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I'm in a polyamorous relationship (MFM) AMA

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BubblestarUK · 17/02/2023 22:26

Just that really, I'm in a polyamorous relationship with two men, when I meet people in real life they always want to ask me questions so I thought I'd cast the net a bit wider and open the floor on the web :)

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BubblestarUK · 17/02/2023 23:23

Both partners bring different things to the table, they both have their strengths and we make the best of what we have.

Recommendation wise I'd say that's up to each and every person, everyone is different.

No I'd not like to visit a naked place, mainly because I'm very wobbly in places, I don't even like looking at naked me

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BubblestarUK · 17/02/2023 23:24

"And oh yes - I would have hated my mum having a man (any man and even just one! )...

I was upset when my parents got divorced when I was 8. At 15 I was thanking my mum for the divorce AND for not introducing anyone new into our home. I honestly would have been seething, difficult and argumentative to live with over the annoyance of some "old" bloke hanging around."

I'm really sorry you went through a tough time. I hope your happier now x

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ChilliBandit · 17/02/2023 23:25

Butchyrestingface · 17/02/2023 23:17

Antiques Roadshow?

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😂😂 - it was one episode in a US crime type show, I can picture some of the scenes vaguely it in my head but I’ve googled for the last 10 minutes and can’t for the life of me work out what it was. It wasn’t specifically a show about polyamory, just this one episode. I just remember it was 2 men and a woman, they worked shifts, doctors I think, had a house they all lived in with kids but also a separate annex type thing. One of them goes missing/commits a murder or something like that! OPs post just brought it up in the back of my mind as the situation was so similar, minus the crime element (I hope).

Hawkins003 · 17/02/2023 23:25

ChilliBandit · 17/02/2023 22:55

This is ringing bells in the back of my head somewhere. I am sure I have seen an episode of a TV show with this exact set up down to the meeting as teenagers, the woman and one man being married, shift work and separate flat for sleeping sometimes. I can’t for the life of me remember which show it was.

How about in your memory that you fabricated to indirectly say the thread is bs, just because it does not seem possible in your view, heaven forbid people have different lifestyles

BrilliantUsername · 17/02/2023 23:25

If your husband left, would you marry the third? And then would you still look for a boyfriend?

altmember · 17/02/2023 23:26

With a partner either side of you, if you need to fart in bed, which way do you turn?

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BubblestarUK · 17/02/2023 23:27

I've never met anyone judgemental face to face, though it's possible they are trying to be polite. Again, I don't know I'm afraid.

Our nearest and dearest accept our set-up, and are supportive. That's all we ask.

This isn't our first poly relationship, our previous one lasted 10 years, just under. That partner never moved in, and that was more of an emotional relationship, more watching tv with someone to put your feet on.

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ChilliBandit · 17/02/2023 23:28

Hawkins003 · 17/02/2023 23:25

How about in your memory that you fabricated to indirectly say the thread is bs, just because it does not seem possible in your view, heaven forbid people have different lifestyles

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Erm… ok but no. I am happy to call a spade a spade when I want to, or you know, just report. I am well aware people have different lifestyles thanks.

Highdaysandholidays1 · 17/02/2023 23:28

I don't see why this is so hard to believe. If 50% of marriages end in divorce, and many of the rest are beset with infidelity and discontent, I guess this is one solution. It wouldn't be one for me, I can't find one nice man right now, let alone two. My guess is that without the new man, the marriage would have struggled or been over and this is a way to preserve it at least for the time being. I'm sure the children do have questions though, how are they going to get those answered? Also, I guess people do have questions when they come over, they are just too polite to mention it (very British).

I don't see this as intrinsically wrong though, or more likely to cause problems than one-to-one marriage between two partners, that seems quite difficult and stressful for the children as well. Plus when your parents divorce, they then get new partners and that's stressful for children. I don't see it as particularly more stressful if they move in- having your mum's new boyfriend hanging around in his underpants is awful full stop. I know.

RamsayEaster · 17/02/2023 23:29

I can’t believe your children are ok with this
It’s wrong on so many levels
What an environment to raise two children

I don’t doubt they are loved and well looked after

But no just now

Xol · 17/02/2023 23:30

If you need to get up during the night, do you have to climb over one of them?

How would you feel if one of them wanted to move another woman in, to make it four in the bed?

letthemalldoone · 17/02/2023 23:31

altmember · 17/02/2023 23:26

With a partner either side of you, if you need to fart in bed, which way do you turn?

😂😅😜

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BubblestarUK · 17/02/2023 23:31

No criminal element here, though I pinched a bunch of bananas on accident a few years ago, eldest is adamant I'm in the 10 most wanted police pics.

If husband left, we divorced etc, I wouldn't remarry anytime soon; I'd want everything to settle and for the children to be ok before I'd consider my wants.

No I wouldn't want to bring anyone else in if that happened. I'm exclusive, I love the partners I have.

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Hawkins003 · 17/02/2023 23:33

ChilliBandit · 17/02/2023 23:28

Erm… ok but no. I am happy to call a spade a spade when I want to, or you know, just report. I am well aware people have different lifestyles thanks.

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Well your post came across more mocking than anything else.

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BubblestarUK · 17/02/2023 23:34

I try really hard not to fart in bed, I always worry I'd Dutch oven the pair of them! But if I had to make a choice I guess I'd lie on my back?? 😂

No, no other partners would be introduced or bought in, if this doesn't work, then separate paths would be discussed.

And no underpants posers here, PJs at minimum, respect the people in the house

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ChilliBandit · 17/02/2023 23:34

@Hawkins003 - well I don’t know what to tell you other than your perception is wrong.

Lentilweaver · 17/02/2023 23:35

Do either or both of them snore?

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BubblestarUK · 17/02/2023 23:36

I think everyone snores at some point, but we ask them to roll over if they do.

If I need to get out of bed in the night I slide down and out.

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BubblestarUK · 17/02/2023 23:38

I just want to say thank you for the genuine questions and levels of understanding from most posters here, thank you. It's nice to see there are accepting people sat behind their keyboards sometimes

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KEG973 · 17/02/2023 23:39

No it didn’t you just jumped down their throat for no reason

CaraVann · 17/02/2023 23:42

What do you get from a threesome relationship that a twosome can’t offer? I love my dh dearly but the thought of another male in my romantic life would do my nut in. I like my space (both in bed and outside of it).

Lentilweaver · 17/02/2023 23:43

Not sure if this is real, but even if it is, I find it difficult to care how other people bring up their DC, so I have no opinion on your DC.
I personally find one man difficult enough, let alone two, especially now I am menopausal. But it would be nice to have someone else do the cooking sometimes.

FlissyPaps · 17/02/2023 23:43

Why are you allowed a boyfriend but if your husband wanted to introduce a girlfriend you’d end it?

No offence but this all seems very one sided.

Goodread1 · 17/02/2023 23:43

Hi Op

Is one partner a bit/somewhat more sexually adventurous than the other one?

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Well exploring more things

QueenCamilla · 17/02/2023 23:43

It's strange that you wouldn't know what cuckold fetish is with your kind of set up! It's when the main partner gets off on being humiliated by another man "doing" his wife/girlfriend. Cuckolds often like to watch.

How many times a week do you have sex/ sexual activity?

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