My husband is trans ftm AMA

[WhatOnFuckingEarth]

That’s about it. My husband is a heterosexual trans man and I’m a heterosexual cisgendered woman. We have two kids conceived via IVF (aged 2.5 months and 2 years). He is 5 years on testosterone and 8 years post double mastectomy, 3 years post phalloplasty, 2 years post final genital surgery.

@CuriousaboutSamphire

Oh Hooves! Can we not refer to men by their unique bodily functions and organs??

Then we'll stop calling women cervix havers and menstruaters shall we?

Good!

Sorry, you've lost me. When did I?

All the very best to you and your husband OP.

Interesting thread, OP. Thanks for starting it.

Have to say, I struggled with understanding how I feel around trans issues. I’m liberal and very much live-and-let-live but I find a lot of vocal trans people difficult to understand and do feel like some are trying to erode women. Your husband sounds nothing like them, so good to hear a different approach, and your perspective.

I’m afraid my questions is around sex too, sorry. Obviously, don’t feel you have to answer.

I was saddened to hear that your husband gave up sexual pleasure in favour of having an ersatz penis. Do you think this will impact how you teach your children about sex and relationships? I know it’s usually explained to children/adolescents in an age-appropriate manner as a fun activity for two people who like/love each other to give and receive pleasure, but your dynamic is very different. I know you’re obviously not going to give them the ins and outs of your sex life, but has this changed how you view sex, or your own personal definition?

Personally, the thoughts of being penetrated by someone who got no physical pleasure whatsoever from it would be something I’d struggle with.

hooves keep up. I posted the term prostate list. A list that all men and no women are on, just as there are no men on the cervix havers list.

You didn't understand and chose to try and 'correct' me, and another poster, by pointing out that the NHS has no such list!

You misunderstood... That's all!

Bollocks- the OP has gone and no one has asked the questions I want to know:

Is peeing standing up as useful as I think it must be?

More seriously- has he noticed lots of differences in how men act when there are no women around? Do they actually start talking about kittens and whether their arse looks big in those jeans, or is it just that they swear more (I know they do)?

If you are still reading @WhatOnFuckingEarth, thank you for sharing and sorry about your mum

@WhatOnFuckingEarth thanks for answering so many questions. I wish you and your DH lots of happiness and I'm sorry arseholes derailed your thread to push their own agenda.

@JaJaDingDong

And men of course. Off the prostate list and what happens next?

Or wasting precious NHS resources by being offered prostrate screening when you don't actually have one because you are a woman who takes testosterone.

Sorry Samphire I still don't understand.

This was the post I replied to and said what's a prostate list and we don't have a prostate screening programme.

You then told me

Oh Hooves! Can we not refer to men by their unique bodily functions and organs??

Then we'll stop calling women cervix havers and menstruaters shall we?

Good!