I'm in a polyamorous relationship (MFM) AMA

[BubblestarUK]

Just that really, I'm in a polyamorous relationship with two men, when I meet people in real life they always want to ask me questions so I thought I'd cast the net a bit wider and open the floor on the web :)

Thank you for that life lesson. I’m pretty open minded (have been a very naughty girl in my time 🙂). As for needing to chill I have been told if I’m any more laid back I’ll fall over 😉

There was another poster on a thread with a similar subject matter recently who said that living in a set up like this really messed her and her siblings up. They always felt what they wanted was secondary to the concerns of all the adults around them. I sincerely hope that wouldn’t be the case here, I hope the children are as ok with it all as the OP says.

I have a question.

Why did you move him in?

I 100% understand and respect freedom and individuality in regards to sex lives and relationships. But I’m saying that, when it comes to living with children you have a responsibility to them first as you agree.

If I broke up with DP (my kids dad), then of course eventually I’d date again. But regardless of whether I dated 1 man or 10 men at a time, I wouldn’t mix my child in with that unless there were waaay more pros to them as a child living that person than there was as the status quo of just me and them.

As you already live with a husband and children so have support and 2 parents. Why did you move in your boyfriend too?
Wouldnt it not be easier emotionally and practically to just not mix your boyfriend in with your children and see them outside the home? Especially as your DH and DP aren’t dating each other.

That way your kids still have both mum and dad and the traditional set up with no stigma or confusion so no risks there, plus you get to have your boyfriend as well as husband.

I support your freedom to date who you please and how many you want, but why move them into the home?

How common are these types of relationships ?

I get all this, but I have a problem with Christmas.

Do you get twice as many 'main' Christmas presents or do they go halves?
Who do you pull the cracker with or do you take it in turns each year and try to remember from year to year?
What about the wishbone?

Why would any of those things be affected by having an extra adult vs a more traditional family set up?

We don't really do "main" presents as adults, unless there's something big someone wants. Actually if someone wants something big it's the only present they get. Or more than 1 of us pool our money if its over budget.
Pull the cracker with who ever you want. Unless there's only 2 people at the table then there's an element of 'who do I pull it with"
Likewise the wish bone. If you even do that.

@MillicentTrilbyHiggins Do you ever do humour?

In real life? Yep. I can't always "read" it online though. Sorry