I'm in a polyamorous relationship (MFM) AMA

[BubblestarUK]

Just that really, I'm in a polyamorous relationship with two men, when I meet people in real life they always want to ask me questions so I thought I'd cast the net a bit wider and open the floor on the web :)

How edgy are you.

Nah, kids must be ecstatic. I wonder if they’ve both got pr. I can just imagine in the playground ‘is that your uncle Barry’? ‘No, it’s my mums boyfriend’. ‘Oh, I didn’t know your parents had split up’. ‘They haven’t. He just does the dishes and shags my mum when my dads on a night shift’. (Or actually in front of him, the op won’t tell us). 🙄

Is the boyfriend a step dad to your kids?

How does he financially contribute to the household?

I don't think our children have every asked me actually, not to my recollection,

My husband seems happy, and I'd like to think he'd tell me if he wasn't. He's not really a passionate, dates and romance fellow, but the third is, maybe he's relived that I can enjoy romance without him having to force himself to do it? I don't know, you'd be best if asking him.

And I'd love to know the name of that show, see how similar it is and how it's portrayed

Are you fluid bonded to the second man?

Fluid bonded? As in related?? No! 😂

The third pays a third into our joint account for mortgage, bills and food, same as us other two do,

If your husband asked you to dump your boyfriend would you?

So you have no idea what your husband or children actually think about your fuck buddy moving in?

If my husband said he wasn't happy and wanted it to end, I'd probably respect his wishes, it'd be sad, but I'd put our marriage and him being the children's father as first priority.

Are you all or any of you ND?

Would you be okay with either of your men getting a girlfriend and inviting her into your lives/bed/home/kids lives?

@Ihatethenewlook 🤣🤣

My children would go fucking ballistic if I casually tried to just add another man in to our family and we all started sharing a bed. Do you live in the UK?

How would you feel about to your husband having a girl friend?

😂

Not to your recollection????

Christ that doesn't say much about how much you think about your children.

"So you have no idea what your husband or children actually think about your fuck buddy moving in?"

Well my husband has no issue, we communicate pretty often and honestly.

The children, as I said, seem happy with it. I think I asked the eldest how they felt last year and they said something along the lines of "does this mean someone else will do the recycling?"

Hope that helps

How do you actually sleep? I know it sounds like a small thing, but I can't imagine being able to sleep when there's two other people in the bed (I can't sleep very well with only one other, but eventually I manage!) - where do you keep your stuff if you're in the middle of the bed? How do you get to your water and so on at night? How do you read when the others have the lights out? How do you get out for a wee? Sorry if this is intrusive, I'm just trying to imagine how the person in the middle could actually get a night's sleep out of this.

Is there any jealousy?

You said when the children are not in the house. Where do they go?

Fluid bonded is a term for not using protection such as condoms

Is the third on the deeds of the house?