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I'm in a polyamorous relationship (MFM) AMA

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BubblestarUK · 17/02/2023 22:26

Just that really, I'm in a polyamorous relationship with two men, when I meet people in real life they always want to ask me questions so I thought I'd cast the net a bit wider and open the floor on the web :)

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BubblestarUK · 17/02/2023 23:07

no idea what ND means I'm afraid.
Sorry.

If they wanted another partner, either of them, then we'd go our separate ways, the three of us are exclusive.

If, for example, my husband wanted to move on with someone else id respect him, but yes, if he moved on, the children would be introduced gradually after it was obvious that it would be a long term thing for him,

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BubblestarUK · 17/02/2023 23:09

Third is not on the deeds no, we are planning to move to a bigger property in autumn and will discuss all that then.

Sleeping in the middle is tricky, but I have a small shelf above me with phone charger, water, etc

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BrutusMcDogface · 17/02/2023 23:10

There was a BBC programme called Trigonometry about a thrupple. They were all young people; two women and one man. They all shagged eachother. It was fascinating.

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BubblestarUK · 17/02/2023 23:11

Protection, gotcha, sorry, not heard that term before today. No, we don't. Husband and I both sterilised and I requested that the third have a full screening before being intimate with me.

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Bagsundermyeyestoday · 17/02/2023 23:11

Commonsensitivity · 17/02/2023 22:43

How can you be arsed with 2 men?

I thought this too 🤣 but it sounds like they both do alot of housework so I think good on you OP! You have two unicorns it seems!

Choufleuretbattenberg · 17/02/2023 23:11

I want to believe this. It sounds wonderful. However, I have a 14 year old, I work with teens and I know, hand on heart, that not one teen would be 100% ok with this. Even if it was "I don't like the new man because he drinks all the milk/
Smells funny/wears ugly jumpers" it would be more typical. Realistically it would be "mums not actually fucking him? 🤮🤮🤮"
The post doesn't ring true of someone who has met a teen.

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BubblestarUK · 17/02/2023 23:12

Children go to school, clubs and activities etc

No jealousy, I ask occasionally just to be sure, and I'm assured not,

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BrilliantUsername · 17/02/2023 23:12

Which one is better in bed?

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BubblestarUK · 17/02/2023 23:13

"I want to believe this. It sounds wonderful. However, I have a 14 year old, I work with teens and I know, hand on heart, that not one teen would be 100% ok with this. Even if it was "I don't like the new man because he drinks all the milk/
Smells funny/wears ugly jumpers" it would be more typical. Realistically it would be "mums not actually fucking him? 🤮🤮🤮"
The post doesn't ring true of someone who has met a teen."

The most complaint I've heard is that he bought the wrong bread once,

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BubblestarUK · 17/02/2023 23:14

When people visit, friends and such of the children, they don't ask anything! They are more interested in Netflix and pizza

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QueenCamilla · 17/02/2023 23:15

Is your husband a cuckold fetishist?

Sharing the bed with two other people though... And in the middle?
I'm here by myself, spreading on my king-size bed and grateful for every single day that this mattress is all mine.

Youpillock · 17/02/2023 23:16

ND is neuro diverse.

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BubblestarUK · 17/02/2023 23:16

"Is your husband a cuckold fetishist?"

No idea, what is that?

"Sharing the bed with two other people though... And in the middle?
I'm here by myself, spreading on my king-size bed and grateful for every single day that this mattress is all mine."

I find it comforting. Although it can get tough if they start snoring

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Butchyrestingface · 17/02/2023 23:17

ChilliBandit · 17/02/2023 22:55

This is ringing bells in the back of my head somewhere. I am sure I have seen an episode of a TV show with this exact set up down to the meeting as teenagers, the woman and one man being married, shift work and separate flat for sleeping sometimes. I can’t for the life of me remember which show it was.

Antiques Roadshow?

Youpillock · 17/02/2023 23:17

QueenCamilla · 17/02/2023 23:15

Is your husband a cuckold fetishist?

Sharing the bed with two other people though... And in the middle?
I'm here by myself, spreading on my king-size bed and grateful for every single day that this mattress is all mine.

God, me too. Trapped in a double bed with a single shoved next to me and a body on either side would have me running for the hills.

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BubblestarUK · 17/02/2023 23:18

Neurodiverse, as in mental health issues? Another word I've not heard before today, I'm learning more than anyone 😁

I have bipolar, one of the other two has ADHD

Does that help?

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DistrictCommissioner · 17/02/2023 23:18

Had a friend when I was a kid whose parents had some sort of set up like this, mum, dad & their best friend. We discussed it endlessly when we were teens.

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Lochjeda · 17/02/2023 23:19

What was missing in your marriage when it was just the two of you that made you feel the need to add another person to the mix? Do you have a higher sex drive than your husband?

SuperTrooper7 · 17/02/2023 23:19

Do you enjoy the attention? (From everyone else).

ChilliBandit · 17/02/2023 23:19

So it’s all sunshine and roses? There is not one downside?

And your children are just fine with it? A random man being moved into their home and sharing a bed with their mum and dad? Hmmm…

Goodread1 · 17/02/2023 23:20

Hi Op

Wold you ever be adventurous to

vist a naturists club or resort with. Both or either partners?

Which partner would you prefer spending time with then and why?
Would you recommend this kind of relationship and why?

What made you want to enter into polygamous type of relationship in the first of then?
Are some or few people very judgemental of you and your partners?
Or
Do you keep this to yourselves and are under the radar unofficial unconventional relantship?
Looks to outsider's like a platonic best of buddies type of thing?

Goldandpurplezebra · 17/02/2023 23:20

No ND does not mean mental health issues. It means Neurodivergent: autistic, ADHD, dyslexic, dyspraxic etc.

I think some people are wired not to be jealous which your husband seems to not be.

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BubblestarUK · 17/02/2023 23:20

Missing in the marriage, I do enjoy dates, romance, just the typical stuff that a lot of people enjoy in the right company,

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QueenCamilla · 17/02/2023 23:22

And oh yes - I would have hated my mum having a man (any man and even just one! )...

I was upset when my parents got divorced when I was 8. At 15 I was thanking my mum for the divorce AND for not introducing anyone new into our home. I honestly would have been seething, difficult and argumentative to live with over the annoyance of some "old" bloke hanging around.

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