice person!

And if that is the case… then I will embrace that “label” with pride

I don't get what you are saying here

You don't want the national curriculum to cover asexuality as a "thing"- just the ebb and flo of sex drive?

But asexuality is a thing, and not just the ebb and flo of sex drive.

Why don't you want students to learn that asexuality exists? 1-2% of students in the country are going to be asexual - surely you can see that it is a good thing that they recognise this in themselves if its them?

And surely its good thing for everyone who is not asexual to understand it exists, and understand what their friends/siblings/children are, if they come out as asexual?

What is absolutely is not is the ebb and flo of se drive, so why would we teach that it is?

I'm still not understanding this concept of horny asexuals masturbating. Can someone kindly explain it? What do asexuals think about when they're horny if they aren't attracted to other people?

As a heterosexual if my sex drive is high I'll find myself checking out other men more or fantasising about having sex. I can't divorce this attraction to men from my sex drive.

Asexuality isn't about sex drive, it's about sexual attraction.

Hi OP, fellow asexual here, I'm aro ase.

So I suppose fact that I don’t want the National curriculum to cover asexuality as a “thing” rather than just ebb and flow of sex drive or… just doesn’t take your fancy, just mean I’m just not a very nice person!

I went to school under section 28 so was only ever taught about heterosexual sex. I knew I was different at about age 12/13 when people started getting crushes and dating. I didn't find out being asexual was a thing until I was mid 20s.

I spent my late teens and early 20s thinking that there must be something SERIOUSLY wrong with me, I 100% believe that it was the cause of my severe depression during that time. I wonder how different it would have been if I had been taught that some people are attracted to the opposite sex, some the same sex, some to both sexes and some to neither.

but a poster on here who is adamant they are asexual is on another thread talking about their first orgasm in their twenties AND even on this thread describes themselves as having a “normal” sex drive in their twenties

and yet on this thread they are saying they’re asexual

do you see why one might think it has more to do with an ebb and flow

Ooh, are you talking about me again? Can I refer you back to my posts where I clearly identify as demisexual these days? And where I make clear that my intention in posting on this thread was to say that some younger asexuals will develop more of a sex drive with age, but others (as evidenced on this thread) won't?

basically confirming my “ebb and flow”comment!

@Vegrocks you're using one person’s (who’s a stranger to you) experience to dismiss everyone else. Even though you have no experience of said thing.

Do you argue gay people don’t exist because some people shift in their sexuality over the years?

And, again, why does being asexual irk you so much. You’re the only non asexual poster coming back to this thread time and time again to try and ridicule others lived experience. Take a look at yourself.

but a poster on here who is adamant they are asexual is on another thread talking about their first orgasm in their twenties

You’ve gone searching into users’ sex lives to try and prove what you think is correct? This isn’t normal behaviour @Vegrocks

You sound like some kind of weird gay conversion therapy proponent

But we aren’t talking about sexuality are we.

we are talking about a made up issue!

I’ve reported you Veg Rocks as that’s offensive. I don’t engage with people like you.

www.medicalnewstoday.com/articles/327272

How bizarre

Sex drive and sexuality are different. Do all straight people have the same sex drive? No. Do all gay people have the same sex drive? No. Do all asexual people have the same sex drive? No. Sex drive does not define sexuality.

sorry, I have no idea, this is not my experience, or the experience of anyone else I know about, its a different type of asexual that wrote that, and I don't know any like that

hello fellow ace!

Yes, this highlights again how important awareness is.

WE can really mess up ourselves and other people trying to fit into a mold that we are never ever going to fit into

Hi! that is where this account came from, I see now- well, as an asexual myself, you have taught me something about others who are similar, but not quite the same, so thank you for your contribution